So, how do you make sure your girl stays faithful amongst all these forces trying to pull her away from you?

Let’s face it: 90% of her guys friends would fuck her if they had the chance (but this discussion is for another time)…

Before we get into the structure of how to keep her faithful, I want to tell you the number one thing you have to grasp before we get into anything: keeping her faithful all starts internally. 

This means that you have to create a mindset that your girl will stay faithful. If you think otherwise (in your head), it will transgress and influence your body language and your behavior around her – you will act needy, talk needy, and generally be needy. And, remember, neediness is the #1 thing that detracts any (if not all) attraction that your girl has for you.

Anyway, the primary thing to keep in mind is you cannot worry if she’s going to cheat or not, because the more you worry about it the more likely hood that she will cheat on you.

How To Keep Her Faithful

The best way to do this is to make her understand that you are the only man in her life, the guy that makes her feel the happiest, and that you’re also too great of a guy to cheat on. Yes, there are other men out there who give her things and make her laugh, but at the end of the day, she only wants to be with you. So, fuck those other guys.

How do you keep her happy and make it known you’re too great of a guy to cheat on?

By being the guy she first met (that’s why she’s with you… right?). So, keep being yourself. Understand that doubting your girl’s faithfulness stems from insecurity. You need not be jealous or wary because you are “THE MAN.” Once you get that in your head, the situation will be better. However, “trust issues” are sometimes normal and can be remedied by following three guidelines.

1) Give her the time she deserves (you’re together… aren’t you?) 2) Make it extremely clear to her that if she does cheat that you will no longer be with her 3) You both should have open communicate to express how your relationship works

Number II is very important because most guys have struggles leaving a girl they really, really like if she cheats on them. But, you have to make it very important to push through if she does.

In addition, here are some other tips to remind your girl that you’re too good of a guy to cheat on:

i) Keep surrounding yourself with hot girls who find you attractive. The idea is that you are a “wanted” man. Because other girls want you, she’ll want you even more (keep you/doesn’t want to let you go).

ii) Continue doing the things you’ve done over your past interactions with her because, again, she’s with you for you. And, if you change this in anyway then you’ll lose her.

iii) Give her space! Every girl needs space and if you’re too clingy, she has more of a reason to want to break free from your grip and fall into another guy’s arms (behind your back). Give her space and make her miss you. However, if you’re too distant, you’ll push her into another guys arms. Remedy this by giving her the space she needs, but letting her know that you’re there for her when she wants or needs you, which ties into the next tip…

iv) Communicate. This can’t be stressed enough. If you both can communicate your needs and wants, then she’ll get a better understanding of who you are and what your guidelines are when it comes to relationships.

v) Stay faithful yourself. If you don’t want her to cheat on you, then don’t cheat on her. It’s really that simple.

Ending Notes:

I’m not going to lie and say that if you follow my advice, your girl won’t cheat. All I know is that doing the aforementioned suggestions above will make it less likely she will even want to cheat. Some girls are just cheaters and there is rarely something (if anything) you can do to keep them faithful. But, if she is a cheater, you need to stay strong and force yourself to get out of the situation and dump her right away.

There are no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it, and you should always be making this very clear when talking to her.

You don’t deserve some fucking cheater. You deserve better.

It Begins

I was working on a mayoral campaign in San Francisco and was headed to a debate.

The story begins when I entered into the auditorium room and sat next to a hot girl. Not cute hot or stuck up hot, more like aloof-hot. She had nice dark hair, smelled like strawberries, and was apparently bored.

I learned in the beginning that a few college students were attending the debate for extra credit. Knowing this and looking at her, I knew what I had to do… I had to hit on her!

This was a challenge sent by the heavens to see if I had enough game to get her number without getting myself or her in trouble. The room was filled with watchful eyes and if either of us moved our mouths, I know for sure we’d be doomed. I had to get her number without saying a word.

But How? What to do?!

I stripped and folded out a piece of paper and wrote:

And, threw it on her lap…

Are You Ready!?

We find it very useful to start with something shocking and questionable. Our minds are innately curious and therefore, her subconscious would be so inclined to proceed to flip the paper.

1. This works because of her non stuck-up, aloof vibe. This means that she is prone to be more playful than crumple the paper. There are different scenarios for different people.

2. She probably thought ‘WTF?!’ she probably gets hit on by demanding direct alpha-male toolbags all the time. This tactic is perfect: non-threatening, indirect, different, and a tad funny. Though a fan of both direct and indirect approaching, the latter is better when you know you’ll be in an uncomfortable location, with her, for a long time.

She turns the paper…

1. Starting with Tic Tac Toe

By drawing 4 lines and an ‘X’ on the corner box is an easy start. Games are fun, not only because she is able to participate but also she is also being challenged. Girls love men who can playfully-challenge them. It’s an adrenaline rush.

2. The Rapport

The girl’s first move was putting the circle in the middle. It didn’t really bother me because frankly, I didn’t care about the tic tac toe game. It was just bait. So what if it would be a cat’s game? It’s like meeting a girl at a museum… the pictures are irrelevant. I proceed to complain about her putting the circle in the middle (being ‘playful’). She of course is entertained about this ‘cuteness.’

Then, I talk about the guy who smells.

Why?

It’s good to talk and joke about the men who surround you (except your wingmen). This shows you’re cooler than the other chumps (do it sparingly; you can only go so far with it before you seem insecure).

The

‘P.S. Be Sly. Boss Watching.’

comment makes our interaction more valuable. It tells her that this is risky business. There is always a greater emotional investment when you’re a part of something that could be lost.

The next paper:

Any other time-engaging ideas!?

Always thank them when they do things you like. It’s simple positive reinforcement. For example, she feels better about herself for playing along. And, it’s the opposite when she does something you don’t like: I BOO her for not coming up with things.

(LOL NP. I’m not good at coming up w/ things :\)

Remember, the point is for you to challenge her. If you don’t challenge her then there is no real-investment to the situation. I certainly don’t want to think of everything, come up with everything, and be her constant mode of entertainment. I AM NOT A CIRCUS ANIMAL! Circus animals become pets (friend zoned). This is what we call, “back scratching.”

I want to be entertained by HER as well.

Listen, I don’t want her to tell me what to do, I just want her to be able to think on her own. I want to make sure that if she’s in a dark room that she can find her way out.

NOOOO!

The other text is irrelevant. What matters is I’m pushing the fact that she has yet to think of something to do. Again, I’m testing her as much as she’s testing me. She’s wondering how far I will break and see if I’m the type of guy that will bend over backwards for her. I’m not.

3 Facts

I really wrote 5. Why? Because it catches them off guard and it’s playful. Hence the ‘hahas’ and the emoticons.

Jesse, how does this tie into the challenging part?

See, most guys will tease a girl about something for too long. They keep pressing her to do something she is unwilling to do. In this case, this girl is unwilling to do something impressive/creative. I decided that I’ll go about it in a different way and asked her questions which she answered.

Questions:

1. When do you bounce out of here?

Until it end -_ -

I asked this question because it gives me an estimated time of when to ask for the number. You want to ask for her number before she leaves, but enough room where you both can still interact. It’s never good to get the phone number and then leave. It says that you only wanted her phone number and not her company.

2. Why are you here, then?

Political class. For a project

3. BIG QUESTION -

Random Much?

Favorite Color?

- Purple!

Favorite Hobby?

- Shopping Duh? Hahah

So far we’ve had enough rapport back and forth that it’s time to ask questions. When a man (who is hitting on you) is asking a girl questions right away, he is really projecting the “Will you sleep with me?” question. This usually prompts the girl to say: ‘Why are you asking?’ ‘Why do you want to know?’ And, it defunks your groove.

This is why we like to ask questions in the middle of the conversation. She will be ready and willing to answer because we’re comfortable with each other.

Hell Yes => Random

Always stick to your guns. Most guys try to change their opinions based on what she likes – DON’T!

This is why it’s awesome

(being random) -

like I said you’re pretty awesome to participate!

you’re welcome

I remind her that we wouldn’t be doing this awesome thing if I wasn’t random. This makes her define ‘awesome’ as me. Then, I thank her for participating. Remember, positive reinforcement is a great thing because not only are you both comfortable, but she knows what makes you happy.

SHOPPING!? mmm. what about tennis? golf? sports?

yes shopping. I play, well I can play every sport. but I just suck badly.

Bingo. This is a big step because this comment alone tells me that she wants me to like her. How? She tries to prove to me that she is capable of doing something that I like doing (tennis/being active). It’s what men usually do with girls, just the roles are reversed.

Last Two Questions:

1. Please draw a picture – in this box

She draws picture

HAHA YESSSS! You’re like my favorite person right now…

aww how nice

This is what we call “follow the leader.” Follow the leader is when you tell her to do something and if they like you/interested, they’ll do it. Remember be honest; I really liked the picture.

Shit- I must go soon – mmm – any last ideas

BTW my name is Shirley it was nice meeting you

It’s a good thing when they give out their name without you asking, especially when you haven’t given out yours. Why? It means they’re really interested in meeting with you in the future. So, I tore another piece of paper because I wanted to make sure it was clean enough for my next move:

Anyways before I go!

Finish:

( Her ) num - berr

The old finish or draw me a picture method of getting a girls number is what we call a lead-on. The directions are simple, just draw:

( ) -

Then, before you hand the paper to her, say or write something like, “Finish the drawing.” The lead-on is set. If the interaction went well she will gladly input her number. It’s fun.

Conclusion

I hope you learned that it is possible to get someone’s phone number without saying a word. The key components is to shock and awe, make her feel comfortable, challenge, provide positive reinforcement, honesty, rapport, and then be forward enough to ask for the number.

Remember, this was a longer experience than most because of the situation: we were sitting down in a 2 hour political forum. Therefore, this whole process was contributed to what we call as being indirect. It begins non-threatening and ends full circle with a positive result.

There are even situations when she does respond back briefly and then, after a few texts back and forth, she never texts you again. Well, this article is specifically directed to the guys that have this issue.

Why She Doesn’t Text Back

Ninety-nine percent of the time, the reason why she doesn’t text back is because you didn’t leave a good ending impression when you initially met her. The other one percent is because she lost her hand while sawing some wood for her random art project, or a family member of hers past away. Therefore, the key idea is to have a better final impression upon your first encounter.

The Final Impression

The final impression is the lasting effect that you’ve left a girl with after your first encounter. Ultimately, you want to make sure she understands that you have every intention of meeting up with her again. If she doesn’t reciprocate by showing similar interest, then you know that texting her later will be a waste of time. So here are a few suggestions to make sure you leave KNOWING that she will likely contact you again:

1. Include in your approach the location and the activity that you’d both engage in. It’s okay if you’re winging it because the intention of your suggested activities is to gauge her interest in you when you interpret her reaction. She will do one of two things. First, she may show interest or clarify your terms by repeating what you’re both going to do. Second, she may react emotionally and display this emotion, indicating that she is interested in hanging out with you.

Here’s an example:

You: It was nice meeting you, I’ve got to go but this Friday I’m going to text you and we’re going to do Ben & Jerry’s ice cream parlor as our little date. It’s going to be fun.

Her: When you text me, are you then going to pick me up?

You: Wait for the text and you’ll see

Her: Okay.

You: *hugs her* Text soon.

2. If you don’t like the idea of telling her an exact location or activity (or if you’re not very quick on your feet), you can opt to text her right after you leave. If she brought out her phone to get your number and for you to get hers, shouldn’t she respond to your text right after the approach if she liked you?

The answer to this question is yes.

It may not be right away, but she should respond by the following day (if not during the same day). However, if she’s too slow to text then you should know within yourself that it would be a waste of time to invest your energy to worry about texting her or not. Here is an example text for this suggestion:

You: You were cute and fun to talk to, we’ll do it again in a little bit.

Her: It was nice meeting you too

(girls are big fans of the emoticons) 

Perfect! Because she responded, you know that she’s at least interested and she’ll be down to start a text conversation.

Your Texts Are Going Nowhere

If you’re texting back and forth and then suddenly, she stops. No longer are you receiving funny texts, emoticons, just… complete. silence. You even text like five messages and even then she’s not texting back!

Calm down.

You’re going to be okay.

The usual reason why this happens is because you’re texts were going nowhere. Yes, it’s always great to have a fun conversation back and forth during text but the point of texting (or just communication outside of real life in general) is to see her in REAL LIFE.

Girls get bored when the conversations don’t lead anywhere besides a “ha ha” or an “LOL.” Over time, it just seems pathetic and you just become another guy who texts her on a whim. Therefore, it is crucial that within the two weeks you start texting that you setup a time and place to go on a date with her.

Make it very explicit in your text message that you want to hang out.

You: You said you were free Friday, so let’s distract each other for a bit and go to x,y,z, I wanted to try it out.

Her: I don’t know…

You: Texting is fine, but a real life interaction would be even more fun. Besides, smiles are always better in person.

Of course the conversation won’t go exactly like that, but what I want you to see here is that you’re always keeping the idea in your head that YOU ARE GOING TO SEE HER IN REAL LIFE. Please stop hiding behind your phone, contemplating the next witty thing to say… stop.

You are a man, right?

Take a chance, take a risk, and make it apparent that a real life interaction is so much better than a texting one.

You got this player, and remember:

“High Risk equals High Reward.”

I remember back when I first started leaving voice messages; I would stutter and often times just hang up the phone hoping she would see the “missed call” and call me back (which rarely happened).

Now, what I’m about tell you are statements I’ve used that have worked a huge percentage of the time. I understand our method is to side step any pre-conceived pick up lines, so I ask that you take what I’m about to tell you as guidelines for your next voice messages. Remember, no one knows you better than yourself, so leave a voice message that pertains to your own creativity and voice.

But, before we go into these statements, let’s go through why leaving a voice message is important.

Why Leaving A Voicemail Message Is Important

1. Most guys don’t leave voice messages, so this will make you stand out from the rest.

2. You’re putting yourself in a vulnerable situation because you’re doing something where she is the one who decides whether to call you back or not. But, by leaving a strong message, you’re basically saying that “I’m not here to play games” & “I’m confident that you will call me back.”

3. If the voice message is memorable / funny / awesome, there is a high chance she’ll save it on her phone. You don’t know how many girls I’ve been with who have told me that they still keep my voice message and listen to it when they need a quick laugh.

4. It’s fun to do for yourself because you have free rein to be as creative as you want with your voice message. And, there is absolutely no one stopping you or halting your conversation during the voice message.

Now that you understand why it’s important, there are also a few things you must remember before we get into these statements. I want you to make sure that you’re not just saying these lines just to say them; you need to say them with passion and a whole range of different tonalities.

Remember These Things While The Phone Is Ringing

Smile

She can’t see your face when you’re calling, but when you smile it will reflect in your tone of voice. If you call and you sound like a sad depressed ogre, then that’s the vision she’ll have in her head. And, if you’re having issues smiling, watch a funny clip on the internet that makes you laugh and then call her right then and there.

Practice Your Speech

If you stutter or slur your words, then start practicing how you speak. My favorite exercise is to read out loud in front of a mirror for 15 minutes a day. You may look like a dummy, but in the long run it’ll help you with your articulation.

Learn To Pause

Sometimes the greatest way to pull someone in to your voice is by pausing. What do I mean? As you’re talking, pause for a brief second during your sentence and then continue. The pause creates a sense of curiosity for the person listening, and they’re more likely to want to hear more.

Try it yourself by recording a fake voice message and listen to how pausing helps.

Lastly, if you want to practice the above steps, it’s crucial to record yourself and re-listen to see if the voice message is clear, articulate, fun, and enticing.

The Best Voicemails To Leave On A Girl’s Phone

If It’s Late & You Want To See Her

“Hey *Girl’s Name,* it’s Jesse (pause). I’m calling you at this late hour because (pause) something reminded me of you, it’s just… what I do (smile). Give me a call at 555-555-5555, talk to you soon” 

The line, “something reminded me of you,” can get her curiosity boiling.

“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. Most guys call at this late hour because they think you’re a booty call (pause). Don’t worry, I can relate (or insert your own joke here and laugh). Call me back at 555-555-5555 to talk things through.”

This one is just more fun. And, yes you can be very creative with your joke here: make it up and improv your line that you want to use.

“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. I’m not drunk right now. Period. Give me call…”

This is something I use a lot because I find it very funny.

Calling To Plan A Date (or just met)

“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. Let’s go out this weekend, I have some free time to *do what you said you were going to do when you first met.* Call me at 777-777-7777

Again, you’re reminding her of something you said you were going to do with her when you first met. This is reconfirming that you’re thinking of her and you were actually listening to her when you first met.

“Hey *Girl’s Name*, I’m sitting on the toilet as I’m calling you. Give me a call back”

“Hey *Girl’s Name*, *make your own joke here as well*” 

Do you understand the dynamic here? The point of the voice message is to be creative with what you’re going to say and make sure you understand a few points: i) make it seem like you were thinking of her (it makes her feel special) ii) say things about your past conversations so she knows you were listening to her iii) there is a reason why you’re calling her… usually to hang out in real life. 

Ending Notes

Remember, the reason why you leave voice messages is so she calls you back. If she doesn’t, then at least you don’t have to worry about calling her again; it’s not ambiguous. But, if she does call back, it means there is a higher probability that she wants to see you again. This weeds out the girls who don’t mesh well with you (saving time).

There is no need to call her again because the ball is in her court. Be patient and use the extra time to pick up other girls.

Now, when she does call you back, don’t forget to read this article on what to say over the phone.

It’s time you get yourself together and just start calling.

You got this.

In this part we’re going to go over:

Buying Drinks & Moving Around The Club

The old adage goes, “you should never buy a girl a drink.” This is not necessarily true because there are times where buying her a drink is the right thing to do. However, you don’t want to be like those chumps who buy bottle service and comp girls just because they’re hot and then get nothing in return. And, when I mean nothing, I mean not even a handjob.

Besides, you don’t want girls to give you sexual action just because you gave them a drink; they’re called gold-diggers and not the best type of girls to be around.

There are a few ways to handle girls who ask or hint for a free drink.

Her: I’m drinking an iced vodka.

You: I’ll only buy you a drink if you make-out with me first.

The many times we’ve said this line the girl on the other end either laughs, likes your confidence and starts rapport, and in the best scenario starts making out with you. Now, just because she makes out with you doesn’t necessarily mean you have to buy her a drink.

You can then follow up with:

You: Nice. But how do I know you’re not into me just for the drink? Follow me, let’s get to know each other for a bit.

This is where you can lead her to the dance floor, a nearby lounge, the bathroom… and if she pushes you away, then at least you know she was just there for the drink.

Another line I like to use when it comes to drinks, is this:

You: How about you buy me a drink and I’ll buy you a drink as well?

Therefore, this shows how dynamically confident that you deserve a drink as well. The idea is to show the girl that you’re not going to be taken advantage of. Now, the drink you get her is totally up to you: you can get her a real drink or a glass of water… your choice.

The idea I want to hone down on is that everything you do, either be it picking up girls or everyday interactions, is to elicit some confident vibe: you should never be taken advantage because you have traits which stand out from the rest.

Moving Around The Club

I see too many guys going around the club with their heads facing down at the floor. They keep saying things like “Excuse me, sorry.” or “Umm Hi.” or even the dreaded “….”

Silence isn’t always a bad thing, but walking around the club with a pout or creepy face as you’re trying to look for some hot girl to approach is… well, needy and disgusting.

The best route to take is to have your neck up and your chest out. Confidence, remember to be confident that you belong in the club, that girls will find you attractive, and that you shouldn’t be pushed back… you got this player.

And, own the club and move forward like nothing is holding you back. These are a few lines I like to use while going through the club:

“Excuse me, there is a very cute girl over there that I need to talk to.” This line has not only gotten people to part ways but sometimes even helps me bring the girl closer to my direction.

“Excuse me, men coming through.” This line is a fun thing to say because it projects the dominant vibe you have over the club. Many times, I get girls to laugh and even head in my direction because of what I just said. Yes, sometimes the line works as a great opener.

“I’m moving around the club to look for my friends and a hot girl in the corner, but hold my hand for a second and dance with me.” When you move around the club with confidence, your eyes will be more attuned to your surroundings and you will bump into hot girls.

And, instead of just walking off, this is the perfect opportunity to approach them: telling them the truth that you seriously accidentally bumped into her.

Ending Notes

The point of this is not to give you specific lines to use all the time, as you know we’re not fond of pre-conceived pick up lines. However, these lines should be helpful to give you guidance on how you should be approaching these situations. And, of course, save you some money and dignity.

Don’t forget to leave your questions and comments below: especially on any issues you’re dealing with at the club 

Of course, there are also ways to get the girl to have sex with you in your car, public spaces, kitchen, in her parent’s house, etc., But that’s for another time or a future podcast. For now, we’re going to go into:

How To Get a Girl In Bed

The Pre-Plan

I think the best way to get the girl in bed is to invite her to your place before the date. If you’re in college, or if the girl has a car, tell the girl to go to your apartment. Then once she’s inside, give her a tour of your place. It is crucial in this time that you show her around: introduce her to your roommates, the kitchen, and of course a glimpse of your room.

It is very important that you show her your room before you even move her to your bed. You want her to feel comfortable in your room, so when she’s turned on, she knows where your room is and can deal with its atmosphere. You don’t want her to give you an out by saying, “wow this place is dirty.” Rather, if your room is dirty, she already knows and she can just focus on making out with you.

Clean your room and leave things out that show your personality: books, trophies, pictures of your family, etc.,

This method also works AFTER the date. Basically, the idea is BEFORE you make any sexual advances to the bedroom, it’s best to give a tour of your place. Then, you leave your room, talk, or do something productive. Then, once you start making out, bring her to your room… and make it happen.

But, to even get her to tour your place, you have to be able to invite her inside:

Getting Her Inside Your Place

This is where you need to be the most confident. You’re going to say things that will definitely suggest that sexual things will happen, but how do you do it where you don’t make her feel too easy? Of course, you can be direct; “Come inside, because we’re going to have sex.” I’ve found that this line is a very high risk, high reward line. If it works, you know she’s down. There is no need for a tour, because things will happen ASAP.

But, I have something that is almost always guaranteed to work. If the date went well, tell her you bought some groceries and invite her up to make and eat some dessert. It’s a great segway because it extends the date, it makes her comfortable, and it’s always fun to get to know someone over ice cream.

It doesn’t have to be ice cream- it can be bananas, for all god knows. Just make it explicit that you want to get to know her better, because you think she’s cool.

Many guys use the “watch a movie” bit. I personally don’t like this line, because a movie means she’ll be staying over for more than 2 hours. If she’s on a time crunch, she’ll make an excuse not to come in: a quick dessert/snack to talk more is always better.

What about her place?

Getting Yourself Into Her Place

If you’re dropping her off at her place, it’s crucial that you park the car / make the taxi cab stop a few blocks away from where she lives. You want to give yourself ample time to walk with her as she gets close to her door. It is during the walk to her place that you should be hold her hand, talk about things that happened during the date, flirt more, etc., Also, you should also implement a few lines like:

“This is a cool neighborhood, I wonder what you have inside your place.” “I can’t wait to see how you live.” Again, you should be suggesting that you are going to be invited inside her place. Also, the walk to her place provides more comfort that you’re a guy she would like to spend more time with.

Once You’re In Her Place

Ask for a tour, ask where her bathroom is, ask ask ask ask her to show you around. If you go inside, stay silent, and wait for her to direct you, it’ll just be a boring interaction. The possibility of getting yourself into her bed greatly diminishes. Sometimes I like to say, “I have to pee, show me where the bathroom is located.” Or even, “You said you’re a very creative person during the date, I bet your room is full of paintings… show me.”

How To Get Sexual With Her & Into The Bed

It’s when you’re outside the room that you should really begin making out with her ,or just doing something sexual with her. You’re  wondering “how do I make the move?” Listen, if you’re gut is telling you to kiss her, FUCKING KISS HER. Then, during the making out process, lead her to your room / her room.

Remember, because you’ve / she’s already been inside your room, there is no need for exploration. You’re good to go and you’re ready to start taking out the condom (use protection especially for the first time)… it’s game on.

Ending Thoughts

You don’t always have to leave her/your room once you’re inside, it’s just easier for some to leave and then come back. The idea is about building comfort with you and the environment she’s in: once it’s triggered in her mind that she can be safe with you, she’ll move forward with you.

You got this, I think it’s time you get her into your bed.

And, I can tell you first hand that, when it happens, it can be very hard to undertake emotionally.

What It Can Feel Like

It feels as though she has brain fucked the shit of your life and it seems every single thought is directed towards her. You can’t work. You can’t sleep. It’s a horrible feeling because you have only a limited amount of mental energy throughout the day and wasting it on her will greatly impact the growth of your productivity and any other opportunities that surround you. 

Yes, it is that bad.

Some may say that this feeling is something every person should go through because it’s a part of life, but no one really tells how to get over her and the steps to help you move on, faster. This is why I’m writing this article; for you and anyone who might deal with this situation in the future.

Block Her From Everything

I don’t give a fuck if you and her have exchanged 1,000 messages on facebook, xanga, friendster, gmail, phone… – block her and block her now. And, if you force yourself to man up and press the CONFIRM button, you’re one step closer to freeing more of your mental energy. You can call this extreme and it is, but it needs to be done especially if you don’t have the DGAF mentality. 

Think of it this way: blocking her detaches her from your mental energy. This way, you don’t have an opportunity to check out her facebook photos, see her name pop up on gchat, etc. Also, by doing this, you’re creating a psychological impact on your mind that you’ve pushed her away from your life; something that needed to be done.

This also transcends to more than just the internet social realm; you should hide or throw away things in the trash that remind you of her. This includes pictures, stuffed animals, old condoms.

You can go even further by tuning out music, television shows, restaurants, and anything and everything you think will trigger an emotional memory of her. These steps take discipline but they will help you get through it quicker, especially from the emotional baggage that comes along with things remind you of her.

Now, every guy does it differently. I usually tell the girl that “we can no longer be friends and I hope the best for you” before I proceed with the blockage. However, if you think you’ll be persuaded otherwise with some false hope that she’ll come back or that you’ll have her again, then block her without warrant.

I’m Not Saying

If this girl is in your social circle, then say hello but don’t get too involved in her life. The idea is to distance yourself from her because if you don’t, all hell will break lose. Like I said before, it should be crucial that you live in DGAF mode, but if you can’t, then this is an extreme but very necessary route you should take.

Go Out & Approach As Many Girls As You Can

The more successes you have with other girls, the more you’ll realize that you don’t need that “one girl” to be satisfied. There are a shitload of girls out there, each one with different personalities and thoughts; if you give yourself a chance, you’ll run into a few who will mesh well with your life.

So, the only way you’ll know about these other girls is if you APPROACH. I’ve seen guys who have been year+ long relationships put their entire life at a standstill because of a breakup or grave relationship issues. The only way they were able to get over that one girl was by blocking her from their life and approaching other girls. I’m not saying it’s not going to hurt, I’m saying you cannot let her (or anyone) halt your progress in life, and by doing what I’ve suggested, it’ll be easier.

It’s called filling the void: the more you occupy yourself with other people, things, and events; the more you’ll be able to understand there are other things out there than her. It’s always easier said than done, but it’s just something you need to push yourself to do.

Ending Notes

Once you emotionally get over her, you can come back and become facebook friends again or add her on your phone. I highly suggest you don’t, but I know a few guys who’ve made it work again. However, for the first few days, weeks, months, and even years, you need to man up and force yourself to block her from your life.

Tell us a story of a girl who you couldn’t get over and ways that helped you get over her. 

If you want to get laid, your penis needs to be physically interacting with her vagina. Basically, if you don’t know how to touch her sexually then your chances of having sex with anyone will greatly decrease. Therefore, I want to give you a few things that work when it comes to getting physical with a girl.

Holding Hands

This is the first part of physicality. It’s not a requirement because you can do everything I will explain later without holding hands, but there is some sexual charge that happens when you hold a girls hand.

Introduction

The strategy to get this done is when you first introduce yourself:

i. Hold out your hand as though you want to give her a handshake

ii. She reaches out and shakes yours

iii. Start talking while nonchalantly holding her hand, don’t hold it too tight but just soft enough where she is also comfortable with you at the same time. Of course, if she pulls away don’t be forceful and crush her hand, just move her hand with yours and see how long you can hold hands with her.

You do this because you want to make it clear that you’re there to do more than just talk. And, by holding her hands you’re subconsciously making her realize that touching you is a very natural move.

On A Date

On a date, instant date, traveling, whatever… if the girl you’re with is next to you while walking to a destination, just take your hand into hers. Many guys ask, “How do I know when to do this?” Listen, if you think you need to be holding her hands, HOLD HER HANDS. Following your gut is a very powerful thing.

For a suggestion, it’s always good to let go once in a while and then hold hands again: you do not want to seem like you’re needy.

Hugging Her

Hugging should be a natural move when you start the approach, but most importantly when you leave the interaction. What do I mean? Well, if you’re meeting up a girl on a date, you should get in the habit of hugging her. By just shaking hands or waving, you’re essentially telling her that you’re a pussy.

But, if you walk up to her and give her a hug, you’re making it very clear that later on the date you’re going to do more than just hug (unless it’s her vagina hugging your penis). What do I mean when you leave the interaction? To clarify, if you just met the girl and she’s having a good time, when it’s time to go, give her a hug.

Hugs create trust and comfort, do it, it’s important.

Kissing Her

Kissing her actually works just like holding hands: if you’re gut is telling you to kiss her, KISS HER. The odd thing about this sexual interaction is that you’ll get subtle cues from the girl when to give her a kiss: most likely she’ll lick her lips, pucker up, even at times stare at you while applying chap-stick… There are clues, watch out for it, and then go.

Some Tips On Kissing

i. Don’t hesitate when you go for the kiss, don’t think and just go a full 100%

ii. Don’t be a mouth raper and go 200%, you want the girl to be able to kiss you back. To make this happen, I’ll go 100% and as we begin kissing I’ll start backing off slowly so she starts moving forward closer to my mouth.

iii. You can practice your kissing skills on your hand: make a mouth with your fist and kiss the top section of the mouth hand (where the thumb and pointer finger come together). This may sound a little bit odd, but it’ll help you understand if you’re applying too much pressure, or if there is just too much saliva.

iv. When kissing a girl, it’s always best to have your hands on her body: having your body stay stagnant as you kiss her is a big NO-NO. Be fluid and touch her everywhere while you kiss, it makes the interaction more hot for her.

Sex

In Project Go we go into the specific details of how to turn her on physically, and also how to give her great sex. However, for now, I want you to understand that when it comes to sex you need to be able to study the body of the girl. What do I mean? I mean that once you get to sex, start trying out things and see what turns her on and off.

This is why I push that if you’re starting out, it’s okay if you start having sex with girls who you consider are not the top of the top (of beauty). It’s about experimenting, learning, and trying new things. Remember, you don’t always have to experiment with new people, if you happen to have one main person you’re having sex with, take the time to study her while having sex because once you figure out what a girl likes; well she’ll want to have sex with you again. and again. and again. and again. and again.

Get Laid.

In this article we’re going to do something a little bit different. So, our last article  we promised that we would pick a few questions and answer them. It took about a week but we selected a few that we think were the most common and likely to affect you guys on all different levels of your game.

With this said. Let’s go.

Question 1:

I think the best way to approach this situation, or to handle any girl who is giving ‘mixed signals’ is to realize she isn’t giving you ‘mixed signals’ at all. Rather, it’s either a ploy on her end, or a manufactured idea in your head to stray away from being direct.

Most guys can also be afraid to be direct because if a girl is giving ‘mixed signals’ it can push a man’s psyche feel at ease because it creates a feeling of “hope.” Hope that there is still a chance.

So, how do you deal with this situation? The best way is (since you see her in person from time to time) – is to stop communicating to her altogether on facebook / email / twitter / friendster.

Instead, the next time you see her, stop her and pull her aside (or in a group. just talk to her) and say: “I think you’re cute and what we did was fun, and I want to do it again. Let’s have an adventure for a day and see what else will happen.”

Of course, I’m paraphrasing here. I’m basically saying that it is time you go direct and face her and tell her what’s going on. I’m not saying it’ll work out in the best, but this girl is consuming your mind & you need to do something to get her out of your head.

Lastly, I want to say that looking even deeper into your question, I’m beginning to realize that you’re focused so much on one girl.

Yes, this may be a question of “mixed signals,” but in reality I think it’s more of a “focused on one girl syndrome.” So, the best way to deal with this (besides being direct with her) is to start picking up / hitting on / approaching other girls.

Soon enough after a few successes she’ll slowly seep out of your head in no time.

Thanks for the question

- Jesse

Question 2:

This happens a lot. It’s awesome how you consistently go out everyday for the past 5 months doing day game. I don’t think you should stop doing this, in fact, you’re at a good pace!! Keep going out, it takes time, but your persistence will pay off.

The first thing we have to do is question: “when I get the girl’s number during the interaction does she know we’ll be hanging out soon?” If the answer is “I don’t know” then you have to begin changing your end approach.

Why focus on the end? Well it seems you’re doing well in the beginning (because you’re able to engage her enough to the get the number) so we’re going to discuss your troublesome spots.

Here are a few rules to remember:

- Always end on a great note (high note) - Always call the number and make it clear to the girl you’re going to hang out - Be specific on the time of date / place you’re going to go out - Confirm where you’re going to hang out or talk to her next - If at best go out for an instant date

Lastly, the number isn’t what you should be going after, you should make it as clear as possible that you want to hang out; you are going after HER. If she denies or gives an uneasy answer, or is rushed, then you know you shouldn’t pursue.

As for text game? If it isn’t working, tell her you’re going to give her a call… the idea again is to make it known to her when you’re going to interact again. If you do it sporadically and make it vague she’ll be vague and at many times, flake.

Try this.

- Jason

Question 3:

Swapnil Borkar you are over thinking this situation, unless of course she is complimenting on his penis size and sexual bedroom skills (before you guys started going out). The only way this is a shit test is if you think it is a shit test.

Be focused on the moment with her on the date, she’s already hanging out with you so why stray away by diverting your mental attention away from your interaction? Also, you shouldn’t you feel inferior because he’s not with her, you are, which already puts you at an advantage.

However, if it’s truly bothering you, my suggestion is to compliment your mutual friend for a bit and then after he leaves bring the interaction back to your date.

Don’t think too hard on this one.

She’s with you, enjoy that time with her.

- Kong

Thanks players, don’t forget to check out Project GO and always leave your comments below with every article we post. We like answering your questions, so ask away.

If you watch many of our videos, we get rejected from these girls often…

Many guys mistake these moments thinking that these girls above are playing hard to get, they’re not. Instead these girls are just girls who will never give you the time of day, call them what you want, we just call them girls who don’t mesh with our personality: bitter girls.

Who’s a Girl Who Plays Hard to Get?

Girls who play hard to get are ones who are actually interested in you. It may not be interest in a way where she is fawning over you, but rather her interest reflects this notion of curiosity to see what you’ll do next. This may seem like a confusing concept so I’ll slow it down point by point; a girl who is playing hard to get is:

Interested in You

The clear signs are that when you start talking to her she interacts with you back. Basically, any action of her staying within your vicinity to hear what you have to say or see what you’re going to do, means she’s interested in you. The reason why we call her “hard to get” is because she won’t be complying with your requests: asking for the number, a dance, a glass of water, etc..

Instead, she will be…

Judging You Contently

Yes, she will be sizing you up with every other guy who has approached her before. How? She’ll start cutting you off mid-sentence, being overtly sarcastic, and even at times trolling your every move. The idea is she is trying to figure out how self-conscious you are with your life and if she can break you down.

All of these actions is somewhat called a shit test:  girls who play hard to get want a strong guy, so they test the guy through their somewhat snarky comments and actions to see if you’ll crumble under the pressure.

Will be Giving you Only a Few Minutes to Impress Her

I’m not saying that your job in life is to impress others as we’ve written a previous article that you should learn how to DGAF. I’m trying to make it clear that she is only going to give a set amount of time before she moves on: if you can’t combat her shit tests effectively, she’ll leave.

How To Get a Girl Who Plays Hard to Get

Persistence, Wittiness, & Confidence

This action and this personality are the primary functions that it takes to get a girl who is playing hard to get. It should be clear to you that persistence means you’re not backing down and you’re focused on getting her. It’s a fluid concept, remember the rule we set in place is “if she is smiling, keep going.” 

But I think the biggest thing we need to go over is wittiness. Wittiness is the ability to be socially observant and intellectually aware of what is being said by the girl & what is happening around her at the same time. This means that when she makes a snarky comment you’re able to take her comment and throw it back at her.

To clarify, wittiness means you’re not going to be mean spirited back, nor are you going to comply with her comment, but rather you’re going to play with her comment in a way which confuses her. For example,

Her: What are you? Poor?

You: Who would’ve thought I’d be talking to a gold digger right now…

Her: Wait, who would’ve said I was a gold digger…

You: God.

Her: I’m not a gold digger…

This is what we call taking her comment and throwing it back at her. Now, some guys go overboard and keep pressing with the one flubber you caught her on (going on and on about her being a gold digger), don’t go overboard. I

Instead, once you notice that your witty retort grabbed her intention, it’s time you start proceeding with your sexual moves or whatever persistent approach you were going up to her in the first place. Wittiness shows you’re confident, intelligent, and when it’s done correctly it means her defenses will break down.

How To Make This Happen

In Project Go and in many of our articles (read a few) we show you many examples of how to be persistent: it’s an action. Wittiness is inside yourself, it isn’t an action, it’s a personality trait. Therefore, to gain this you have to be able to figure out what type of personalities fit you.

What I did was I followed comedians who I thought were strong men & could easily break down anyone who gave them shit. And, when I mean “break down” I mean “break down” the combatant not with their fist, but with comedic intelligence. As you see you in our videos, we all different styles of wittiness.

Next time we’ll go over how to deal with her compliance test and how to communicate with her once you get her number: at the end of this article series, you should be able to handle these “hard to get girls.”

What other things do you think we’re missing and want to know about, when it comes to these type of girls?