When I'm sober I'm pretty shy. I don't chat much, or really can think of things to say. I'm sort of just the nice polite guy people can forget easily. When I'm drunk though I hit this one zone where I fucking rock it. Chatty, full confidence but also with it enough to not make an ass of my self.
There was one girl I had met a few times, 10/10 in looks. She first saw me drunk at a festival we went to recently. She was amazed at how different I was and even said "This is the most outgoing I've ever seen you!" and put her arms around my neck. However, she was leaving and we were still partying. Normally I'd probably say "Oh ok...bye then." or give a pretty weak "aw nah, come on! It'll be fun." but without even a thought I go "Nah, you aren't going back now. What are you? 40? It's not even midnight! Don't be such a soft cock!" and she really liked me saying that to her. In fact, she even told a friend of mine exactly that.
I've blown dates and hook ups before because I was too shy and not enough like my drunken self. I guess an easy solution is: Just drink when you go out. But I don't ALWAYS get in that zone. If I don't drink enough I get tired, if I drink too much well, you know what whiskey can do to your dick?
So what are some ways to try and dig that confidence out to a sober me?