You approach a hot girl: you interact with her, it goes well, and you get her number. That night or a couple days later, you text her to see if she wants to go out and then, you wait. You wait til hours go by, then days, then weeks, and pretty soon you realize that she text-ditched you. Why hasn’t she responded to your text?
There are even situations when she does respond back briefly and then, after a few texts back and forth, she never texts you again. Well, this article is specifically directed to the guys that have this issue.
Why She Doesn’t Text Back
Ninety-nine percent of the time, the reason why she doesn’t text back is because you didn’t leave a good ending impression when you initially met her. The other one percent is because she lost her hand while sawing some wood for her random art project, or a family member of hers past away. Therefore, the key idea is to have a better final impression upon your first encounter.
The Final Impression
The final impression is the lasting effect that you’ve left a girl with after your first encounter. Ultimately, you want to make sure she understands that you have every intention of meeting up with her again. If she doesn’t reciprocate by showing similar interest, then you know that texting her later will be a waste of time. So here are a few suggestions to make sure you leave KNOWING that she will likely contact you again:
1. Include in your approach the location and the activity that you’d both engage in. It’s okay if you’re winging it because the intention of your suggested activities is to gauge her interest in you when you interpret her reaction. She will do one of two things. First, she may show interest or clarify your terms by repeating what you’re both going to do. Second, she may react emotionally and display this emotion, indicating that she is interested in hanging out with you.
Here’s an example:
You: It was nice meeting you, I’ve got to go but this Friday I’m going to text you and we’re going to do Ben & Jerry’s ice cream parlor as our little date. It’s going to be fun.
Her: When you text me, are you then going to pick me up?
You: Wait for the text and you’ll see
You: *hugs her* Text soon.
2. If you don’t like the idea of telling her an exact location or activity (or if you’re not very quick on your feet), you can opt to text her right after you leave. If she brought out her phone to get your number and for you to get hers, shouldn’t she respond to your text right after the approach if she liked you?
The answer to this question is yes.
It may not be right away, but she should respond by the following day (if not during the same day). However, if she’s too slow to text then you should know within yourself that it would be a waste of time to invest your energy to worry about texting her or not. Here is an example text for this suggestion:
You: You were cute and fun to talk to, we’ll do it again in a little bit.
Her: It was nice meeting you too
(girls are big fans of the emoticons)
Perfect! Because she responded, you know that she’s at least interested and she’ll be down to start a text conversation.
Your Texts Are Going Nowhere
If you’re texting back and forth and then suddenly, she stops. No longer are you receiving funny texts, emoticons, just… complete. silence. You even text like five messages and even then she’s not texting back!
You’re going to be okay.
The usual reason why this happens is because you’re texts were going nowhere. Yes, it’s always great to have a fun conversation back and forth during text but the point of texting (or just communication outside of real life in general) is to see her in REAL LIFE.
Girls get bored when the conversations don’t lead anywhere besides a “ha ha” or an “LOL.” Over time, it just seems pathetic and you just become another guy who texts her on a whim. Therefore, it is crucial that within the two weeks you start texting that you setup a time and place to go on a date with her.
Make it very explicit in your text message that you want to hang out.
You: You said you were free Friday, so let’s distract each other for a bit and go to x,y,z, I wanted to try it out.
Her: I don’t know…
You: Texting is fine, but a real life interaction would be even more fun. Besides, smiles are always better in person.
Of course the conversation won’t go exactly like that, but what I want you to see here is that you’re always keeping the idea in your head that YOU ARE GOING TO SEE HER IN REAL LIFE. Please stop hiding behind your phone, contemplating the next witty thing to say… stop.
You are a man, right?
Take a chance, take a risk, and make it apparent that a real life interaction is so much better than a texting one.
You got this player, and remember:
“High Risk equals High Reward.”