You pickup a girl and you’re hitting it off really well when suddenly some other guy approaches her trying to steal her away. To go even further you might even be dating the girl and even then, guys are still going after her.
How do you deal with these guys without looking insecure? Girl magazines would tell you to ignore these guys completely, however, sometimes you need to man up and make it clear to them that what they’re doing is disrespectful.
Before we begin telling you what to do, we’re going to start by telling you WHAT NOT TO DO:
1. Don’t start a fight with the other guy.
She may be a very hot girl or even your girlfriend, but unless the guy is physically attacking you or puts your girl down in a very rude/derogatory way there is no reason to put your fists up.
Don’t act like a pussy and stand up straight with your neck up high. But, fighting should be the last resort because girls find guys who are intellectually and emotionally stable more attractive than guys who have anger management issues.
2. Don’t blame the girl for the guy’s actions.
What did she do? Unless she’s cheating on you physically or emotionally, it’s not her fault that the guy is trying to pick her up. She’s hot, which means other guys will want to bone her. It’s a simple logic.
3. Try to stay away from claiming your girl.
When you claim your girlfriend by saying, “Dude, this is MY girlfriend” you’re essentially making yourself look very, very insecure. It is always better for HER to mention that you two are together, that you’re HER boyfriend, etc.
Her attention will deviate from the other guy to you if you allow her to CLAIM you.
With that said, let’s begin.
The Pickup Cockblock Guy
You’re hanging out with her when suddenly this guy approaches your girl. This guy is smooth. He’s making her laugh while you’re on the other side of the grocery store, and even pulling out his number.
Option #1 Leave Them Alone
Most of the time this is what I do. I do this because I’m very secure with my game that I know she’ll come back to me when I’m back in the area. If you’re in a relationship you can call this security as a signifier that you “trust” your partner.
It’s common logic that girls love attention; so let them enjoy the pickup. Once it’s done she will be going home with you anyways.
Of course interactions can only go so long before you get uncomfortable, so…
Option #2 Introduce Me To Your Friend
The best way to distract her mindset that this guy is attractive is by claiming as a “friend.” The word “friend” creates a rhetorical effect on both the guy and your girl’s psyche. What do I mean?
You: Hey
Her: Hey Your Name or Baby
You: You look good, oh cool who’s you’re new friend?
Her: This is my friend X,Y,Z,
Now there is a common understanding amongst all three of you that the guy in front of her is just a “friend” and nothing else.
You can even go further by complimenting the guy and overtake the conversation by making him talk to YOU instead of your girl: she will lose interest because now he the cockblock is seen as the third wheel to your party of two.
Option #3 Ignore Him Completely
One of the best ways to get rid of the guy is to get rid of him completely by making it about “YOU TWO.” To clarify, to ignore him completely you need to make a social bubble where the only people in this bubble are you two.
Here is an example:
Cockblock: So How do you two know each other?
Remember stray away from YOU claiming her
*Slap her so she looks at you
You: How do we know each other? grin and smile
Her: I think we’re dating (you’re my boyfriend). she smiles
And, you two are back on fire and the cockblock next to you should at this moment feel like shit and either leave or (if he stays) becomes a very annoying pest (unattractive to your girl).
Her “FRIEND” Cockblock
Most hot girls will have many guy friends. Hot girls in general are more social because society is more accepting to them. They’re given more attention and opportunities to speak and to be heard, which leads to them interacting with more people.
And, it just so happens to be that a few of these “people” will be guys. Most of the time, these guy friends and even your girl will claim that they’re like “family,” “brother or sister,” “just friends,” but let’s be honest here, he’s attracted to her and will penetrate if given the opportunity.
How did I come up with this bold statement?
If your girl walked out of the bathroom naked and told her “friend” (he claims to be like his sister) to have sex with her, he will.
If the friend is gay or has a girlfriend, he is less likely to bone your girl if she walks out naked.
Here are a few tips…
Be Cordial & Befriend
Be nice to the guy; treat him as you would a friend. In fact, maybe you’ll even become friends? It’s not a requirement or should be your priority, just treat him cordially.
If he thinks you’re cool and a good guy, there is more likely of a chance he’ll back off:
“Wow, Jason is such a good guy, I have to move on…”
Tell Him To Watch Out For Her
It’s exactly how it sounds. Find an opportunity where you’re able to talk to the guy on a one on one basis. And basically say this:
You: Yo Friend Cockblock
Cockblock: Yeah?
You: Do me a favor?
Cockblock: Sure.
You: Watch out for my girlfriend, I won’t always be around but if a guy goes after her, just watch out if you know what I mean?
Cockblock: I can do that.
What this does is he’ll start becoming the “insecure” guy because he will start claiming her when he pulls her away from guys trying to pick her up.
The Cockblock Who Just Won’t Stop
These are the worst cockblocks because they don’t care about you at all. They may call her his sister, you his friend, or anything platonic and friendly, but his interactions prove otherwise: being extra touchy with her, finding any opportunity to be with her, etc. He’s a disrespectful ass who doesn’t care about you, regardless of his innocent claims.
The big thing you can do here is:
Tell Her How You Feel & Trust
You should just tell your girl how he can seem like a creep sometimes. Then, don’t mention it ever again and just trust her and yourself that they won’t hook up.
Listen, if she hooks up with any of these cockblocks above then you both were never meant to be together.
how would I deal with that douchebag that thinks his meaty arms give him right over the whoole girl-pack? you guys are nice, greetings and dsts from Brazil
I ment 'stds'… stupid portuguese language
Right when he's about to put his arms around your body, move aside and shake his hand. And, if he's doing that over your girl, then move your girl by grabbing her hand. What's worse is if he's lifting you up (carrying you).
This one doesn't require a reply, but "whose" should be "who's". (Yeah, I'm OCD.)
How to cut people from your life that are negative and holding you back
1. Block them from facebook 2. Delete their number 3. Stop communicating to them
how do i get less nervous around girls. like how do I improve my self confidence??
feel you bro!
The more you go out and approach the less nervous you'll become. Like what we say in Project Go: "those who hesitate, masturbate." You got this player. It's easier said than done, so just start by going out. High Risk, High Reward
Didn't you say "Low risk, High Reward"?
Also, what about the girlfriends of the girls that cock block you? Man I hate them.
Hey guys, are you thinking of coming to Portugal in the future?
We're thinking about doing a Europe tour if a fan can help us set up the details. We're very busy, but we'll do what we can.
How to deal with egoistic and selfish girls?
If you like those types of girls deal with them by approaching them and picking them up (stay confident). If not, don't deal with them.
How do i find the motivation to change my life for the better?
At the end of the day it's all up to you if want to listen to the inspirational books you read and the videos you watch. Take action.
How do you deal with a friend who keeps flirting with your girl or with a girl he knows you like? What do you do if she seems to be enjoying the attention from the other guy more?
If it's your friend, talk to him. If she's enjoying the attention from the other guy more and she's "your girl," it's time you state your concern (say it once and then trust). If she's not your girl and your crush, then just talk to your friend about it, you guys should come up with some sort of compromise.
hi, How do you act when a friend sets you up with a girl? (I know it's off the subject…)
Say thank you. Let him introduce you and enjoy the setup.
Can we understand that other guy's picking her up before we act ?
How can i get a girl to have sex with me that is a virgin? i got this girl in bed and we were cuddling but whenever i tried to make a move to touch her sexually with my hands she would grab my arm. What can i do?
Be patient. Try again. Be patient. Try again. We also have a podcast on this, but remember that it might take a while because a girl's first time is something she'll never forget.
okay so this girl just broke up with her bf. it just so happenes that at this party 2 dudes are hitting on her, plus me(although giving her space). how do i beat them to it!?
Girls like guys who can treat her like she's a human being and not an "it."
unrelated but how do you guys have such white teeth? i've been trying everything nothing works
White strips, flossing, brushing teeth, and a dentist once a year.
Great Article! Could you make a article about kids in Highschool (like me), and how to do pickup in a High School setting? I've been told that it's a lot different then doing pickup in a public setting. Thanks!
Dude, get yo ass to school and study some shit…
What did you guys study? What did you actually want to work?
We went to college and our majors varied from Psychology to Economics
Can going out only every weekend (day game and night game) be beneficial in becoming a better person??
It can help.
if I'm drunk with a bunch of friends, like now, what is the best thing to do? WE LOVE SP HERO'S !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't drive.
How do you end a relationship and still remain friends?
Figure out what you both want and how you'll forward after the breakup. Communication is always key (be direct)
If a friend(girl) of mine bashes me nonstop on facebook and real life and starts being a cockblock to me,what do i do?sometimes i dont know if its a joke or if she is serious,and yes,i used to hit on her but i didnt made out with her cuz in that time i was a pussy asshole
she is starting to be a cockblock in my social network…
Be direct and talk to her about it. There are boundaries and if she doesn't respect your boundaries than block her from your social networks (and in real life).
what are you guys top dos and don'ts of pickup?
Top Dos: Be Direct and Be Yourself.
Top Don'ts: Having prepared pick up lines.
I hope I made the top 30 comments. Hey Simple Pick Up! I wish to go off topic, on that facebook post, I've been searching every where for advice, but it's all about sex and what not. I got a girlfriend, my first girlfriend. and I have no idea what to do. I am 17. I need advice, I never really knew what to do, besides talk? Is there any core advice you guys can give me? about girlfriends? Since you had plenty of experience in this field, I am just a newbie, barley starting. I will check this at 7:00pm Pacific Time because. I have homework, and yeah. I am 17, and this is my first girlfriend. Okay Thank you.
Take her out sometime or something. Maybe a movie or lunch/dinner. Do what feels natural. Or, you can read their article on what to do on a first date.
I will read that article, thank you very much.
Hey Jorge,
When it comes to your first girlfriend the biggest thing you have to keep in mind is that relationships require four things: i) Patience, ii) Understanding, iii) Trust, and iv) Calm. This means that you both need to have the understanding to give each other space to pursue your own lives, the patience to be there and wait for each other, the trust that when they're out you don't do anything sexual with anyone else, and being calm in all of this.
You have a long ways to go and we can't tell you if it's going to last or not. Remember though, that you have to take it day by day because you have a full life to live AND there are many other girls out there if this doesn't work out.
You got this.
Always be yourself.
I made a facebook comment about on your response. Thank you, I had my GF read this, and I hope this will make things such less-intimidating. Thank you, so much.
how do i gain confidence? i've been rejected and it sometimes lowers my self esteem, help please, you guys are the best!
Never stop approaching. It'll happen the more and more you push yourself: No pain, no gain.
thanks, by the way, what's your rejection to success ratio?
Did you learn pick up from David x, Sasha or another direct teacher?
How do you pick up girls with your Pineal Gland?
What if she kinda likes him more?
And you're not together? And you know this? Move on because you don't want to waste your time: there are so many other girls out there in the world.
What about jealousy? Is it okay to be a little jealous? Or I should let her think that I'm even a little jealous?
How not to be jealous?
Jealousy happens all the time, especially if you care for your girl. As we said in the end: mention your feelings once and then trust. You've said your concern, you now have to see if she likes you enough to understand your concern. Basically, communicate.
what if she's not your girl, but you were dating and hooked up a couple of times. thing is she told me she was going to date another guy (douchebag) and I know it's not good for her, still care for her -not like in love- and dont want her to be sad in a few months after he "cheats" on her (very likely scenario)
dude you're so friendzoned. either you go for the girl directly and tell her about your feelings or you stay away from her. don't wait for her to come to you because it will never happen.
How can you flip it and cockblock a guy trying to pick up a girl you're interested in?
We'll write about this soon. It's a long process.
What should I do for my girlfriend on Valentines Day?
And what do guys want on Valentines Day? Other than hot sex.
(Sorry, I'm a girl but I pretended to be a dude for my first question).
Take him out for a coffee/beer and surprise him with some hobbie realted thing. I'm a writer, I'd love to get a book, a moleskine or something related to that. It doesn't have to be fancy, it has to be well minded, think of those obscure likes and desires of him that few people know about. Just saying btw, sex goes well with anything.
Noted! Thanks. I think it's sometimes difficult though buying something relating to another person's hobby because they generally have everything they want/need for that particular hobby. But I'll try anyway
I'll probably attempt to bake something as well.
I think the main thing here is show him you care. I personally would like anything that showed me that a girl cared about me and knows me well enough to get me that, even if it's cheap and common.
Thanks
Throughout the year you should've been gathering clues about her interests. Girls like when you listen to them, recall your past conversations, what are the type of things she's mentioned?
It's a relatively new relationship. But it's rather difficult for us to get together sometimes because her parents hate me. I'd like to spend the day and night away from all that – book a hotel perhaps? She is a big movie fanatic and love sports but recently injured her leg so she can't play as much. We both enjoy clubbing but is that really appropriate for V-day?
When it doesnt please you that the guy is trying to pick up her,should you still act as if it doesnt bother you and let him do ?! Or is it okay if I express it that I dont like it or take actions like take her playful away.
Take her away playfully is usually the best route (if it really bothers you).
How do you talk to someone in the hallways (girl) who is in a different grade and all you know is a name
Approach her by calling out her name and saying hi.
smoke alot of weed
Friday night I'm in Downtown
I approach 2 cute girls have a great conversation going instantly.
All of a sudden this random Australian guy comes in and says he's lost and can't find his way to his hotel.
He instantly got the girls attention. I tried pulling the girls back and telling the guy to ask my friends for directions, but then one of the girls rudely waved her hand at me and said "just wait ok?" Then he tried convincing them to come with him to his hotel. I just thought "fuck it" walked away from there.
What would you guys have done? Was I a bitch? Because I feel like I was.
The situation is confusing though, but I thing being sexual in the first few minutes are the best option. It will make the girls strictly attracted to you. Or else, maybe you were like making them bore, so they took another route. Next time, just make the best attraction!
How to get your gf to have a threesome
The good kind
What about when you're out with some guys and you're very clearly hitting on a girl (not your girlfriend or someone you know just a random girl you just met) and you leave to get some drinks or go to the bathroom, and when you get back another guy has taken your place despite seeing you with her not even five minutes earlier?
I hope i can get a little advice on this cause im trying to murder these bitch butterflies. What can you do if ur the type of guy whose working to be more self confident and is trying to get a girl or girls but you don't have many experiences with the opposite sex except for talking because most of the girls are already experienced and your a bit scared or worried that they might find it weird for a guy whose 18 btw to be so unexperienced… Short said : Being a bit of a VAG in that area.. It would be of great help if somebody gave a bit of advice.
When I think of the hot girl, a tall thin blonde girl comes to mind. From your experience, which type of girl gets hit on the most when you are out with her– this is looks that I am talking about. Is this usually during the day or night?
Can you post articles more frequently? I love reading them. I can't wait for your book.
How about girls as cockblock? What if your date wanna hang out w the cockblock girl than you? What should I do?
Unrelated but I was always wondering if you guys work besides youtube videos? if yes what jobs do u have?
Hey guys I wanted to get your advice on a first date. I'm 18 and I'm having my first real date this friday and I'm kind of nervous. Any tips or pointers who think could help me out. Thanks
There's like a video and an article on this mate
DO be risky during the date. DO hold her hand. DO make physical contact. DO make out with her! I'm 18 too man, but I've had a few dates in the past. What I've found is that it really doesn't matter WHERE you take the girl (I took this one girl to grab some stuff at a pharmacy), but HOW much you escalate physically. When we were crossing streets I'd grab her hand without asking and run across the street when there was no traffic.
Most important part is don't worry too much about it. First dates suck ass, even girls know this. Just make it clear that you're a chill guy, and that you ARE interested in her physically. There's a whole bunch of little details that K,J,J would tell you but really since it's your FIRST REAL DATE! Make it a learning experience and have fun with it! You're the man, so what are you worried about?
Hi guys and the simple pick up. First of all you guys should make MORE youtube videos. You guys make every other month or something. I love your vidoes its amezing i most say but its just that im tired of watching the same ass videos over and over againe i even sign up for extra un-cut videos on hotmail to get more videos.
BTW I love kong his sooo funny and i love the rest of you guys(: Love you guys (no homo) peace out man.
I love you guys. Homo, yes. This is so fucking epic.
10x Jason!!! You are the best mate, now I wont be so insecure about other guys trying some shit on my girl
pick up girls in a store or restaurant!
this article is talking about when you have a girlfriend or girl you just picked -up ???
Both.
Uh huh tell that to the chicks you stole from their guys. This is so ironic *facepalm*
Uh huh tell that to the chicks you stole from their guys. You three would be the cock blocks that don't stop, right?? So ironic. *Facepalm*
Little bit off-topic here..
how do you fuck underwater with a condom? is there any type for that?
(Don't say: You don't man ;[ )
Do more simple tips videos pleeease. They are soo helpful
Jason, bro, How do you stay the man you were the first time u met a girl? I'm always charismatic and talkative the first time we meet. I lose my personality traits that attracted her to me in first place and usually end up letting the girl down. Thanks so much players. U guys are life changing…
I'm reading this not to get out of the freind zone but to stay out of the freind zone. THank you guys you guys are great and good luck to all those players that are trying to get out of the freind zone .
Hey player I think that you really should make a video talking about how to pick up on facebook. It would be awsome! Anyways, thank you guys VERY much.
Greetings from Argentina
Guys, tell me one thing. Kinda off-topic but do you guys try the same lines a few times before/after they work? Or is it a different one every time. I'm asking because I understand that the next girl doesn't know how many times you've used it but does your brain tell you to use a different one just because you've been using it a lot?
Thanks for all these videos and posts, can't wait to apply the tips here the next time I go out (tomorrow!)
great article! solid useful content!!
Another good way to deal with pickup cockblock guy is by taking the attention by teasing her, for example:You: Hey are you hitting on my wife?Cockblock: Ummm (doesn't matter)You:that cool man, we actually juts divorced, she is hot, but omg she can't cook at alllll…Her: (ignoring the cockblock) No I'm not…-Tamirlan
That's actually nice.
brilliant!
That last tip would of been nice 3 years ago. :-/
Hey guys. I was wondering if you could make an article about the most important things for newbies to focus on? Right now it feels like my head is filled with so much of your advice that i do not now what to do of myself :p
start from the basic. can you approach women?
if not, lazer focus just on approaching women and don't read anything else (like this article)
after you can do that, focus on the next step, like making a girl laugh, getting a number.
20 Types Of Guys To Keep Away From Your Girl
1) Male model2) Actor
3) Jock
4) Rockstar
5) Gigolo
6) Criminal
7) Nerd
8) Older guy
9) Younger guy
10) Ex-boyfriend
11) Male stripper
12) Con artist
13) Guy friend
14) Boss
15) Co-worker
16) Classmate
17) Teacher
18) Stranger
19) Sex trafficker
20) Foreigner
That's like every guy possible.
No, the first three on the list must be Jason, Kong and Jesse.
THX for the info
How to be persuasive but not look like a needy vagina??
Could you please write (or simple tips) more about college? I'm freshman and I know several people here and there, some girls I think attracted to me but still limited to the girls I meet in class. I'm nervous that if I approach girls around campus that at first (beginner) they come awkward and the word spreads as me being the "awkward guy who wants to bone every cute girl that passes". Most people I will never meet anyways but I don't want my social cirlce to be "affected" by this possible rumor…if it makes any sense, I guess you'll understand what I'm talking about. Thanks a lot guys.
Awesome, guys! Thanks for this
"Don’t act like a pussy and stand up straight with your neck up high."
why is that being a pussy could someone explain this??????????
Sure … do nothing. Some guy is trying to make your woman and you should be friends with him and do nothing. LOL. When your woman comes to see you one day with wet panties and telling you she's been visiting a "sick friend" … remember the GREAT advice you got here!
What exactly would you do about that? If she was the kind of girl who'd cheat on you, how would overreacting to "some other guy" help? It would just make you look insecure and undesirable. Mind you, IF she was the type of girl to cheat on you, would it really matter if you did nothing or fight off a guy hitting on her?
Bruv, can you please do a vid on how to pick up a girl you know… but don't really talk to?
Guys, there's this girl I am going for, we've been on a date and think she's potential girlfriend. So the other day just when I think I got it going for me and I'll be able to sweep her off her feet. This dude comes in and flirts it up with her, I'm at the other side of the hall at this point so I am not able to say "hey who's your friend" or something like that suggests he only her friend. Then after I am able to talk he is gone so I go up to her flirt it up and get mind off him. At this point I think everything is fine. Then the next day, I send her a random text saying "Hey heartbreaker" which would usually get her in flirty mood and to text back, she doesn't text back this time and I'm like whatever but I texted her again 2 days later and she didn't respond (which was yesterday)
Should I text her again? Has she lost interest in me? What should I do