There are girls out there who just won’t mesh with your personality. Regardless of your looks, confidence, or bank statement, as soon as you approach, you get rejected out of hand.
If you watch many of our videos, we get rejected by these girls often…
Many guys mistake these moments as girls playing hard to get, they’re not. Instead, these are girls who will never give you the time of day.
When is a Girl Playing Hard to Get?
Girls playing hard to get are ones who are actually interested in you. This doesn’t mean she’ll be fawning over you or making a secret shrine dedicated to you. Rather, she’s interested to see what you’re going to do next. Confused? Welcome to the club.
Here are the signs to look for.
She’s Interested in You
You’ll know she’s interested by subtle social cues: body language, actively listening when you’re speaking, maybe playfully teasing you. But she’ll deny your requests like: not giving her number, refusing to dance, staying with her group of friends.
Instead, she’ll be…
Yes, she’ll size you up with every other guy who has approached her before. How? She’ll start cutting you off mid-sentence, being overtly sarcastic, and even trolling your every move at times. She’s trying to figure out how self-conscious you are and if she can break you down.
These are called shit tests. Girls who play hard to get want a strong guy, so they test you through snarky comments and actions to see if you’ll crack under the pressure.
Giving You Only a Few Minutes to Impress Her
It’s not your job to impress others. As we’ve written a previous article, it’s important you DGAF. She’s only giving you a set amount of time before she moves on. If you can’t combat her shit tests effectively, she’ll leave.
How To Get a Girl Who Plays Hard to Get
Persistence & Wittiness
Persistence means you’re not backing down and you’re focused on getting her. It’s a fluid concept, remember the rule we set in place: if she’s smiling, keep going.
Wittiness is the ability to be socially observant and intellectually aware of what’s being said and happening around her at the same time. This means that when she makes a snarky comment, you’re able to deflect her comment and throw it back at her.
To clarify, wittiness doesn’t include being mean spirited. Rather, you’re going to play with her comment in a way which confuses her or makes her laugh.
Here’s an example.
You: I played varsity baseball in high school.
Her: Oooh, I might not be able to talk to you anymore…
You: I will fight you so hard.
Her: Over baseball? Bring it.
This is what we call taking her comment and throwing it back at her. Now, some guys go overboard and keep pressing, but it’s important not to go overboard. Clearly I’m not going to fight her over not liking baseball and the tone of my voice confirms this. Instead, she accepted the challenge and she’s roleplaying with this fake fight.
Wittiness shows you’re confident, intelligent, and when it’s done correctly it means her defenses will break down.
How To Make This Happen
In Project Go and in many of our articles, we show you many examples of how to be persistent: it’s an action. Wittiness is a personality trait. Therefore, you have to be able to figure out what type of personalities fit you.
If you want to learn how to break someone down in a witty way, study some of the comedic greats while they deal with hecklers. The best comics are able to stay focused and get the crowd on their side while calmly (and hilariously) disarming the heckler.
Next time we’ll go over how to deal compliance tests and how to communicate with her once you get her number. At the end of this article series, you should be able to handle these “hard to get girls.”
What other things do you think we’re missing and want to know about, when it comes to these type of girls?