Getting Her Number Without Saying A Word

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It Begins

I was working on a mayoral campaign in San Francisco and was headed to a debate.

The story begins when I entered into the auditorium room and sat next to a hot girl. Not cute hot or stuck up hot, more like aloof-hot. She had nice dark hair, smelled like strawberries, and was apparently bored.

I learned in the beginning that a few college students were attending the debate for extra credit. Knowing this and looking at her, I knew what I had to do… I had to hit on her!

This was a challenge sent by the heavens to see if I had enough game to get her number without getting myself or her in trouble. The room was filled with watchful eyes and if either of us moved our mouths, I know for sure we’d be doomed. I had to get her number without saying a word.

But How? What to do?!

I stripped and folded out a piece of paper and wrote:

And, threw it on her lap…

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Are You Ready!?

We find it very useful to start with something shocking and questionable. Our minds are innately curious and therefore, her subconscious would be so inclined to proceed to flip the paper.

1. This works because of her non stuck-up, aloof vibe. This means that she is prone to be more playful than crumple the paper. There are different scenarios for different people.

2. She probably thought ‘WTF?!’ she probably gets hit on by demanding direct alpha-male toolbags all the time. This tactic is perfect: non-threatening, indirect, different, and a tad funny. Though a fan of both direct and indirect approaching, the latter is better when you know you’ll be in an uncomfortable location, with her, for a long time.

She turns the paper…

1. Starting with Tic Tac Toe

By drawing 4 lines and an ‘X’ on the corner box is an easy start. Games are fun, not only because she is able to participate but also she is also being challenged. Girls love men who can playfully-challenge them. It’s an adrenaline rush.

2. The Rapport

The girl’s first move was putting the circle in the middle. It didn’t really bother me because frankly, I didn’t care about the tic tac toe game. It was just bait. So what if it would be a cat’s game? It’s like meeting a girl at a museum… the pictures are irrelevant. I proceed to complain about her putting the circle in the middle (being ‘playful’). She of course is entertained about this ‘cuteness.’

Then, I talk about the guy who smells.


It’s good to talk and joke about the men who surround you (except your wingmen). This shows you’re cooler than the other chumps (do it sparingly; you can only go so far with it before you seem insecure).


‘P.S. Be Sly. Boss Watching.’

comment makes our interaction more valuable. It tells her that this is risky business. There is always a greater emotional investment when you’re a part of something that could be lost.

The next paper:

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Any other time-engaging ideas!?

Always thank them when they do things you like. It’s simple positive reinforcement. For example, she feels better about herself for playing along. And, it’s the opposite when she does something you don’t like: I BOO her for not coming up with things.

(LOL NP. I’m not good at coming up w/ things :\)

Remember, the point is for you to challenge her. If you don’t challenge her then there is no real-investment to the situation. I certainly don’t want to think of everything, come up with everything, and be her constant mode of entertainment. I AM NOT A CIRCUS ANIMAL! Circus animals become pets (friend zoned). This is what we call, “back scratching.”

I want to be entertained by HER as well.

Listen, I don’t want her to tell me what to do, I just want her to be able to think on her own. I want to make sure that if she’s in a dark room that she can find her way out.

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The other text is irrelevant. What matters is I’m pushing the fact that she has yet to think of something to do. Again, I’m testing her as much as she’s testing me. She’s wondering how far I will break and see if I’m the type of guy that will bend over backwards for her. I’m not.

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3 Facts

I really wrote 5. Why? Because it catches them off guard and it’s playful. Hence the ‘hahas’ and the emoticons.

Jesse, how does this tie into the challenging part?

See, most guys will tease a girl about something for too long. They keep pressing her to do something she is unwilling to do. In this case, this girl is unwilling to do something impressive/creative. I decided that I’ll go about it in a different way and asked her questions which she answered.

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1. When do you bounce out of here?

Until it end -_ -

I asked this question because it gives me an estimated time of when to ask for the number. You want to ask for her number before she leaves, but enough room where you both can still interact. It’s never good to get the phone number and then leave. It says that you only wanted her phone number and not her company.

2. Why are you here, then?

Political class. For a project


Random Much?

Favorite Color?

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Favorite Hobby?

Shopping Duh? Hahah

So far we’ve had enough rapport back and forth that it’s time to ask questions. When a man (who is hitting on you) is asking a girl questions right away, he is really projecting the “Will you sleep with me?” question. This usually prompts the girl to say: ‘Why are you asking?’ ‘Why do you want to know?’ And, it defunks your groove.

This is why we like to ask questions in the middle of the conversation. She will be ready and willing to answer because we’re comfortable with each other.

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Hell Yes => Random

Always stick to your guns. Most guys try to change their opinions based on what she likes – DON’T!

This is why it’s awesome

(being random) -

like I said you’re pretty awesome to participate!

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I remind her that we wouldn’t be doing this awesome thing if I wasn’t random. This makes her define ‘awesome’ as me. Then, I thank her for participating. Remember, positive reinforcement is a great thing because not only are you both comfortable, but she knows what makes you happy.

SHOPPING!? mmm. what about tennis? golf? sports?

yes shopping. I play, well I can play every sport. but I just suck badly.

Bingo. This is a big step because this comment alone tells me that she wants me to like her. How? She tries to prove to me that she is capable of doing something that I like doing (tennis/being active). It’s what men usually do with girls, just the roles are reversed.

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Last Two Questions:

1. Please draw a picture – in this box

She draws picture

HAHA YESSSS! You’re like my favorite person right now…

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This is what we call “follow the leader.” Follow the leader is when you tell her to do something and if they like you/interested, they’ll do it. Remember be honest; I really liked the picture.

Shit- I must go soon – mmm – any last ideas

BTW my name is Shirley it was nice meeting you icon smile Getting Her Number Without Saying A Word

It’s a good thing when they give out their name without you asking, especially when you haven’t given out yours. Why? It means they’re really interested in meeting with you in the future. So, I tore another piece of paper because I wanted to make sure it was clean enough for my next move:

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Anyways before I go!


Her ) num - berr

The old finish or draw me a picture method of getting a girls number is what we call a lead-on. The directions are simple, just draw:

( ) -

Then, before you hand the paper to her, say or write something like, “Finish the drawing.” The lead-on is set. If the interaction went well she will gladly input her number. It’s fun.


I hope you learned that it is possible to get someone’s phone number without saying a word. The key components is to shock and awe, make her feel comfortable, challenge, provide positive reinforcement, honesty, rapport, and then be forward enough to ask for the number.

Remember, this was a longer experience than most because of the situation: we were sitting down in a 2 hour political forum. Therefore, this whole process was contributed to what we call as being indirect. It begins non-threatening and ends full circle with a positive result.

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191 Responses to Getting Her Number Without Saying A Word

  1. Long Slong May 10, 2013 at 1:24 am #

    How many girls do you pick up on a weekly basis?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

      We don't count our pickups. You shouldn't count your pickups, you should approach so much that you'll lose count.

      • stylesafwan June 8, 2013 at 4:08 pm #

        I’ m still studying in high school.How to approach a girl?

        • zelvin July 30, 2013 at 7:52 am #

          go up to her say ask her wats your name can I talk to yhu say random shit make her laugh make her feel comterble she might give yhu her num with out ask or yhu wil have to ask

          • Vince September 5, 2013 at 12:16 am #

            R.I.P English

      • joel August 3, 2013 at 5:16 pm #

        and what shold u do if her boyfriend comes and hes pist ???

      • Bobby August 20, 2013 at 6:24 am #

        you da man! Do a video on what to do after getting her number!

      • john daker November 21, 2013 at 4:09 am #

        i'm gonna try this out…. on my teacher during silent reading.

    • zelvin July 30, 2013 at 7:49 am #


    • Soul October 19, 2013 at 3:21 am #

      this makes me think.. if these guys pick up a lot of girls, how do they dump the first one they picked up? I mean I think is very bad to play with other people feelings, maybe this girl thought that you really like her but in reality you just were thinking in hang out with a lot of girls, and I really assume that these guys are with a lot girls but don't have a real girlfriend or someone to love

      • Sharry March 1, 2014 at 6:48 am #

        I'm a girl and I got here from a friend posting some of their funny videos on facebook…. I'm not sure how to feel about this. It's good to learn to be confident and break the ice.. but it IS possible to do it too much.

        If I were approached by them, I would just feel like another walking vagina they want to hit up. That's great if all I wanted was sex, but it would be hurtful for a girl who thought you were being that random/awesome SPECIFICALLY FOR HER, not to all girls just to see who you can get :/

        I guess it really depends on the guy who uses these tactics- whether he's doing it to a bunch of girls hoping to score as much as he can, or to one specific girl just needing a push to talk to her (:

  2. Joe May 10, 2013 at 1:24 am #

    yo guys im usually a slick dude. But ive lost a lot since i had a gf >< whats the easiest way to pickup a number?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:36 am #

      Pickup girls again. As long as you don't further than the number, you're okay. We don't endorse cheating, it's not our thing. Unless of course you're very open and honest with your girlfriend regarding your relationship agreements.

    • zelvin July 30, 2013 at 7:54 am #

      idk everything hu got

    • Tanner July 31, 2013 at 7:49 am #

      Not use the word slick

  3. John D. May 10, 2013 at 1:24 am #

    Is it possible to escalate fast as fuck in daygame situations, maybe during the insta date you just pulled off?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:34 am #

      Yes. The day game scenario might take a little bit longer. But, we have a few project go videos and a full length pull video where you see us take a girl home (in the day).

      • Alex May 10, 2013 at 4:04 am #

        Lol what that's a lie which video

        • Xavier August 17, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

          haha tnere actually is one, ive seen it. check out their channel on youtube

      • jesse.c May 10, 2013 at 5:10 am #

        yo, dude, that's a fucking lie. which video??

        • Rob May 12, 2013 at 3:53 am #

          Yo, you have to sign up to project go, you can find the link through this webpage… it has all uncut videos from start to finish, plus heaps of other stuff

  4. Alberto Navarro May 10, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    how i stop being so centered on my bff, i cant forget her, i go to the same highschool shes on every class with me, i find her the most beautifull girl on the school, but she had a boyfriend and cut with him a month ago and she still likes him, and im crazy for her, and i get sad, i already told her how i feel, but she says she stills likes his ex boufriend, what should i do? please also i dont like my penies is ugly and i cant get confident with that


    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:35 am #

      Alberto. Read the "How To Get Out Of The Friendzone Article." Also, you need to try to pick up new girls & you have to know that you're okay losing her as a friend.

  5. Jafar May 10, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    Yo guys. Question: is there a shortage of sandwiches? Jesse's face is looking "Machinist" thin. EAT SOMETHING, BRO.

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:29 am #

      Check out the latest video… it looks as though Jesse has been eating enough. And, we do have a shortage of food sometimes because we work so much and not all of us can afford high class meals.

  6. Baby Ox May 10, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    What's a good place for a first date once you get the number?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:28 am #

      Anywhere that isn't a movie. Go to a place that requires movement and where you'll be talking a lot.

      • Baby Ox May 10, 2013 at 1:32 am #

        The first thing I thought about was a movie. Haha x] Thanks for the advice.

  7. Eric Williams May 10, 2013 at 1:25 am #

    where would be a good place to take girls on dates if i have very little money on me?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:28 am #

      One of my favorite dates I've ever had with a girl was I made a picnic basket with a container of soup. We went to a local park at night and not only did we eat the soup, but we found an adventure through some forest and bushes. Basically, think of activities that require adventure rather than always dining on a restaurant.

      Think exploration / touring /

      • Ben June 15, 2014 at 1:22 am #

        I think Hikes are a great date, B/C not only are you exploring, but you are breathing hard, which is very sexual…

  8. Efrain May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    How do I pick up a girl that's already into me? I want to make her feel awesome but I don't want to come off as a dick, how is that manageable?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:38 am #

      If you know the girl likes you… go up to her and TALK TO HER. Talk to her about anything, get her number, ask her out on an instant date, bring her back to your place…

      • Polishguy October 29, 2013 at 1:44 pm #

        Just dont wait to much before she changes her mind.. I often ask: Do you have a map? she:Why/yes/no. Because i get lost in your eyes. They literarily fall for it.

  9. Erick May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    Instant Date Ideas, give me 5, GO.

    and how do you make her pay for herself in the instant date in case it involves buying coffee?

  10. Paul May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    What do you guys say about pussies or guys that you see who cant approach?Like do you make fun of them or ignore? What do you say about them among you 3?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:39 am #

      Why would we make fun of these guys? We were once like them in all different parts of our life. The idea is to help these guys out and PUSH THEM to approach. We only make fun of guys if they're tools.

  11. Alex May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    How to pick up women at gym?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:40 am #

      Go up to her and lift her up.

      But seriously, just approach her like any other girl.

  12. Steve May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    Question (s):
    You're out on a date with a girl, and some bro with "date rape face" starts hitting on her. How do you remain alpha? Is there a certain way to react?

    2: Does height matter? I'm 5'3, most girls claim they prefer men who are tall and it sucks to hear constant discrimination of shorter men on a daily basis.

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:43 am #

      For the "date rape face" question. Here is a suggestion. Put your body in front of the girl so that way she is protected and she doesn't get attacked. However, if you mean just a plain dude "hitting on her…" I like to do one of two things:

      1. Introduce yourself to the guy and completely own the conversation by blowing him out.
      2. Or, my favorite way is tell the girl in her ear, "after you have fun toying with this guy, I'll be over there having fun toying with those other girls and we'll kiss each other later…" Be playful about it, touch her body when saying it (butt side of the hip)… be sensual about it. It works.

      As for height? Jesse is short. Height doesn't matter unless you make it matter.

      • Bill September 24, 2013 at 12:09 am #

        How tall is Jesse? 5'11?

  13. Daniel May 10, 2013 at 1:26 am #

    Ey guys, If I'm talking to a girl for an extended period of time (20-30 minutes), how do I keep the conversation interesting? I usually don't have a problem with figuring out what to talk about, just that it doesn't seem interesting and I'm just baffling about nonsense for 20-30 minutes. How do I make my convo's more interesting over an extended period of time?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:45 am #

      Don't think of topics, topics will come. Also, silence isn't always a bad thing, sometimes silence is a great thing because it gives you ample time to look at each other and be sensual with eye contact. Lastly, to make your conversations more interesting it is best to a) read more b) take her places where she can talk about her surroundings c) educate yourself with facts d) have your own adventures so you can tell her about them.

    • tyler December 3, 2014 at 10:45 pm #

      If things suddenly go quiet and you can’t think of anything to say, smile and stare into her eyes like its a staring contest. Makes a playful situation out of what many people feel like is an awkward one.

  14. Ching May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    What are the signs that show that a girl is into you?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:46 am #

      She zips down your pants, opens her mouth, and…. Basically, go up to her and just start talking, you'll know.

  15. James May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    Which of you guys get more girls?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:46 am #

      We don't count, we just do because each of us have different game which attracts a different set of girls.

  16. Alvin May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    What if i have an accent and they are having trouble understanding me ?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:47 am #

      Speak slower or don't talk and just be more sensual with your body. However, if you do want to practice your speaking skills… open up a book and read it out loud in front of a mirror EVERY SINGLE DAY. Your speech will greatly improve.

    • Tycoon December 17, 2013 at 12:48 am #

      May I recommend The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie. Great book for utilizing in social interactions :D

  17. Daniel May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    If there are 2 girls sitting outside on the ground and they're eating lunch, how do you approach/get one of the girls without appearing like you're ignoring the other but still able to engage with that one girl?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:48 am #

      Go up with a don't give a fuck attitude & start talking to both girls and then transition to the one you want.

  18. andrew May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    I watch all your videos, read all your articles and I feel so confident in myself and it has even got me laid, so thank you so much. But I do have a question. For some reason I still feel the bitch butterflies when I see a pretty girl sitting at a table by herself. Can you guys inspire me once again? Also since you afe answering questions I hope I get answered because it would be awesome to get a direct response from you guys!

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:49 am #

      Andrew. This is a good question and probably something we'll use for our next article. To make it simple is this: i) We can only say so much until you realize that the greatest inspiration is yourself. And then, ii) To this day we still have bitch butterflies but it's not a bad thing. The only bad thing is if you don't push yourself to just talk to the girl. That's why we make sure that in the first 3 seconds of seeing the girl… you attack and approach.

      Good question, it's being saved for future reference.

      • andrew May 10, 2013 at 1:58 am #

        Thank you for the response you guys are amazing!

  19. ElixirDnB May 10, 2013 at 1:27 am #

    There's this girl at my school that I've been wanting to approach for a week now, I'm subscribed to Project GO but I still sometimes can't get myself to approach. Any tips for motivation?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:51 am #

      Just. Go. This may seem like a crazy concept, but this is why we setup Simple 30. We set this program up to be used as a tool to help guys approach whoever and whenever the want/need to. It's a bootcamp where we're doing everything with you and in the process (through daily challenges) you will get better, faster.

  20. J.J May 10, 2013 at 1:28 am #

    Whats your guys' opinion on a 16 year old like me who constantly practices pickup and the DGAF attitude? does it benefit me to start at such a young age?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:52 am #

      It's beneficial at all ages. It just depends what type of DGAFFING you're doing. DGAFFING on your studies to go to college / learning to be something… isn't the smartest way to approach life though.

  21. Jeff May 10, 2013 at 1:29 am #

    What do you do in clubs where the music is so loud you can't really talk to girls? Also, do you use facebook to talk to girls after you've been texting them for awhile or do you try and avoid this?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:52 am #

      I'll answer the first question: Go read How To Pick Up Girls @ a Club part 1

  22. Jeff May 10, 2013 at 1:29 am #

    What if the room isn't deadly silent? But only kind of silent where people still talk a little. Would this work?

    • Jeff May 10, 2013 at 1:41 am #

      Hey Jeff Number 2?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:52 am #


  23. GYU May 10, 2013 at 1:30 am #

    If a girl says to you 'that she's not looking for anything and is cool with just being friends' is that an automatic friend zone or sign that she's not interested or would you still try and pursue something further?

    • GYU May 10, 2013 at 1:31 am #

      This is for a girl that you just met and that's her response after you try to get her number

      • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 1:53 am #

        Yes she's putting you in the friendzone. BUT you can say "let's be friends because you probably have cool friends." You can even go further and say, "I'm not looking for anything serious either." I still would go with the former though.

        • Harris July 28, 2014 at 8:30 am #

          I’m a big fan of simple pick up and I’m a sophomore
          In Highshool I’m pretty popular but I’m extremely shy and unconfident with girls usually il get lucky and il be freinds with a girl through onther friend but how to I just go up to a random girl I don’t know I’m class and say fuck it and get her number ik it’s simple but I can’t get myself to do it

  24. Doug May 10, 2013 at 1:31 am #

    Great article, thanks Jesse.

  25. cmoney May 10, 2013 at 1:31 am #

    what r ur life morals and values? BE SPECIFIC

    • asdf July 16, 2013 at 5:01 am #


  26. Alberto Navarro May 10, 2013 at 1:32 am #

    how i stop being so centered on my bff, i cant forget her, i go to the same highschool shes on every class with me, i find her the most beautifull girl on the school, but she had a boyfriend and cut with him a month ago and she still likes him, and im crazy for her, and i get sad, i already told her how i feel, but she says she stills likes his ex boufriend, what should i do? please also i dont like my penies is ugly and i cant get confident with that

  27. She wants the Rich D May 10, 2013 at 1:32 am #

    I've been talking to this girl I met(in part thanks to the obvious help from you guys, Jesse, Kong, and Jason) for about 3 months now. I really genuinely like her, and she's in it for the serious relationship. I'm not ready for that yet. I want to have fun picking up girls still but I don't want to lose her either. tl;dr: Can I have my cake and eat it too? I think she wants me to ask her out soon but I'm split 50/50, any advice? Have you three been in this situation before and what did you guys do?

    • Ayberk May 18, 2014 at 9:44 pm #

      Good question. Hope it gets answered.

  28. joshua May 10, 2013 at 1:34 am #

    ever come to University of Washington?

  29. Lets May 10, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    Hey Bro's.
    Interesting stuff you've written about. It's good that you're sharing this kind of stuff because I make sure to not make any excuse for myself to approach, so you're proving even if its a silent lecture, it's not an excuse
    You mentioned pickup in a museum, I have lots of museums around where I live, with lots of potential but find it hard because I have to be quiet through them and can't pass notes. Couple of pointers to try out for me this weekend?

    Thanks guys.

  30. Heikki.K May 10, 2013 at 1:35 am #

    So i just turned 18 and get into clubs and bars. I go out all the time on weekends and get girls, or at least try, and i had decided to be single this year. So i hook up with this girl and we became friends with benefits and then she asked if i wanted something more of this. (which was weird because we decided to be only friends..) So i said no thanks and now in these past weeks i kinda miss her and now i want something serious with her! How do i fix things with her!? ps. she was kinda mad and we didn't talk much after we had that serious talk but she did want to continue the friends with benefits thing for a while but then it stopped and even less talking now. PLEASE HELP! much love. no homo.

  31. Mike May 10, 2013 at 1:55 am #

    Would you recommend trying to pickup a girl over Facebook? Especially if you know you'll probably never see her in person without talking to her on Facebook first… Also what is the best way to pickup a girl over Facebook?

    • Matt December 2, 2013 at 6:45 am #

      Picking girls up on Facebook basically shows that your a pussy….

  32. Michael May 10, 2013 at 1:55 am #

    how do you pick up girls with their parents ? age 15-17 in the mall

    • R.V February 4, 2014 at 7:24 am #

      You don't

  33. Daniel K. May 10, 2013 at 2:00 am #

    I'm a month away from being a senior in high school and I live in Las Vegas. Is now a good time to start picking up girls? Or should I wait until I've graduated? I just don't want them to blow me off because I'm too young. I'm only about three months from being eighteen, but if a girl finds out I'm in high school, I'm afraid it'll turn them away.

    What should I do guys?

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 2:04 am #

      Start picking up girls NOW. So you have practice and ready when you graduate.

    • JesseKongJason May 10, 2013 at 2:04 am #

      and who gives a fuck about what people think of you and your age.

      • Daniel K. May 10, 2013 at 2:14 am #

        I'll get right on that guys. Thanks for the advice!

        It's time to get rid of these bitch butterflies.

  34. Jake May 10, 2013 at 2:04 am #

    Should you ever tell a girl that you're a virgin if she isn't one?

    • Morty May 11, 2013 at 10:17 am #

      After a few fucks you can.

  35. jesse.c May 10, 2013 at 2:09 am #

    can you guys write an article about how to deal with flakes, like what's the mindset of dealing with flakes?

  36. Paranoid May 10, 2013 at 2:13 am #

    What if you hitting on girl in club and it's going well but she asks you to buy her a drink for the third time? Ain't nobody got money for that.

  37. Patrick May 10, 2013 at 2:55 am #

    how do you respond if a girl calls you a “Player”? And what if the girl you approached saw you do an approach right before her and calls you out on it. how do you react?or says “I saw you hitting on that girl over there and now you’re hitting on me” or “are you just here hitting on girls and collecting phone numbers all day?”

  38. mr universe May 10, 2013 at 4:05 am #

    Serious questions guys. I've never been in a position like the one I'm in now but to in essence there's this girl that's younger than me that while very pretty, is also extremely immature. She keeps flirting and I keep trying to subtly ignoring her but she's very persistent. Should I keep being nice and ignoring her or flat out tell her I'm not interested. I don't want to seem like an ass.

    Thanks guys.

    • SP_LoverChrisman May 11, 2013 at 12:06 pm #

      Depends on the situation you two are. If I were you man, and if we didn't know each other very well, I would tell her that sorry I have a girlfriend (that kind of thing girls do, but what can you do? :P). If we knew each other and she knew I was single, I would just tell her that I like somebody else. If she kept going I would politely tell her to stop and that we can't be together. Or even better, be a good wingman and introduce her to one of your dudes! Take care :)

  39. gordon May 10, 2013 at 4:40 am #

    hey, so after approaching so often i (obviously) forget the girls faces…how do you guys handle approaching the same girl multiple times … especially since your (i'm) using hte same opener.

    • SP_LoverChrisman May 11, 2013 at 12:11 pm #

      If you constantly go out, that shit is gonna happen, no matter what. If she rejected me the first time and I was still interested, I would hit on her again, in another way.. different approach. A second chance. Or I would just call out myself for actually going there again and then see where that goes. ;)

  40. Vish May 10, 2013 at 5:43 am #

    It looks to me like you guys can pull just about any type of girl. Am I wrong or does this come from experience from talking to many types of girls?

    • Paranoid May 10, 2013 at 7:29 am #

      No shit Sherlock.

  41. Daniel May 10, 2013 at 11:55 am #

    What if your handwriting sucks, and is like hieroglyphs (like mine sometimes), how would i solve that problem?.

    • Vish May 11, 2013 at 4:01 am #

      practice writing

  42. Sammy May 10, 2013 at 12:02 pm #

    The thing with this is that, now we know what to say, thanks to you guys, but how much do we say things? Don't want to seem we are jumping in as an interviewer and pushing questions.

  43. optimus May 10, 2013 at 5:11 pm #

    when are you guys posting the second part of "how to get a girl who plays hard to get!", the first part was awesome!

  44. Anthony May 11, 2013 at 8:31 am #

    Theres this girl in school I’ve been wanting to approach and shes 1 grade higher than i am but I’m not sure how to approach her

  45. John May 11, 2013 at 9:33 am #

    How do you be ‘challenging’ to a girl? Any certain ways or any stock lines to be challenging?

  46. SP_LoverChrisman May 11, 2013 at 12:00 pm #

    SimplePickup I need help!!! I have a huge foot fetish that I can't just ignore, but I don't know how to say that to my girlfriend, or any girl in particular. I can bluntly say it, since I'm fairly confident on sexual stuff, but, I don't know how and when.. PLEASE HELP A BROTHER?! THANKS

  47. Sj May 11, 2013 at 12:06 pm #

    Dude what the fuck u guys are up 2.
    U guys are the fucking boss with girls .
    I read your article and gonna do same thing .
    Just gonna be boss from now one I will not give a fuck a out anybody

  48. Benny May 11, 2013 at 2:42 pm #

    There is a muslim girl I like, she doesn't talk to guys, and so I wanted to write a note to her asking if she would like to get to know me better (even for marriage). Any tips on what to include? It's not the typical approach.

    • Chief May 11, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

      you should be playful with the women since her religion by that lke commonucate and make her laugh dont make her seem like your coming on two her if this continues she will start developing a interest in u and start liking you but the man point ia to make her want you

      • Benny May 11, 2013 at 5:08 pm #

        Problem is mate, her religion says she can't talk to men AT ALL… literally I have to convey my interest in her in a note which is a tough cookie to crack

        • Eddy May 13, 2013 at 1:01 am #

          Easiest but hardest thing to do is move on. I'm kind of curious what made you fall for this girl though since you apparently can't talk to her. If you haven't even built a connection with her, it should be even easier to just look for someone new. Don't limit yourself, the sky is the limit and you should go try going for other girls. First, I would just write the note simply based on how you feel and see what happens. It might result in a good ending but if not you will be able to move on alot easier. Good luck!

          • Benny May 13, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

            Thanks Eddy, I think your absolutely right. I think what has happened is that I've sort of created an infatuation for this girl, but there is no real attachment there. She constantly looks at me, smiles occasionally and pretty much gives the vibes that she likes me, but unlike other girls, because of the inability to speak to her, my curiosity has just built up in my mind resulting in an infatuation. Also, long revision periods and boring work makes her all the more appealing!

  49. izzy May 11, 2013 at 4:24 pm #

    what if u already are in school and u know her already and still dont have her number
    p.s if you u guys got any bteer a this women would literally just throw them selves at you are bosses

    • Vish May 12, 2013 at 6:44 am #

      Tell her you think she's cute and tht you want to get to know her better. Don't ask for permission. Then keep talking with her.

  50. Ramzee May 12, 2013 at 11:12 am #

    Here are two topics I would like to see you guys tackle in future articles:

    1) How to be successful at online dating
    2) How to pickup girls you work with (which I think will end up probably being similar to picking up girls in class, but I could be wrong)

    • Robert May 20, 2013 at 11:47 pm #

      No. Whatever you do, DO NOT pick up girls at work. It is not a good idea. And if you get with them and you guys get into a fight or, even worse, break up then it'll be awkward and you guys still have to work together. As for online dating yeah I agree Simple Pickup should make an article.

  51. Steven May 13, 2013 at 10:03 am #

    Guys I met this awesome girl a while back. We've been talking a couple times at partys and she often talks to me about her ex boyfriend and that shes still in love with him (they broke up on dec. 2012). And on top of that she often tells me that they still have sex with each other. I tried to make her clear that im not her gay best friend but it didnt work…
    So what should i do? Should i keep trying to approach her her or should i forget her??
    Shoutout from Berlin, Germany

  52. Jack May 13, 2013 at 11:13 am #

    DO your tips, all of them not only this one, work OUTSIDE the USA? like Malaysia (and islamic country) ?!

    • SP_LoverChrisman May 13, 2013 at 5:54 pm #

      They work everywhere man. Even Simple Pickup guys have traveled almost the whole Asia area to pick up girs, there are other people who pickup girls in those places, who are subscribers to Project GO, and their tips work here aswell (Greece). Attracting women is not relying solely on cultures.

      • James May 25, 2013 at 11:03 pm #

        I think you underestimate the size of asia… but yes just change it up to suit the cultural background :-) xoxox

    • Jeremy June 19, 2013 at 8:45 am #

      Of all the countries in Asia the one word I'd love to hear is Malaysia, to me there is like only 2 countries where this thing is possible, like only Malaysia and Singapore

  53. Vish May 14, 2013 at 2:45 am #

    You guys say tht it's ok to be awkward. And tht when you start pickup you should be yourself and work on certain areas tht are awkward tht need to be fixed. What certain areas are u guys talking about? Do you mean personality wise or something else?

  54. Cucho May 14, 2013 at 7:32 am #

    Hi guys i read all of your articles i'd seen all of your youtube videos and i have paid to view some of your project go videos. i loved everyone of them. my concern is about something you use in your interactions that i am not sure how to use it and when to use it since there is no article about this. The thing that i am refering to are the NEGS or how sometime jesse called "an opposite of a compliment". I know you guys use a lot of this but almost everytime i cant see when they are used.

  55. kyle May 18, 2013 at 9:12 am #

    this really helped me!
    but i could use some more advice,
    i'm moving to a new school soon and i want to make sure i don't fall into the friend zone, what can i say or do to make them see me as more than a friend?

  56. abdo May 18, 2013 at 6:28 pm #

    thanks… but i know a hot girl for a year and i can't took to her .help me plz

  57. Ryan May 19, 2013 at 7:14 am #

    Hello, I'm in middle school in 8th grade and I like this girl, she always tried to talk to me but I got nervous around her so I would panic and just not keep the conversation going. She knows I like her and after awhile she just stopped trying to talk to me. I dont know if its because I like her, or because I dont talk to her. Everyday I plan on talking to her but I always get nervous. She likes this one guy, but hes a douche and shes starting to realize it I think. Im going to make my move with 15 days left a school but I dont know how to approach her I only have 2 classes with her 1st period and every other day 2nd period. Btw her friends know I like her also know I get nervous around her and im good friends with her best friend. I wanna be direct with her but its difficult for me. I know this is my only chance because she will be in honors classes next year and since Im dyslexic most of my classes will be in special ed. I also see her outside of school sometimes since I see her best friend a lot. I have her and her friends #'s. I've embarrassed myself in front of her(once being smell which she realised) which sometimes explains my lack of confidence. I honestly cant get over her and its effecting me educationally . So my questions are; How do I approach her and remain confident for at least 10mins
    2. Should I approach her during class or in the hallway. 3. Should I text her or should I wait till I start talking to her in person. Thanks for reading – Ryan

    • p;gggg May 31, 2013 at 4:41 am #

      hallway talk in person

  58. James May 23, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

    I understand that this kind of mentalitity and pickup style works in America but in Korea, the social mood isn't as "free". It is practically socially unacceptable to escalate physically with a girl on the first convo or even say the things that you guys say to pickup girls. What should I do ?

  59. Rowen May 23, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

    About a week or two ago I met this girl and she was beautiful and funny. I got her number and texted her back the next day. She seemed super into me, lots of smileys, hearts and stuff; We were planning to go have sex really late at night and I'm only in high-school so sadly I couldn't go see her because I don't have a car and she lives too far away. So we planned to meet up on the weekend and she seemed really happy. the next day she went straight to "Let's just be friends and see how that works out okay? :)".

    I'm just not sure why she did a 180 and decided that I wasn't good enough, after simply sleeping. And also what I could do in this situation to win her back.

  60. Arthur May 25, 2013 at 1:40 am #

    I met this girl. We went in a date and it was better than i expected we kissed and I felt a really good connection with her. But I became really needy and she friendzoned me. (Jesse talked about this mistake in the Friendzone podcast, a stripper frindzoned him). I stopped talking to her, I didnt want to be her friend. 1 month after I stopped talking to her I asked a friends help to make her jealous. The girl's school is near my house so i took my hottest friend and went there. We pretended we were a couple (holding hands and stuff) . I hopped she would text or call me after that. She didnt. IT happend 3 weeks ago. What can I do to win this girl again? I can go there and talk to her anytime I want, I just dont know what to do. I am approaching and picking other girls but that one is really special to me. Thanks.

  61. James May 25, 2013 at 11:01 pm #

    Too add, when in a lecture and you think a girl is checking you out. Try this! I swear it works, yawn. Its fucking contagious when you see someone doing it so use it to your advantage! If they yawn back then youll know, just one thing….dont make eye contact before the yawn, only do it if the girl does yawn. Then eyeball the fuck out of her ;) xoxox

  62. Mike May 28, 2013 at 4:56 am #

    Once I find a girl and I sit next to her, what should I say? Can you tell me a few line to say?

  63. Neil May 28, 2013 at 3:57 pm #

    Can you please give me a video or article that applies to 14 yrs old or up. I have a bff,shes a girl, i never had the guts to TALK TO HER. Any tips?articles?videos? That might help me. Thanks in advance guys

  64. Josue May 31, 2013 at 3:31 am #

    if ur usually timid and all ur slick schemes seem to fail should you start being forward? Or i’m i jus doing it wrong…cuz being forward leads me to freezing up and i thought that only happens in movies and then she gives you that “creeeper look” like ur awkward or something and avoids you lmaoo…dude must be very persuavie and wise in wat environment u do it…u sound like u belong in da fast & furious franchise lol…but yea dats my question

  65. bohica June 2, 2013 at 7:46 pm #

    OK Guys, any help needed with this one, I'm in New York for a few days for site seeing, I'm staying at this hostel and I met the recepists and short stroy is she amazing had over a two hour talk but I'm only here for tonight and tomorrow, My goal is to get her number and/or get lucky, she down right gorgeous but talking isn't the problem time is here and moving it along, Ive seen a good 90% of simple pick up videos but what do I do in such a sort time and also she working, ps she stays in the hostel due to working and traveling, we shared a room one night due to over book but now I'm stuck in a different room since they fixed it. any more info I can give but the question is what nexts I feel like I'm stuck and time is running out…

  66. Night June 6, 2013 at 1:31 am #

    Hey guys, im a sophomore in high school, i want to start pickup but i cant drive and dont have a car so how should i go about this so that buy the time i do have a car and can drive that i know what im doing

  67. Armand June 13, 2013 at 4:39 am #

    Ok can you can make a video of you guys in class talking to a girl and showing step by step in the video like how to pass the notes,yes i know I am asking for too much but if you guys make this video it would help tremendously. Thanks

  68. Djonathan June 13, 2013 at 7:24 am #

    Hey guys, how can I get to the next level with a girl that's palready interested on me but we're classmates and we only met at the school ?
    We talk alot, laugh alot it's kind of a friendzone but I'm not in love with her or something, I even date some her friends but I want her lol

    I would rly appreciate an answer (sry for my bad english… I'm not from US)

  69. Uhh June 17, 2013 at 4:17 am #

    Weird how the last one where he says his name is on a different type of paper with different handwriting.

  70. jordan June 18, 2013 at 1:07 am #

    hey im in high school who do i get girls number.

  71. Jeremy June 19, 2013 at 8:42 am #

    How tall are you guys? Seriously, and the girls you usually meet too

  72. Mike June 19, 2013 at 8:01 pm #

    Hey what do i do when i want to approach a girl but ill kinda feel embarrassed because she has her parents with her?

  73. Val Thenegusking June 29, 2013 at 4:30 am #

    Dope! Thanks for the article! (I just moved to a new school and got like 4 numbers on The first day without saying a word

  74. DerpaHerpa July 5, 2013 at 11:03 pm #

    So this is the deal. I'm in this small city where the schools are not as big as in Miami and stuff… The classrooms are like a normal rooms with 10 small desks in every room, so what i'm thinking is how to do this in smaller schools?

  75. Mo July 16, 2013 at 4:35 am #

    Are you fucking kidding me dude … Go straight up to her and talk her with out hiding the bushes

    • Dallas August 1, 2013 at 11:41 pm #

      Did you not read how of they talked they would get into trouble?

  76. mic July 23, 2013 at 8:04 am #

    what if my handwriting sucks

  77. Tom July 28, 2013 at 12:31 am #

    Hey guys, I was just wondering, seeing as I'm going to college soon, I was just wondering seeing as American numbers are different to British ones, how would i get her or influence her to write write her number down for the last bit because i can't really get her to write down her number in brackets then a dash??

    Help would be appreciated

  78. OtakuPickUp July 31, 2013 at 8:53 pm #

    Is this a good way to get to know a girl in your high school class on first or second day? Might have to speed up the process though because the classes are shorter than 2 hours of course, but again will it work in an highschool class that lasts about 45 minutes?

  79. Cooper August 2, 2013 at 4:02 am #

    It would be halirous if when you talked to her outloud for the fisrt time you did a 50 year old obese smoker woman voice.

  80. Chance August 9, 2013 at 4:38 am #

    Starting a new school this will help thanks

  81. brian August 17, 2013 at 1:57 am #

    how do you piuck someone up if you have red hair.. do they like red hair?

  82. Eric August 17, 2013 at 7:57 pm #

    Im in highschool and i consider myself goodlooking cause i have a good self esteem and dont care chat anybody thinks but i dont seem to get girls as much as i would like to. I can sense some girls like me but i dont know how to talk to them cause im really shy. And i only see them in class but they sit far from me so i cant talk to them and we only have 1 class together… In the hall its a chaos and we cant talk even if we wanted to and in lunch i dont see her so how do i do it to talk to her more or gt to know her cause i feel she likes me and i want to know her. I'm still kind of the new kid cause i just started last week but soon that wont be a problem and ill have acouple of more friends and not be as quit cause i look like a creep sitting in the back alone without talkiing the whole class btw how can i talk to her or what do i do?

  83. Bobby August 18, 2013 at 1:14 am #

    Hey will this work on any girl whether she's new or not? And does it matter how you look plus you guys are my inspiration to go out and do the things you guys do and I conquered my bitch butterflies all thanks to you!!

  84. Zizong August 19, 2013 at 6:28 am #

    I can’t read your article! I am Foreigner,I can’t understand even one word, shit can u guys write a simple English article?

  85. Jonathan Tanner August 30, 2013 at 9:19 pm #

    Hey im a as of 08/30/2013. Do you think you could help me out, im not exactlly the best looking guy

  86. carl August 30, 2013 at 11:52 pm #

    Where is the best place to have our first date with the girl?

  87. Jay September 5, 2013 at 9:30 pm #

    i tried this for the last week and got 13 numbers!!!! great tip

  88. HighSchoolSenior32 September 11, 2013 at 2:57 am #

    Ok, there's a girl in my class that I've been straight up in telling her that I'm hitting on her and that I'm attracted to her. I sit beside her everyday (a week and a half), and she seems interested in me (laughs at my jokes, flirts with me, etc…) But randomly I just found out she had a boyfriend. She wasn't the one who told me, and I don't think she knows I know about him. I don't exactly feel like fucking up her relationship, but at the same time I'm attracted to her and she seems to be attracted to me. Anyways, I was just hoping to get some advice on what to do about this situation.

    Thanks Players

  89. anon September 11, 2013 at 11:49 pm #

    hey im in high school, im in gr 11 so should I go for gr 10's. since their new and all to high school? btw love your guys videos. big fan

  90. Jack October 17, 2013 at 6:14 pm #

    Kong, do u have an asian flush? How do u reckon to pick up a girl with a lobster red face? Make fun of your asian flush?

  91. Miguel October 18, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

    that seems easy but how do i start to gain confidence? i get pretty nervous by a girl, is there also a trick to help me with that? im short, most girls of my age are taller than me, it doesnt really helps.

  92. ttjones October 19, 2013 at 6:27 am #

    this pretty dumb is she like 12 she wants to play pass the note. If u want her go talk to her if shes like u good if not then fuk her shes not worth it.thats it

  93. rccccccc October 19, 2013 at 11:20 am #

    way to make every girl fail in class by not paying attention

  94. Richard Blith October 23, 2013 at 8:59 pm #

    I like 5 girls in my school and all the girls are studying in the same class. I want to talk to all of them but i cant even talk with a single one. What should i do

  95. Victor October 27, 2013 at 2:00 am #

    Hey Jesse.. I have a doubt… I found the most prettiest girl in my college, but I'm afraid of hit on her and screw everything I already don't have. She is always surrounded of girl friends, and I think she never noticed me before… Any advice??? Thank You man… You rocks!!!! Hugs from Brazil!

  96. Matt December 2, 2013 at 6:48 am #

    Does this work even when the girl doesn't sit next to you? And you have to have someone passing the note for you guys back and forth I ask this because I'm in high school and we have assigned seats.

  97. Chris December 27, 2013 at 7:10 am #

    Do you laugh when so many hate on u guys for being your race and stuff. cause I think its great that u guys do this!

  98. Jonathan December 29, 2013 at 10:20 am #


  99. zack January 9, 2014 at 3:18 am #

    you guys commenting are making things way to complicated….. like that guy whos complaining about being too short…just follow this,it doesnt matter if you're short or have an accent…YOU'RE WRITING ON PAPER! YOU DONT HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT YOUR ACCENT…

  100. SteveT February 15, 2014 at 5:26 pm #

    Amazing. Genius on a whole other level! Well played Jesse, it must've been hard to reveal something as powerful as this, haha.

  101. Bharat Pratao February 25, 2014 at 1:56 pm #

    this is pretty fun thing to do. we'll try it.
    and i think most of the pick up lines wont work here in India. lol

  102. Dann February 27, 2014 at 4:18 am #

    how do you get off of the no balls zone?

  103. duoyi xi March 13, 2014 at 1:56 am #

    im a freshmen in high school and i watch your awesome videos and i wan to know it this would work in my grade

  104. ii123 April 11, 2014 at 9:21 pm #

    does this works in when ur in secondary school and what do u say to the girl when u meet her after class or later on in school

  105. Ryan April 30, 2014 at 9:53 am #

    What are good things to say to a girl you only see briefly like between classes?

  106. robertpek56 May 11, 2014 at 2:53 am #

    Ok, so I'm really popular with the girls at my school because I can tell a good story. I never have any trouble getting numbers and I keep the girl laughing. My problem is after I get the number, I don't know whether to text or call, or what to say. Please help!

  107. Affleck May 15, 2014 at 4:16 am #

    Interesting will try next time in class, kinda gives confident to sit next to the hot girl in class but what about does who can’t really afford progect go is there stick info you guys give for us

  108. Juan Pablo Valdivia July 9, 2014 at 3:12 am #

    Hey Jesse, I just watch the project Go and I have a question. How long does it takes to finish the entire project?

  109. Amar Jawan July 18, 2014 at 5:46 pm #

    hey i am from india and you know things are a little different here. Can you suggest me some ice breakers that will be valid here and not seem too vulger in india?

  110. Dhruv September 5, 2014 at 1:42 pm #

    Hello bros
    I’m an Indian currently in college, I have a really big crush on this girl for months, I want to be in a relationship with her (we have a class together). I don’t know how should I approach her as Indian girls usually aren’t keen on going on dates and don’t respond well when boys approach them (atleast most of them) so I was wondering how do I approach her. I fear if I get rejected I won’t get another chance and she’d feel awkward around me.

  111. Evan Toder September 8, 2014 at 3:25 pm #

    Have any of you ever heard of Click Magnet Dating? [… ]

  112. Humberto October 18, 2014 at 11:29 pm #

    Yo, I'm 18 also a senior and I have been talking to a girl for about a month already, I really really like her (don't know if she feels the same way about me though.) I have asked her out before but she gives me excuses for example " I would LOVE to but I'm busy this weekend" it already happened twice in a row. Could it possibly mean she isn't interested ? What should I do ?

  113. People November 2, 2014 at 3:58 am #

    I’m a sophomore in high school and I’ve been friends with this girl since preschool and am just now starting to be interested in her but I always get nervous around her.what do I do?

  114. Salas November 16, 2014 at 12:25 am #

    Did that a couple of times, I'm shocked that you did this back in my high school years as well.. big ups champ!

  115. Mo December 3, 2014 at 11:01 pm #

    Quick question! Did you talk to her in person before you left? Earlier you said to make sure you guys spoke before parting ways. Was just curious if it was just left at you getting the number.

  116. Jada December 8, 2014 at 8:16 am #

    Would this work on guys?

  117. Bursa Satılık Konut December 10, 2014 at 10:05 am #

    I decided that I’ll go about it in a different way and asked her questions which she answered.

  118. Havalandırma Malzemeleri December 10, 2014 at 10:12 am #

    Bu tür sorunların önüne geçmek ve ortamı güvenli hale dönüştürmek adına havalandırma malzemeleri önemli bir yere sahiptir.

  119. Ofis Mobilyası December 10, 2014 at 11:31 am #

    im a freshmen in high school and i watch your awesome videos and i wan to know it this would work in my grade

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