This post is specifically for those men out there who want to impress their girlfriend’s family. In most cases, having great rapport and a relationship with your girlfriend’s parents are good things. Usually it means you’ll be together longer and the relationship will be stronger because it creates less stress for her to keep you around her world.
This is not for men who want to keep the girl as a fuck buddy because meeting a girl’s parents means you want to get serious. Be wise and honest with your choices.
However, this does not mean you should become buddies with the family members. There is this big misconception that you need to be FRIENDS or even father / son type with the parents. In reality, if you’re too close to her family, you’re going to be pushing your girlfriend away.
You are the one who makes her happy, sexual, and relaxed as she is able to take a break from her own life, especially emotionally. This is why she’s with you in the first place and it’s why girls don’t date their cousins; she wants someone unique, fun, and different from what she knows.
So, if you’re too close to the family and you become really good friends with her sisters, brothers, cousins, and even buddies with the parents you can get sucked into her mind and you have completely immersed yourself in her own life.
Where’s the escape? Where’s the divide from her life and yours?
This is something you have to think about and be careful of when it comes to getting along with your girlfriend’s family.
Getting Along With Your Girlfriend’s Family
Before you even step inside her house, make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into. You want to know her family member names, ages, occupations, and most importantly, traditions: do they hug? Handshake? Are you able to speak to her grandparents? What is respectful?
You might think this is too much, but honestly, if you have a rundown of what you’re going to get yourself into, you’ll have a better way of interacting and leaving a great first impression with them.
Remember, first impressions last forever.
Be Yourself With Her Siblings, Cousins, and Friends
Your girlfriend is with you because of your personality, so why not show it off to her siblings, cousins, and friends? There is no need to fake or tone down your personality. Of course, tone down the sexual interactions with her in front of them. The idea is to make them feel as happy as you make your girlfriend.
You don’t have to try hard, you just have to be yourself, and it’s this polarizing true self that they’ll appreciate.
Dealing With Her Parents
I’ve learned that her parents can be taken aback if you come off too strong. Her parents usually want the best for their daughter and they don’t want some guy hurting her in anyway. Therefore, you have to show that you’re a nice guy by well, opening up your personality… slowly.
The idea is to calibrate yourself until they’re ready to open up to you. Once the parents become comfortable and begin opening up to you, you’ll be able to start showing more of your personality.
In the end, you do want her parents to like you and you do want to be able to have a casual conversation with them. But, for right now, you have to be patient until they open up to you.
I remember making the grave mistake of going in for a hug when I first met one of my girlfriend’s parents. It’s my personality to go for hugs and they were taken aback. This is what I mean when it comes to prepping and slowly showing your personality.
They didn’t start giving me hugs until I was at their house for a couple more times and we could carry a fun conversation. So, be patient.
Don’t Go To Them When You’re Fighting
If you and your girlfriend are fighting, don’t be a dumbass and go to her family. More so than not, they will be watching out and will be on her side when it comes to almost anything between you and her. Therefore, just back off.
At the end of the day you can only do so much to get along with her family. It’s not a make or break situation if her parent’s don’t like you. It’s usually a breaking point, though, if you can’t get along with them. Remember, they don’t necessarily have to like you, but you need to get along with them. Respect, cordiality, and the ability to cohabitate with her family will make both your lives easier when it comes to dating.
You don’t want to seem like a threat. Rather, you want to be a guy they know will take care of their cousin, sister, grandchild, friend, or daughter.