Many of you have asked us to write this…
You’re at a charity event and you meet a hot girl, your perfect 8. You tell her that you don’t have herpes; she flirts back and then she gives you her number. You even set a tentative date where you’re going to meet her and distract her from her home life. You then part ways and give yourself a 6 second hug because you think everything went well.
Then, sometime later, you text her:
It Doesn’t Make Sense
You don’t remember her talking about a significant other or boyfriend. You think:
“What went wrong?! Why the hell is she backing out now, she’s a fool for not accepting the date, like I can’t believe she has the nerve to string me along! I’m not a cat, I’m a human being.”
We are very accustomed to this scenario. A few years back it seemed almost every number we got, the girl would come back with a statement like above. Or worse, she would go ahead with the date and during dinner she would say, “I have a boyfriend.” Well, there are now ways we handle and prevent situations like these from happening; I’m here to tell you how.
Remember
We’re talking about a girl you just met. Dealing with a friend who you want to turn into a lover is for an another time. This is about a girl you just met and is playing you like a Yo-Yo smacking coconuts off a tree. In this case, coconuts being your balls.
Solution
The first thing to consider is that you’re at fault in this situation. You can blame the girl all you want for teasing your pubes, but a true player understands that when something goes wrong, more than likely it’s your fault. Excuses are for chumps.
In our latest article we discussed how passion is very crucial when talking to a girl you just met. Though passion, statements, and confidence gets her participating with you in the conversation, many times we miss key words that can help us avoid the “let’s be friends” track.
The most common mistake is that during the interaction we are too scared to mention our true intentions. Yes, she’s laughing at your jokes and she’s intrigued by the words coming out of your mouth. But if you don’t say anything sexual where she fully understands where this conversation is leading, then the abundance of words spewing out of your mouth correlates to that of diarrhea.
Sexual Key Words
The words sexy, cute, and adorable are a good start. You can even go further by being blunt during the conversation, “I’m sexually attracted to you” or “You give me a boner.” I suggest weighing your options before saying the latter. The point is that before you part ways, you want to make sure she knows that if you hang out, there is a huge potential for sexual interaction.
However, the above words are not enough because there is a high chance she can view it as only compliments. So, you need to really ingrain in her head that when you hang out, lips will be interlocked. This can be done through direct planning during the conversation.
Planning
Telling her a plan allows her to imagine what she’s up for. It’s like getting excited for a movie because of its trailer, you’re providing that trailer. We like to be direct and fun when telling her about our upcoming prospective date.
“Because I have your number and think you’re sexy, when we go out our movie will surpass any MPAA rating.”
The idea is to be forward, super forward. And, if you’re really uncertain ask, “Do you have a boyfriend? girlfriend? a dog you occasionally do things with?”
You Do Everything Above – And It Still Goes Wrong
It’s at this moment that you can’t fall into the trap of getting angry, apologizing, or worse, deciding to be her friend in hopes that later in the future your bodies are wrapped together in a cocoon. Always be direct and tell her you don’t play games like she does. It’s either romantic shit or nothing else. Then, you move on and because she’s not worth your time.
I deal with such info a lot. I used to be looking for this particular information for a long time. Thanks and good…
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thanx for showing the example on the text learned alot but can't wait when you talk about turning a friend into a girlfriend
dudes I was having trouble with this a few days ago. why no post earlier?
I really appreciated the jokes in this one, keep it up!
a HUGE issue I'm having is when I do tell the girl we're going to do more than just "hang out." She agrees but then she doesn't respond later during the day. Girls are tricky man.
BBeing sexual with a girl that is insecure or has been played in the past can scare her away and put upna barrier to not hang out with you for protection. Although according to republicans you won't get her pregnant by raping her she needs to know that you won't rape atall
This should have been the video for yesterday.
These simple notes are really helpful. Keep them coming
Fantastic. Would have loved more of the planning texts.
If it doesn't work out in the long run, what's the problem with settling for being friends? Attractive female friends are useful, after you get used to interacting with hot girls, you have that confidence to up your game and get into god mode faster.
There is nothing wrong with it. However, are you going to do it with everyone? You have to draw the line somewhere because there are many attractive girls out there and they can't all be your friends.
if i get married u guys can fuck my bitch. based!
These articles are awesome, guys. Keep it up!!
What if you actually do have herpes? lol
Fucking love these articles. Keep them coming please!!
So what happens when you get a cute girl flirting with you and you finally get the guts to ask her out on a date. You actually use the word "date" she agrees and goes with you. More flirting and even a bit of body groping by her happens which leads to more dates. Then one day she just suddenly asks if you're into her and is shocked by your response. She then proceeds to tell you she was all flirty and groping because she's stoned 90% of the time and makes it clear she does NOT like you like that at all. Then expects you to still pay for that movie you are about to go see.
What happens? The most awkward movie of my life happens. It was also one of the Twilight movies
well i would knock her of her feet !
dont just take shit like that.
if a chick pisses me of i tell her in her face, that her behaviour sucks.
for example. once i asked wheter a girl was free the next day. and she said something like "if i dont go shopping or hang with my friend i am free" and i told her directly that my time, presence and niceness should not be taken for granted. i told her hat her comment was unaccaptable. because basically she said "if all else failes i would rather do something with you instead of being bored" … like wtf ??
she actually apologized and agreed with me that i deserve a better response than that.
the next day she came over and i persuaded her to stay the night…
so, if a chick does shitty moves like that i suggest showing some balls and standing your ground.
if she has such a weak character that she does just see you as threatening instead of strong willed and not easily manipulated her personality is not worth persuing in my opinion.
though, in all fairness, i do strive for great personalities in my women, so perhaps thats not your goal at all xD
guys these articles are informative and interesting. i love these new stuff much better than your last video with that asian girl.
Wow…awesome work once again guys! I think i'm going to start planting direct sexual things into my conversations now!
This will take some getting used to…and calibration. In the beginning while i'm messing up i'm going to be like, 'DAAANNNGG YOU SIMPLE PICKUP!!" hahaha
Here's goes nothing!
"Dealing with a friend who you want to turn into a lover is for an another time." i will be waiting for this one. im liking these articles though, very informative.
A true player makes sure to keep his phone at 69%. I'm disappointed.
It would be really awesome if you guys talked about your "pick up" journey. I know that I started approaching mid March this year inspired by your videos, but often I hit plateaus, have epiphanies, have good nights, shit nights (a lot of them), have times where I don't know what to do or am wracked with self-doubt about whether I can do this and where I'll be in 2 or 3 years time.
I often ask myself and my wings, "what do you think the simple pickup dudes did when they were at our level?"
Or "Do you reckon that had the same issues we have?" as we walk home after a rough night and lots of soul searching. It'd be so inexhaustibly invaluable if you shed some light on how you went from an anti social chump to a confident guy able to speak your mind over the years so guys like me could draw wisdom and hope! I mean, what phases did you go through? The dancing monkey putting on a show? The times you talked to much or too little? Did you start as virgins? Did you have problems fitting pickup into your college schedule? Did you have problems gong physical at clubs? Did you follow certain guru's then give up and move onto to other ones? Did you take boot camps?
It'd be so awesome if you wrote a long article about this.
yea it would make a great article or video. I am just starting out to socialize with girls, and sometimes i stop to think whether i am going the right away. How many rejections will i have to face before i hit some success? I dont see rejections as failures in any way at all. However, i am kinda little desperate to have a gf and get laid lol. We would love to hear your stories about how and when you started? How were first few weeks for you? etc….. Always bare love and respect for you guys!!!!
or a book
like The Game
by Neill Strauss
id read it any day
Shit.. I do not know whether I consider you guys as heroes every article I read is a fuckin mindblow.
i would love to see an article on some cheap date ideas
so i told her my intention, asked her on a date. we only met once at the club. i made it clear i want to spend the night having dinner etc with her. she replied in a 'you kidding? we just met.' manner but hasn't gave me a straight reply yet (i dont know how she's feeling atm). should i play it cool and relax a little. or should i keep my grounds and continue making it clear to her, how do i prevent myself from scaring her? would this have escalated a little fast? i assume not and im confident, but just making sure.
I'd love if you guys could write an article which talks about how to add (random/seen once/tagged in a friend's picture/many mutual friends) girl(s) on social networks like Facebook and any other minimizing the chance of her ignoring the request. This could include a personal message which one can send while adding her.
After that, it's on the player to meet her up which you folks have taught us pretty well!
Adding a girl on facebook is easy. However, if she doesn't know you that well it's not gonna be a fun time trying to convince her to hang out with a facebook friend. thats a little creepy man. I've done it before but only with some pretty easy/loose girls.
Stop begging, these muhfuckas give up so much free game. Be grateful and go pull some hoes.
My case: Last saturday I met a girl on a walk around a park. She asked for directions, and after I explained, when she wasn't sure where to go I suggested she walks around the park too and then heads back to where she wanted. So after some thinking she said yes. And it was really easy and interesting 3hrs we spent walking-talking. She is smart and good looking, looked interested and I was kind of cool for some reason so it was very easy.
Now, the trick. We mentioned what everyone does, and she is greatly involved with churches and these stuff, but we talked about it only during the last half an hour or so. She isn't a religious lunatic, just true chistian it seems.
So she mentioned I could come to the church tomorrow, which initially I agreed. Then at one point she looked too much interested and I openly had to ask, is this only because you want me to come to the church or what. She said God no, no way I am glad you asked that, you don't have to come of course etc.
So I said ok I believe you, since I really did, and that I will come.
We exchanged phone numbers and it was all very easy. We exchanged hugs and I gave her a small kiss close to the ear just to let her know I guess that I am interested, but she was very nice and it would be akward to kiss her approprietly at that moment.
Tomorrow I was at the service, she was next to me but we couldn't talk much and I had to leave after an hour because I already had arranged with a friend I couldn't ditch. So I left and texted 'sorry i had to leave in the middle, i can't let him wait too long. i will call you, i would like to see you again'. Later in the evening she says 'Don't you even worry about that. Talk to you later:)'. Since I promised, I called and left a message if she wants to go out some day during the week. No response until tuesday night when I called and she sounded a bit bitchy. Like she was very busy, it will be her grandma's 90th birthday (haha), then at the same time her friend called so I was 'on hold', and then she wanted to make sure we are just friends. I said I liked her, but she said she doesn't have too much time except on Sundays when she goes to church and sees her friends etc.
So which one of those it is:
a)she did like me but I blew it somewhere and she simply changed her mind. I should have been more aggressive.
b)she was interested to spend 3hrs with me only to bring me to the church, so I would donate 5$/service or whatever? Doesn't make much sense to me?
c)she was interested just to meet someone new as a friend. But why was she so nervous and kind of wanted me to like her. She could have been cool and draw me to the church without that..?
Any comments? Thanks.
Why don't you talk to the girl? If you want her as more than a friend then say it. On the chance she says no, then just keep swimming.
Agree with van. You may be disappointed if you fail but you're doomed if you don't try bro. You'll be amazed how life falls into place when you're confident and assumptive. Best of luck
She did basically say it already so I was thinking what she initially wanted and if she changed her mind etc. But I'll have to find it out myself when/if I see her. Thanks for reading.
Thank you for changing my life.
what if she's cute and nice so you'd actually LIKE to have her as a friend? is there something wrong with that?
Love the article! Make definitely more of these if you keep enjoying them, this helps a lot of players!
I love it and very true. Don't waste your time and give 0 fucks.
This good shit my friends…
Defs keep the articles coming! Very very insightful stuff. I'd love to see more videos tho, esp drunk times vids. I battle waiting a whole week !
Makes a lot of sense. Thanks for the insight!
Really helpfull.. Keep them comming! Would it be koo if u guys do like a step by step process thing.. That would be like… Freakin so helpful!! Thnx
thanks brahh
Awesome ! Love these articles
nice
so true the last part
Very well done
You guys don't need the 'an' in 'for an another time' under remember. It's only a small thing but it's always good to keep your articles as clean as possible. Cheers for the entertaining and inspirational material!
I like this shit
more please
ugh… friend zone… I fucking hate that shit… DX
This article was good, but I'm after some tips about getting something with a girl that you already know for a time and you want to turn it in on something more than just friendship. It would be really helpful.
dude I just spent the last year working on a girl and found out she just wants to be friends. so I agree. GIVE US THAT DAMN ARTICLE.
Listen, guys, Ive got many good friends, which are vags! Im so mad at them for being such pus**es and i want to change them. I want to prove that they are as good as anyone else and to show them that girls are going to like them just as they are!!! I tried giving them social acceptance by being rejected myself MANY times in front of their eyes, I tried being a BEST WINGMAN in the world and doing most of the work myself, BUT STILL NOTHING!!!
PLEASE HELP!!! I HATE PUS**ES!!!
you should give me some advices, you should be my fucking friend.. jajaja im a pu**ie.. i really am, i see cute girls and i cant talk to them because im always thinking in what if she rejectes me :S
In my frat house right now, with a terrible head cold and can't go out because I want to get better. A couple girls came over and up stairs.I walk out my room saying how hard it is to jerk off with all of this noise going on outside, and made them all laugh. I get some water and then come back up to talk to the cutest girl there and she asks me for MY number in less than 2 minutes. Let's fucking go boys. GJ simple pickup
Hey guys, i love all of the shit you are doing to help a brother, but i got a question, What happens if you know the girl for some time? You are already friends with her, but not best friend, kinda like ocassionally chatty friends, what you need to do then?
Well I’m just going to assume that you have her number, right? Going to set a scenario for you.
You see her one day (wherever) and say “Hey, you look gorgeous (beautiful or sexy) today.” She’ll say “aww thank you” and accept your compliment. Then you’ll tell her “By the way (say it with a smile), and I know I should’ve asked you first but I already set dinner reservations at _____, and I wanted to know if you would join me?”
If she says yes, your’re in the money!
If she says no, she’s busy or whatever, then ask her when she’s free so you can reschedule the date. You’ll be fine.
Hopefully, the Pick up gurus will help you and answer you with more detail.
I had this happen to me. I am proud of myself for talking to the girl in the first place (and i thank you guys for giving me the confidence to go right up to her and flirt with her), but she snubbed me and it's obvious she doesn't want me like i want her. I'm finding it really hard to just move on though(i don't want to go for other girls, i want her) and i really need some advice.
Well, it depends how you approached her. What exactly did you say to her? Because what you said to her may have raised her guard up, therefore disregarding you. Or maybe your not her type. However, don't be too persistent because it can creep her out. Another question is "Do you know if she has a boyfriend?" That may possibly be a reason for rejection. Hopefully the three gurus may help you out.
I know this girl who I like and we are pretty much really good friends I have known her for about 2 years and I think I might like her She always laughs at my jokes and we have a good time together but she also always talks to me about this guy she likes his name is "cris" anyways should I try to get her or just leave it alone? And if I do go after her what should I say or do?
you guys have been friends for 2 years?????she totally put you on friendzone.but based on my experience,i was friends with this really hot girl for a year and i make her laugh too.we really enjoy each other's company but when i told her that i liked her.she told me that i was "nice and a great catch"but she doesnt see me past the friendzone.and after that, the way i talk to her changed.i wasn't really direct at first.like what always simplepickup say that "say your true intentions".which i should really have done at first.long story short.we hung out one time and we made out.and that really tells something.im a friend with a lil bit of benefits but im really sure that im gonna get there.we're still great friends now.remember that be a nice guy but a nice guy that gets results.
Friendzone much?
People say "nice guys finish last" which I don't really agree with it. Too many people think guys who don't value themselves, or have much sense of self worth, aka slaves, as the "nice guys". NOT TRUE! A true nice guy in my opinion, that knows how to be nice to girls in the right way, also value himself at the same time. So in your case, your true feeling is to let her know you like her and you want to be more than a friend. You have to value your true feelings. So grab your balls, and go upto her and tell her how you really feel about her. And also tell her the reason why you have held it for so long (you being a pussy).
How do you steal a girl from her boyfriend? Write some boyfriend destroyers!
I don't really see why that'd ever be necessary… I've ruined an engagement and almost ruined a different girl's marriage. There are plenty of single girls out there that you can focus on.
i always sweat A LOT when i talk to hot girls, what should i do???
buy deoderant, and do deep breathing excercises b4 u go out and talk to girls, it helps lower the bitch butterflys
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