Many of you have asked us to write this…
You’re at a charity event and you meet a hot girl, your perfect 8. You tell her that you don’t have herpes; she flirts back and then she gives you her number. You even set a tentative date where you’re going to meet her and distract her from her home life. You then part ways and give yourself a 6 second hug because you think everything went well.
Then, sometime later, you text her:
It Doesn’t Make Sense
You don’t remember her talking about a significant other or boyfriend. You think:
“What went wrong?! Why the hell is she backing out now, she’s a fool for not accepting the date, like I can’t believe she has the nerve to string me along! I’m not a cat, I’m a human being.”
We are very accustomed to this scenario. A few years back it seemed almost every number we got, the girl would come back with a statement like above. Or worse, she would go ahead with the date and during dinner she would say, “I have a boyfriend.” Well, there are now ways we handle and prevent situations like these from happening; I’m here to tell you how.
We’re talking about a girl you just met. Dealing with a friend who you want to turn into a lover is for an another time. This is about a girl you just met and is playing you like a Yo-Yo smacking coconuts off a tree. In this case, coconuts being your balls.
The first thing to consider is that you’re at fault in this situation. You can blame the girl all you want for teasing your pubes, but a true player understands that when something goes wrong, more than likely it’s your fault. Excuses are for chumps.
In our latest article we discussed how passion is very crucial when talking to a girl you just met. Though passion, statements, and confidence gets her participating with you in the conversation, many times we miss key words that can help us avoid the “let’s be friends” track.
The most common mistake is that during the interaction we are too scared to mention our true intentions. Yes, she’s laughing at your jokes and she’s intrigued by the words coming out of your mouth. But if you don’t say anything sexual where she fully understands where this conversation is leading, then the abundance of words spewing out of your mouth correlates to that of diarrhea.
Sexual Key Words
The words sexy, cute, and adorable are a good start. You can even go further by being blunt during the conversation, “I’m sexually attracted to you” or “You give me a boner.” I suggest weighing your options before saying the latter. The point is that before you part ways, you want to make sure she knows that if you hang out, there is a huge potential for sexual interaction.
However, the above words are not enough because there is a high chance she can view it as only compliments. So, you need to really ingrain in her head that when you hang out, lips will be interlocked. This can be done through direct planning during the conversation.
Telling her a plan allows her to imagine what she’s up for. It’s like getting excited for a movie because of its trailer, you’re providing that trailer. We like to be direct and fun when telling her about our upcoming prospective date.
“Because I have your number and think you’re sexy, when we go out our movie will surpass any MPAA rating.”
The idea is to be forward, super forward. And, if you’re really uncertain ask, “Do you have a boyfriend? girlfriend? a dog you occasionally do things with?”
You Do Everything Above – And It Still Goes Wrong
It’s at this moment that you can’t fall into the trap of getting angry, apologizing, or worse, deciding to be her friend in hopes that later in the future your bodies are wrapped together in a cocoon. Always be direct and tell her you don’t play games like she does. It’s either romantic shit or nothing else. Then, you move on and because she’s not worth your time.