Most guys think that being ‘mysterious’ means acting like a lame Edward from those Twilight movies. Hiding away in the shadows of the night and being a whiny- invisible douche isn’t being mysterious. When you do this you’re setting your image up as a weak wimpy chump who will only get laid through something called ‘pity sex.’ Pathetic.
I’ve never seen or read any of the Twilight series, but I can only imagine that my penis would get sucked into my stomach if we promoted those movies.
Being mysterious means that she is constantly thinking about you in a way that makes her crave your presence. Think about it this way, you know when you meet a really cool hot girl, get her phone number, and she disappears from every line of communication; then, without hesitation, you find yourself checking her facebook, dreaming about her, even staring at her phone number; wondering where she is at the moment because you just want to see and talk to her again?
Holy shit balls, what a long sentence.
Yeah, it’s like that. Sounds creepy, but you know it’s true. Well, we call this the ‘Intrigue Hole.’
Simply, the Intrigue Hole is when you crave to know what you’re missing, have a huge assumption that what you’re missing out on is a good thing, and you’re wondering how you can see or view this good thing again.
Hot girls push us into this hole all the time, it’s now time to switch it on them.
The easiest way to stay mysterious is by crafting your hobbies, work, and anything which you think defines you. This also includes your family and friends in your life. By having a strong sense of identity and passiones you’ll leave the girl wondering and wanting to know more about you. People crave information and the more you know and have, the more she’ll want to be a part of your world.
Take for example George Clooney. He is not only an actor but also a business man who has friends all over the world, villas, and other hidden talents. Don’t you want to know where these villas are located? Who he knows? And the secret talents he has?
You may not be as talented or as rich as George Clooney (who cares), but you sure have a ton of things in your life that are special to you and if any girl learns about it she’ll fall straight into your arms.
I’m not saying this means that when you meet the girl you blurt out that you miss your grandfather, your idol, who died three years ago. Sentimental and inspiring yes, but the timing could creep her out. Ease her way to your life… slowly.
A way of doing this is by giving her clues to who you are during the conversation, clues to the information that she’ll hear soon only if she stays with you for a little while longer.
Her: Why do you like my shoes?
You: It’s something my sister wears and she’s right about the people who wear them…
Her: What does she say about them?
You: Well, my awesome 10 year old sister always tell me that those shoes are…
Her: Wait, where are you going?
You: I’ll tell you on the way as I walk to the coffee shop…
Her: *She Follows as you tell her a little more about your life*
Do you see what’s happening here? These clues create a sense of expectations that she’ll soon figure out your identity, who you are, and what you’re all about if she hangs out with you more.
People may think this is called “stringing them along,* but it’s not. You’re only stringing her along if you DO NOT tell her the information you promised her. And, you should have a shitload of information about yourself if your hobbies, work, friends, and any other passions you have are kept up to date.
Guys who don’t have their own identity or have a world that she wants to know about is going to be left out. You may be fun and make her laugh, but in the end she won’t crave you. You’ll just be another guy who doesn’t offer any intrigue, any mystery.
In one of our next articles we’ll talk about how to control this intrigue and keep her wanting to hang out with you more… but that’s for a later time.