How do you not get nervous around cute/hot girls?
“I have no problem striking up a conversation with an average looking girl…”
This is a common question we want to answer. We’ll go through the reasons why and give you the insights necessary to make it easier for you to talk to cute/hot girls.
Average Looking Girls
I’m not here to talk about the semantics about the traits of an average looking girl: honestly, to each their own. So, regardless of your own perception of average, I will tell you why they’re easier to converse with.
They Pose No Real Threat
They don’t make you horny enough where you’re thinking about them at night; you’re not proudly skimming over their facebook pictures. Because of their level of attractiveness, if they don’t want to have sex with you, it’s whatever. You can move on to the next one.
You know the saying, “she’s the one who got away.” Yeah, it’s not her.
So, because of this mentality you’re able to focus and judge her based on her personality rather than her looks. This makes you listen to the things she has to say: building rapport. If she’s cool you keep talking, if she isn’t you push her away.
These are the girls you think of on a daily basis. The ones that make you creepily guilty when you skim over their facebook photos (stop doing that), the ones whose beauty always stops you in the middle of anywhere you are, the ones who make you erect on the spot…
And, there are a few reasons why they’re harder to talk to:
You’re afraid that if you mess up when you talk to her she’ll vanish from your site, forever. This goes back to the “she’s the one that got away” mentality. Psychologically speaking, because we are afraid to lose something we see as valuable, we tend to be delicate and safe with it.
Well, because we view this girl as a “good-looking” valuable human being, we tend to be delicate and too safe with our approach: leads to our nervous anxiety.
Do you remember the last time you were really horny? How hard it was to do homework, eat your meal, and even walk around the house? You may think this theory is a little out there, but it isn’t because it’s true.
She makes you horny, which makes it hard for you to think, so you stumble and mumble when approaching her.
There will be many men who will be trying to go after her at the same time. Competition can make guys queasy so this is another reason why they don’t approach.
She’s Sociably Adept
Hot girls have developed a really good sense of social cues because they get hit on a ton and are more sociable. And, we as guys can feel their special sixth sense when we approach them. So much so that when end up talking to a hot girl, we know they’re judging us.
They’re judging to see if you can calm your ass down and have a normal conversation with them. Many men can’t handle this, so they just freeze up.
Everything above is pretty much the reason why average looking girls are easier to talk to than hotter ones. So, now we’re ready to answer your common question of this article.
How to Talk to Hot Girls
Build Up An Immune System
Approach and try to pickup every single girl you see on a daily basis. I don’t care if they look like an ogre or they look like a princess, try to pick them up. The more you do this, the more you’ll begin to understand the nuances that girls carry with them during a social interaction.
I’m not saying that every girl is the same, rather you’ll be able to see patterns with girls who carry the same traits. Believe it or not, many average looking girls can carry the same personality traits as hot girls. You just need to approach them to find this out.
Treat Them Like a Human Being
When I mean “human being,” I mean don’t treat them extra special. It’s easier said than done because your penis will always get in the way.
I’m not saying going above and beyond to treat them like shit; that’s not treating them like a human being. Instead if you find out they’re cool, then treat them how you treat cool people. If they’re not cool, then treat them how you interact with not so cool people.
Please understand that she farts, belches, and takes mad shits like everyone else. So, treat her how you interact with everyone else.
We like to be congruent in every situation that comes our way. This means that regardless if the girl is hot or not, we treat them equally. I’m not saying equally in a matter of taking the time to pick them up; obviously we’re only going to pickup the hot one.
But, when I use the word “equally,” I mean treating everyone with the same level of respect.
I hate it when a guy treats everyone around him like shit, but then when that hot girl comes around they suddenly change into the “nice guy.” This is a bad because: i) you’re not being congruent to who you are as a person and ii) hot girls can read a guys lack of congruency a mile away.
A guy who acts this way usually gets USED by the hot girl or, she just bluntly IGNORES him.
Tell her your true intentions. I’m not just saying to tell her that she’s cute. I’m telling you to tell her she’s cute and FOLLOW UP with your compliment by asking her out / getting her number / making out…
Do you know how many times she’s encountered a guy who says, “girl, you’re so beautiful” and then runs off scared?
Don’t be that guy.
Do you know how many times she’s encountered a guy who says, “can I have your number?” WITHOUT treating her like everyone else by not qualifying her to see if she’s a cool person or not.
Don’t be that guy.
Do you know how many times she’s had guys CREEPILY stare at her and do NOTHING?
Don’t be that guy.
Be the guy that can confidently approach her, who treats her like everyone else by qualifying to see if she’s a cool person or not, who makes it apparent his DIRECT intentions, and then who uses all that information to close.
It may seem complicated, but the more you practice, the easier it will become.
Use all of this information for your benefit.
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