How do you not get nervous around cute/hot girls?
“I have no problem striking up a conversation with an average looking girl…”
This is a common question we want to answer. We’ll go through the reasons why and give you the insights necessary to make it easier for you to talk to cute/hot girls.
Average Looking Girls
I’m not here to talk about the semantics about the traits of an average looking girl: honestly, to each their own. So, regardless of your own perception of average, I will tell you why they’re easier to converse with.
They Pose No Real Threat
They don’t make you horny enough where you’re thinking about them at night; you’re not proudly skimming over their facebook pictures. Because of their level of attractiveness, if they don’t want to have sex with you, it’s whatever. You can move on to the next one.
You know the saying, “she’s the one who got away.” Yeah, it’s not her.
So, because of this mentality you’re able to focus and judge her based on her personality rather than her looks. This makes you listen to the things she has to say: building rapport. If she’s cool you keep talking, if she isn’t you push her away.
That easy.
Hot/Cute Girls
These are the girls you think of on a daily basis. The ones that make you creepily guilty when you skim over their facebook photos (stop doing that), the ones whose beauty always stops you in the middle of anywhere you are, the ones who make you erect on the spot…
These girls.
And, there are a few reasons why they’re harder to talk to:
High Risk
You’re afraid that if you mess up when you talk to her she’ll vanish from your site, forever. This goes back to the “she’s the one that got away” mentality. Psychologically speaking, because we are afraid to lose something we see as valuable, we tend to be delicate and safe with it.
Well, because we view this girl as a “good-looking” valuable human being, we tend to be delicate and too safe with our approach: leads to our nervous anxiety.
Horniness
Do you remember the last time you were really horny? How hard it was to do homework, eat your meal, and even walk around the house? You may think this theory is a little out there, but it isn’t because it’s true.
She makes you horny, which makes it hard for you to think, so you stumble and mumble when approaching her.
Competition
There will be many men who will be trying to go after her at the same time. Competition can make guys queasy so this is another reason why they don’t approach.
She’s Sociably Adept
Hot girls have developed a really good sense of social cues because they get hit on a ton and are more sociable. And, we as guys can feel their special sixth sense when we approach them. So much so that when end up talking to a hot girl, we know they’re judging us.
They’re judging to see if you can calm your ass down and have a normal conversation with them. Many men can’t handle this, so they just freeze up.
Everything above is pretty much the reason why average looking girls are easier to talk to than hotter ones. So, now we’re ready to answer your common question of this article.
How to Talk to Hot Girls
Build Up An Immune System
Approach and try to pickup every single girl you see on a daily basis. I don’t care if they look like an ogre or they look like a princess, try to pick them up. The more you do this, the more you’ll begin to understand the nuances that girls carry with them during a social interaction.
I’m not saying that every girl is the same, rather you’ll be able to see patterns with girls who carry the same traits. Believe it or not, many average looking girls can carry the same personality traits as hot girls. You just need to approach them to find this out.
Treat Them Like a Human Being
When I mean “human being,” I mean don’t treat them extra special. It’s easier said than done because your penis will always get in the way.
I’m not saying going above and beyond to treat them like shit; that’s not treating them like a human being. Instead if you find out they’re cool, then treat them how you treat cool people. If they’re not cool, then treat them how you interact with not so cool people.
Please understand that she farts, belches, and takes mad shits like everyone else. So, treat her how you interact with everyone else.
Be Congruent
We like to be congruent in every situation that comes our way. This means that regardless if the girl is hot or not, we treat them equally. I’m not saying equally in a matter of taking the time to pick them up; obviously we’re only going to pickup the hot one.
But, when I use the word “equally,” I mean treating everyone with the same level of respect.
I hate it when a guy treats everyone around him like shit, but then when that hot girl comes around they suddenly change into the “nice guy.” This is a bad because: i) you’re not being congruent to who you are as a person and ii) hot girls can read a guys lack of congruency a mile away.
A guy who acts this way usually gets USED by the hot girl or, she just bluntly IGNORES him.
Be congruent.
Be Direct
Tell her your true intentions. I’m not just saying to tell her that she’s cute. I’m telling you to tell her she’s cute and FOLLOW UP with your compliment by asking her out / getting her number / making out…
Do you know how many times she’s encountered a guy who says, “girl, you’re so beautiful” and then runs off scared?
Don’t be that guy.
Do you know how many times she’s encountered a guy who says, “can I have your number?” WITHOUT treating her like everyone else by not qualifying her to see if she’s a cool person or not.
Don’t be that guy.
Do you know how many times she’s had guys CREEPILY stare at her and do NOTHING?
Don’t be that guy.
Be the guy that can confidently approach her, who treats her like everyone else by qualifying to see if she’s a cool person or not, who makes it apparent his DIRECT intentions, and then who uses all that information to close.
It may seem complicated, but the more you practice, the easier it will become.
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How do you start a conversation?
The best way to start a conversation is to walk up to her and say, "Hello." And then mention something you're actually generally interested about: either the environment, her, or just anything that you want to know about. Try it on the next person you encounter (girl/guy/whatever). You'll see.
With "Hi"
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what do you say after you say your opening line?
Don't think of it as an opening line, rather think of it as an OPENING CONVERSATION TOPIC. If you come in with a topic (read the answered question below) it'll be an easier transition for rapport.
im in love with her, we have already kissed a few times, but she doesnt like a relationship ( she never had one before) .. but im pretty sure she truly likes me, what can i do?
Ask her: “Where is this relationship headed?” Be confident and serious. See what she says. ALSO TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT as well.
What do I do if there are 3 girls at a table and only one of them is pretty?
Go in there and hit on the pretty one. If you can, separate her from her friends; not too far away, but maybe to the next table or something. This way, you can get on a deeper emotional level with the "pretty" girl. With this, you'll really connect with each other. Obviously, be yourself, but not in the creepy way; talk about topics that interest YOU, so YOU will have plenty to say and whatnot. For more, just watch their simpletips vids
Talk to all three of them as equals, then be direct to the PRETTY ONE your direct intentions. Of course, it’d be wise to tell the other two girls if you can join them at your table or if you can isolate the pretty girl for a quick minute.
Why aren't you making weekly videos anymore?
As in one of our videos stated. We want to produce high quality videos. Every video you see (every single one) can take a week to up to 2-3 weeks to produce. And, we're not a news show… so it takes longer for us to produce content.
Also, our team is very limited (it's basically us three guys). We're trying but you have to understand how many projects we are running at the same time.
How do i stop my cock from running away from my shorts and into her buttbox?
what if a girl thinks im a creep and i finalyl meet should i pretend not to know her or flirt with her and introduce my name?
Assuming that she thinks you’re a creep is where it goes wrong in the beginning. Just flirt with her.
Alright, my question… The bitch butterflies, you guys covered it in a video, but to be honest, I just can't get the balls. And I have pretty decent looks. I always find myself trying to finding a way to back out of talking to her. What do I do? I
If you think "she's like everyone else." It'll be easier.
How do you know if you're too young for pickup?
If you’re allowing pickup to get in the way of progressing in your life (school, jobs, career)…
damn, maybe i was just being a pussy and using that as an excuse after all.
how long did it take for you guys to cure you're anxiety and start gaming daily, and having that mind space where everything just FLOWS?
It’s still taking time. Everyday it’s like a new day; we have to start all over again.
haha thats exactly how i feel man, it sucks you got to bed and its sorta not there anymore. buts its cool hearing that it happens to you guys too
I have a question.
How do i talk to a hot girl at my college, who i've seen around for more than a year now?
I see her all the time and we exchange glances, and we've talked a few times only, but i feel as if its too late to say else now. How can i strike a convo with her to REALLY get to know her?
It's never too late. Since you've talked a few times go find a way to see her again: facebook, event, in class, anywhere. Don't hesitate just go approach her as soon as you can. Then once you see her don't talk about the "small stuff."
Be honest that you think she's pretty and you want to walk and talk a bit to see if she's cool: in summary (paraphrasing).
What's the best thing to do if I know she has a boyfriend but I know she's interested. Avoiding all the upcoming drama or just going for it?
Don't go for girls who are taken. Instead ask her if she has any hot friends. Don't be that guy, there are a BILLION girls in the world… why go for a girl who is taken? Stop it. Don't be that guy.
You guys are bosses. Would you ever consider project go with high schoolers?
The things we talk about, we feel is best suited for people who are 18+ However, many of the stuff can be related to high schoolers if they want to go for it (but in general 18+ to be safe).
is saying "you know you dance fucking sexy right?" a bad line?
Pickup lines in general is something we mock everyday. But, in general nothing is a bad line if you say it with confidence.
How to
How do you get over your own vaginaness and insecurities
Just DGAF
LOL the yolo mentality?
What do I talk about after the opening line?
Don’t think of it as an opening line, rather think of it as an OPENING CONVERSATION TOPIC. If you come in with a topic (read the answered question below) it’ll be an easier transition for rapport.
Let's say there's three girls, one's a little bit more attractive than the other two. How do you get the attractive ones number without making it super awkward with the other two?
We answered this same question in a previous comment (look below).
it's cool seeing you guys talking up to hot girls in america..but what if you're in a country which has different social mentality? if saying you're cute I want to talk to you is too wierd and maybe offensive?
We're actually headed to Asia in a little bit, we'll update all of you.
How do I get a girl I meet on campus to have sex with me?
I think we have a podcast on this… but basically, after the date -> walk to your place and invite her in. Or, have the date at your place (make dinner).
What if she's in a huge group of attractive guys and girls?
So what? Treat everyone as equals, blowout the guys, and focus on her.
how many girls have you each gotten with
We don't brag about the girls we've slept with, it's not cool.
how do you get the number from a waitress? what's the strategy?
Attract her enough and then tell her to write her number on a napkin / receipt.
How do i know if a girl is atracted by me? sorry if my grammar is not correct
You won't know until you approach, you can also see, hear, and view all these details on project go.
how big are your dicks?
Jason is half white/japanese, Jesse is Indian, and Kong is vietnamese… so you can only guess.
whats the best way to finger blast a girl on a bus
What kinda heat you guys packin?
how can you be polarizing without being and asshole? what is the thing to say to pull the girl? and should I take the girl to my place or her place?
The first two questions will take a few hours to run through (too advanced – project go). But the last question we can answer right now: I like her place because she's comfortable there and you can leave when you want.
How to get girls under a small portion of time.
You mean if you have like 5 minutes? Go up, talk to her, tell her you have only x amount of time, and then close. If you want more like a kiss or something… then if the energy is there – go for it.
Also, if you're a celebrity, they're more down to have sex with you on the spot.
How To Be A Total BAMF/Boss Or Show That You Are Really Legit In Front Of A Girl (Enough For Them To Find Interest In You)?
What is the difference between a "Nice Guy" and a good guy?
Nice guy is usually a coward who can't approach a hot girl and is really just a guy who hides his intentions. Good guys just doesn't take advantage of girls: a gentleman whose got game.
Saw you follow this cute girl on twitter or IG, how can you start of a conversation and get to know her?
Reach out to her via your twitter handle.
Have you guys ever tried the naked man from how i met your mother? (look it up if you dont know). would you? how effective would it be in your opinion? will you ever collaborate with LAHWF?
We actually did a podcast on this on project go. hilarious. ahaha
what would u do if u see a hot girl at school, and u realize that one of your really good friends is her cousin?
If her cousin is not dating her, then I say go for it.
Best way to escallate/ general tips?
If you feel it inside of yourself to kiss her, do it. we also go through some touching methods in project go.
What to do after making out to avoid awkward moments?
don't think it as "awkward" hug her afterwards or do a one last slow kiss (touch her face… hold her hands… bring her somewhere…just don't leave her alone).
what is the best way to start with the physical contact?
Jesse's move – hold hands.
How can I get a good looking girl to dance with me at the club when its too loud to start any conversation? I see guys walk up and grab random girls and start humping them from behind like they're a dog with an anxiety boner, but that really isnt my style. Is that seriously the best way to go?
We're actually writing an article on dance game. It's just taking a long process to write because it's so intricate.
could you diagram the club game ear trick, i read the description but do not know exactly how it should look
How come I don't see a Spanish person picking up girls?
how can i speak with a girl anf fuck her days after?
Should I go for the number the moment I feel I've lost control of the conversation?
What are some topics to talk about when you approach an attractive girl for the very first time? You guys say to let her know our intentions, BUT should we carry a short conversation with her and then let her know or what? Any way we could get an example dialogue?
There is sample dialogue in nearly every uncut video on Project Go. In every video, the first things that come out of the guys' mouths are a complement and stating they want to meet the girl. So that's what you always do first. Think about it.. if you don't show your intentions first, you lose the chance of catching her attention and just come off as a boring guy trying to have typical conversation. And if you cold approach a girl, she pretty much knows why you are talking to her. So NOT stating your intentions just makes you seem like a weirdo and someone who beats around the bush.
As in one of our videos stated. We want to produce high quality videos. Every video you see (every single one) can take a week to up to 2-3 weeks to produce. And, we're not a news show… so it takes longer for us to produce content.
Also, our team is very limited (it's basically us three guys). We're trying but you have to understand how many projects we are running at the same time.
How can you start a conversation with a girl if you only know b/c you follower in twitter or IG, but you think shes really cute/pretty?
Say what's on your mind. I would say: Hey I know we're total strangers (this makes it not weird), but i really dig your face (shows intention and evidence of attraction).
You have to realize that there is no secret to starting a good conversation. It's simply saying what you think and feel about the person and situation. Anything else is fake and won't take you anywhere in the pick up game.
what is the best way to keep the conversation random and funny
say what's on your mind and say funny things that are on your mind
Assuming that she thinks you're a creep is where it goes wrong in the beginning. Just flirt with her.
okay that not my problom…
if you can help me couse:
there is this cute girl that i really like in my class…
I can go to the HOTTEST girl around like a boss( ask my friends)
but when i get near the girl I like…she is very hot but i dont know why i have nothing to say and i just get silent…her friends are trying to help me with her and they tell me to talk to her and i tell myself to do that but nothing works…
should i just be streight forword with her?
and why the hell can i talk smooth as always to hot girls bt not to her?
What do you do if she's occupied with a friend her phone or earplugs? How do you isolate your intentions to only the one girl?
Im just 5'6 short, and because of that I lack a lot on self-confidence.
What can I do, to make the best of myself? Im afraid to approach taller girls, because beeing rejected hurts.
Chicks dig confidence. If you are going to be rejected it's going to be because of lack of confidence mostly and usually not for being short. I have a short friend such as yourself and he's not doing all that well with the ladies simply because he has no confidence in himself whatsoever. Build up your self-esteem and don't be afraid of rejection. And don't envy any of your taller friends. Being short is not the worst hinderance you can imagine.
Top five favorite approach lines?
If you're allowing pickup to get in the way of progressing in your life (school, jobs, career)…
It's still taking time. Everyday it's like a new day; we have to start all over again.
how do you let a girl know you like her without making it awkward? …im in highschool
just be straight up, be normal, greet her break the ice and then tell her how you feel about her
Talk to all three of them as equals, then be direct to the PRETTY ONE your direct intentions. Of course, it'd be wise to tell the other two girls if you can join them at your table or if you can isolate the pretty girl for a quick minute.
Don't think of it as an opening line, rather think of it as an OPENING CONVERSATION TOPIC. If you come in with a topic (read the answered question below) it'll be an easier transition for rapport.
Ask her: "Where is this relationship headed?" Be confident and serious. See what she says. ALSO TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT as well.
I want to see a Mexican pickup girls in your video becuase I'm not sure if Hispanics can do this without getting turned down by a Asian girl
dude…don't you're already shooting yourself in the foot. It doesn't matter what race/ethnicity/nationality you are. If you think she's pretty, go TALK to her. So what if one Asian girl turns you down….there's plenty of other cute Asian girls around. The thing you have to realize is that rejection is part of the game. For me I look forward to it, I EMBRACE IT lol. Trust me Josh, I know you got this. Just remember to have fun. It's kinda how I deal with the rejections also
thanks man
Dude im hispanic and tried to pick up girls a couple of and it works no matter where you are from
times *
If you're in the friend zone already is there still a way to get out of it?
If your girl is your crush, and she is a senior in high school…but you're a sophomore…
and there is little time, how shall i play this?but I got her number…
would these tips apply to a highschool senior like me who likes someone who is younger in grade 11 and not having any classes with them or talking to them ever?
Yea just do what they do in their videos just approach her and start talking.
When you going to the pick up, you usually say that she's cute, and them say every shit in you head or do you have something ready to talk?
I love ending "You got this player". Thanks to you guys i become a celebrity at school, .
I want to be like yall. I know I can it is just that I got the butterfly shits!
there's a cute waitress i'd like to get her number, is there any advice to approach to a waitress?
Check out Adam Lyons on youtube ..he has a video on how to approach a bartender (girl).
Ok now how do we text exactly? because I really don't get
how having "game" works when texting/calling females
Text her the same way you would talk to her when you aproach her… When you call her be yourself (the funny/badazz yourself) dont talk to much.. And in a conversation you have up and downs .. If you want her to remember you as a cool guy tell her that you gotta go when you have ups .. If you know what i mean!
Today the cops tried to arrest me for touching the girl in the arm in the shopping. It was fun though.
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Thanks, guys!
suks dude
Nice article SP.
Great article!
Little sidenote on the 'High Risk' part:
You mention the risk of losing something valuable. To me it is rather the risk she will show disinterest to you, combined with the increased respect she gets from most people, will make the perfect human being to disqualify you in front of everyone else. If I were alone with the girl, it would be much easier.
That is how it feels to me.
I know what im doing today
''Please understand that she farts, belches, and takes mad shits like everyone else. So, treat her how you interact with everyone else.''
Lost my shit here.
How to dance in clubs …
FUCK!!! I've been getting into PUA for like a year now and thought I could probably chat up a girl I like with ease without any practice (like I do in clubs while drinking). Saw this girl at gym today who was finneeeeee who looked at me a few times, but my bitch butterflies kicked in and I couldn't chat to her! I stayed an extra HOUR to get enough courage (mostly because people were around and she was was a friend), saying to myself 'stop being a little bitch, youre just nervous and she's just a girl'…… Yeah, she finally left…. Feel like shit. I'm going to go practice my arse off now.
Advice:: The main thing i'm concerned with is people around me. I know i shouldnt give a fuck but when it comes down to the moment, i do care!
Also, im scared that someone i know will see me or she might be a friend of a friend. I dont really want to go to another city……. PLEASE HELP!!!!!
Same thing happens to me
i need practice
did this exact same thing, trust me, u might not think it but if u ask with confidence, talk like a baws (boss) and if u get rejected don't get phased, ur friends/other people will respect u
note: remember u got this sh*t
Who wrote this article?
it was jason for sure. most of it
How do you know?
i agree on jesse,he looks the smartest of them.
There should be an article on how to be an extrovert because I doubt most people here like being a social person.
At least give us tips on the places to go just to build up our social life.
Because I mostly play video games. And i'm 20.
I second this. I am a huge introvert and have some pretty irritating social anxiety issues when it comes to talking to strangers. I know Jesse isn't a fan of babysteps, but for people who haven't had much social experience in their lives, jumping from A to Z can be way too daunting.
heres a tip. drop the controller. turn that tv off. get away from the computer. get in your car and drive to somewhere where people exist. and just force yourself to talk. first out of your ass. carry a notebook with you and write down whatever "a-ha" moments you have. read it before you go to sleep. rinse and repeat. You know exactly what to do, you're just not doing it.
I have been picking up girls for a while now because of you guys, and I was surprised by reading this article! Thanks a lot for the tips!
how do you guys be funny?????? im never funny around the girls pls help ???
I personally think it comes naturally…either your funny or your not. Everyone is funny in their own way. Just talk to a lot of girls and eventually the more comfortable you get the more things you can say around them to make them laugh.
Lmao this post is funny and helpful you guys made my day thanks hahahahaaha
Hello everyone!
I am sorry that I am going away from the topic, but I despretly need your help. So there's this neighbour that I like for a long time but have no courage to go over and talk to her. So.. a week before new years eve, she wrote me first on facebook and ocourse I replied, we talked about things and then she said "Why don't you come to my house and have a cup of cofee". I said "Well sure, we'll arrange a deal toomorow". So we did, and after the new years eve, I did went there. When I get to the door I ranged the doorbell and she showed up. An awkward moment happend there, I was expecting a handshake and raised my hand but I was lucky enough cause the hand was not that high and the door was blocking my way – so it passed unnoticed. She kissed me on the cheek though and we proceed to her room, where her friend was sitting. So we talked her brother came in. (He was my best friend from my childhood) I talked to him, she continued to watch her friend and they were smiling at eachother. We talked about lots of things, she even sat next to me and she was allways giving me a look and then look away. After everyone went out of the room (her brother her friend) we were alone, so we talked about our childhood a bit for school… etc… etc… I was trying to keep the eye contact as long as possible but I couldn't, but every time I was looking into her eyes she was sometimes laughing for no reason, and she kept pulling her hair back behind her ears, she was not doing that when we were not alone. So should I make a move, do I have the chance or should I retreat and go on? I am not that good looking guy, also there are two reason I am asking is cause I am supershy, I got a little bit of motivation watching you guys but still no courage to do it. And the other reason is her brother, we were best friends back in my childhood, what to do if he comes along his sister in my house, cause I want to invite them over my house for a cofee. I just really like her but.. I have no courage, that's why I am asking here.. please if anyone of you guys have an advice please share it with me I will be thankfull!.
Thanks in advance!
As you read in the article: "Be direct"! She obviously invited you over because she likes you! She fucked with her hair because she was nervous as hell, maybe more than you were in that situation. Next time you guys will be alone, take her hand, tell her you think she's cute and you like her and before she "wakes up" pull her closer and KISS HER! And she will think you are a motherfuckin' BAWS! Then tell your friend you like his sister and he will be cool with that. Even happy because he'll know her sister is in safe with you and not some random douche playing around her. I hope it helps. BE CONFIDENT!
Don´t worry about the brother!!!!! Try with, the girl and, if you have succes, then speak with her brother. If he is a truly friend he will understand. If not…ciao. I wouldn´t do something like that to a friend.
Try another date and escalate physically. If the thing is going good tell her the truth: You think she is gorgeus, you like her…but not like a chump! do it in a normal way. If she rejcts you, act like does not affect to you. And remember: Out there are tons of girls!
You are shy, well, i´m shy to. The only way to stop being shy is going out of our comfort zone. You have problems to say a girl you like her?? Then say to all the girls you meet. There no other way.
Keep going!
I Think you have a shot with her if you just go for it. You've got nothing 2 lose, everthing 2 gain
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the
''I was trying to keep the eye contact as long as possible but I couldn't,
but every time I was looking into her eyes she was sometimes laughing
for no reason, and she kept pulling her hair back behind her ears, she
was not doing that when we were not alone.''
could be a good sign. The laughing and pulling her hair back shows she's also a bit nervous when she is around you (alone). Alot of woman tend to play with their hair or just smile at you for realy no reason when their being nervous.
Just ask her for a cofee at your place, and just her alone. Then see what happens from their, mayby ask her out after that.
Bro. You could have done so many things when you two were alone inside the house.
- Call her out on her poor eye contact. In a teasy way.
- Play the question game to get to now her on a deeper level.
- Tell her how you feel about her. BE DIRECT!
All your other excuses are just make ups for you being a pussy. So…DONT BE A PUSSY! Be confident, be dominant, be assertive. Be a man that knows what he wants and goes after it. Don't be afraid to take chances.
To answer your question. Yes you should go for it. Tell yourself you have the chance. Never retreat unless she gives you a serious "NO".
GO for it man by what your telling me…all these IOI's shes likes you FOR SURE. Go for it and dont be a pussy. Kiss her.
Hey guys, you should do a video on picking up girls at the gym, for the reason that is a place were there is a lot of hot girls and it could become challenging because they are focus on working out.
I approuched an incredibly sexy blond today , was very direct but I swear this has never happened to me before…I was litterally shaking!! my head was shaking…mentally I wasent that nervous but my body was showing it a LOT. I told her That I was just incredibly intimidated by her and I dont do this often but it seemed my nerves got in the way…whats the best way to destroy this nervousnous that appears out of nowhere? Do I just continue putting myself in those situations and slowly will it get less? my head was shaking and my hands wow….lol im fine now though was only temporary thankfully:D
You are shaking and are nervous because you have the mindset that shes extremely attractive and that you hope you dont fail. walk in there THINKING that you're going to fail and u wont be as nervous, treat her as any other girl. hang in there player
You guys should definitely come to the UK in England, I need confidence to talk to English girls. In my mind, English girls are hard to pickup.. Need help!
How about instead of asking the same questions people ask over and over, just subscribe to project go.
You should come to Puerto Rico… They are not easy to pick up as Americans… THESE IS ANOTHER LEAGUE!
You may think there is a 'league' when it comes to talking to girls, you are mistakenly wrong. But if you were just joking around and being sarcastic, then i feel like an asshat…
Will be done master!
What happened to your "how to turn a friend into a lover" article????!!! I really liked that!!! I saved it as a bookmark too….
Great article guys, made me laugh numerious times. Really nailed this subject, keep 'em coming. You are truly inspirational. Now it's up to me taking action!
Today (Friday) I talked to a girl, asked her phone number, and she rejected me. Friends around me laughed, and said "that's the most hilarious thing I've ever seen". What should I think about that failure?
I think that you should be proud that you had the balls to ask for the girl's number and maybe you should laugh about it too. It happens you have to go through some no's unto you get yes's. I would think about anything that you could've done better. You seem pretty cool.
thanks dude, I just needed some more inspiration to keep trying, and you just gave it to me. You're cooler for helping people out. Have a nice year!
ummm, maybe all ur friends are pussies? they probably will go hom masturbating imagining that it was meant to be, whilst u will know she's a bitch. Keep doing it and they'll think ur a baws
Success comes after failing several times. I think that your friends are not bold enough to talk to a girl, as you did, so keep up talking to girls
you should be pretty happy that you are approaching girls irl. it's not a failure, it's experience
next time it will be easier 
be well player
keep your head up at least u had the balls to talk to her while everyone didnt just keep trying to talk to other girls
IMO you should think just agree with them and think "that's the most hilarious thing I've ever seen"! The rejection doesn't mean that you suck, obviously you're a boss just because you're willing to be bold and approach the girls you like.
Try to look at it from a (positive) 3rd person's perspective: a) if she likes you, you're a boss. b) if she rejects you, that's a short hilarious event and you're still a boss for trying. You'll also probably feel a bit looser and won't care so much if the next girl likes you or not –> more fun for you –> more fun for her.
I have a question. Would you say the comment, for example, "You're cute", and then ask for her number? Wouldn't that be too direct? What would you say in between? Don't tell me "anything", I need conversation starters and questions.
be as enthuisiastic as u can and ask where she lives and BAMMM throw in "are they all as fine as u their" then see her reaction if she's smiling then ur in and proceed playing the question game (how to approach a girl video on youtube) and if she doesn't smile, NEXT
You have so many of their infield videos that you can watch (youtube, project GO, etc). What is the point of asking for a typed response of what to say? Think!
Tell her your intentions if she smiles and laughs you keep talking.if she responds in a negative way just walk away.she dosent know you and you don't know her it doesn't matter its done move on to the next girl and you'll.Build more confidence and exitment THANKS KONG AND JESSE AND JASON
Fapped hard to this pic
I personally dont think you should text her like you would talk to her in real life. Maybe if you call her you can but not in text game.
Ok that awesome you got the number… now schedule the date, and go from there. if you need extra help you can email me [email protected]
good so you got the number. now you need to schedule the date. and go from there if u need any extra help you can email me at: [email protected]
After you open you can say something along the lines of: Come here i wanna talk to you (target) . (to friend) im going to borrow your friend for just one second i promise i'll give her back. (target) Im so not giving you back (while dragging her away from her friend) if u need any extra help you can email me at: [email protected]
If your losing control of the conversation you need more practice. Go for her number when you feel you've built enough rapport with her so that shes not likely to say no. even if she does say no, whatever, onto the next girl. Stay at least 30 seconds after you get the number, so she doesnt feel uncomfortable giving you it and you just storming off. if u need any extra help you can email me at: [email protected]
If your planning on seeing this girl again you can say: Do you do this often? girl: do what? guy: makeout with random strangers?. girl: no (blush). guy: did you like it? girl: yea. This may sound really awkward/weird but it eliminates the thought she might have later which might be her regretting that she kissed you, but this way shes making up her mind right away if she regrets it or not. this usually works if you just met her. if u need any extra help you can email me at: [email protected]
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Hey I couldn't find a way of writing down my own comment, so I chose this guys! Kong, Jesse and Jason I wanted to tell you guys I live in london and you probably don't give a shit but the nights out at club's here in london are different, I mean I see some videos of just girls walking around smiling in LA or wherever they are filmed, but the atmosphere when your walking around west end in london during night is different, should I move to America or just make the best of it here?
, guys do you think its pretty cool that I became a little pua at this age?
+ I'm very confident and I have been going out to london and I got a confession to make I'm only 17, and I just got into the Game because its fun and opens new doors in life, and if you want to know how I get into clubs I use fake I'd obviously, girls think I'm 22 most of the time and I'm pretty tall I'm 6ft2, and btw I am half russian and half kazakhstan, so I look Asian like kong
If you don't get this post ill post it at several pages. Btw I'm using a phone atm.
The first time i started getting into "game" i was 14! I read ebooks and watched alot of youtube vids on pickup and read ALOT about it. I am now 16 and i have amazing game and its gotten me really far. I have older friends that are in their early 20s that are amazing at picking up women and they taught me sonce i was 14. Its never too early to start 17 is a great age to start. You can email me if you got any questions at [email protected]
look for IOI'S (indicators of interest), some big ones are if shes playing with her hair while talking to you, laughing at something you said which isnt really all that funny, or touching you in a flirtatious way. There are a million different things girls will do. look it up on youtube maybe.
Shove your IOI's up your ass and approach
I flagged you because I thought it was the fag button
This is really helpful!
thanks bros
There is only one Man who Will make you completely fulfilled, and that Man is Jesus. I promise that if you seek him and let him into your heart you will experience rest and Everlasting Joy. I pray that you will take this message to heart and experience TRUE Happiness in Jesus. God Bless. ps. Pray to Jesus about all of your problems so that he will help you like he has helped me always.
That makes sense can use tell me more About that?
Seems legit, although I can't relate to that "Horniness" theory..I've been on the no fap challenge since the end of 2012(as apart of my new year's resolution) and as a result I've been more motivated to approach and other side effects include not getting a boner whenever I approach hot girls lol…hope I get laid soon tho, Im feel like Im getting blue balls
Guys just change lives!!
If you guys need any help at all don't hesitate to email me at [email protected]
Should I approach a cute waitress any different? I need tips for approaching woman while in their place of work!
Hey, i got a question. I met this girl in town who was stunning. We talked for about 10 min until i had to leave and it went pretty well. I added her on Facebook and she accepted on that day. What I'm wondering is how should i start the conversation and keep it going which will make her interested in me.
Thanks in advance
Did you get her number also? Because if you didn't, then you my friend made a huge mistake. I'm 23 yrs old and the girls I meet nowadays I DON'T add them to facebook. Personally I think that screams "I want to be friendzoned." However in your case since you said it went pretty well, you still have a chance. This is what you do:
1. When you fb message her, start with something random e.g "hey what are you up? wanna go steal watches from kmart?
2. She'll respond however (laughing, weirded out, or whatever) But SHE WILL DEFINITELY RESPOND.
3. Depending on how that goes, try to bring up something yall talked about when you first met her. You guys will probably go back and forth a couple of times having good laughs and such.
4. Then you hit her with this line, "ok messaging you is way fun, but just might have to ask you hang out sometime…" <—- the keyword is "sometime"
5. more than likely she'll respond favorably
6. Then you'll say, "what's your number? I'll let you know when things are chill…"
7. BAM! you're in lol. Then text her 2 days later and start with something random or a joke e.g. "I just met your twin". She'll respond, you guy will go back and forth (but don't drag it on too long)
8. Then text her something like "when does your stomach and schedule have an opening?"
9. From there, everything should fall into place
Hey, I got a question. I met this this at a seminar but never managed to talked to her. I want to add her on Facebook but it looks like she's not accepting any (considering that there's only the message option on her account profile). I want to add her up and be friends with her but I don't know where to start. Please help me and thanks in advance.
What if I end up not finding the girl very interesting? Do I still get her number? Am I misleading her or are my standards just too high?
What if I talked to a girl once before and complimented her, but i still wanna talk to her? What should i say the next time i see her? and she's hot.
Just talk to her again. I was at this engineering conference (thurs-sun) last weekend in Indianapolis and I was in your shoes. Except that I kept seeing her every now and then because we went to the same events. She was with her group and I was with mine. At the final party Saturday night (I should've acted sooner but oh well) I went up to her and said, "I like and I want you. We can do this the hard way or the easy way. The choice is yours…" She gave me the digits. Only thing is I'm in Houston and she's in New York lol. But hey, I took a chansey. Go out there man, you got this!
what happens if the girl is taller or slightly older than you?
I’m really dying to get with my professor . Not only is she hot but she’s professional too( I’m a junior in college) . I’ve notice she out if like 115 students she tends to remember me more and cnt seem to know why, which gives me more of a reason to hit it. Help me to get with that .
I get scared to talk to a girl because I don’t know how to keep a conversation going. How can I get over this? How can I start a convo.?