How To Keep Her Faithful

It’s a fact that hot girls are usually surrounded by guys that are publicly or secretly fawning over them. So, in all actuality, it’s going to be pretty common that the girl you’re with will a) have a lot of guy friends, b) be approached by other guys, and c) be given things most girls don’t receive (gifts, access to free shit, etc).

So, how do you make sure your girl stays faithful amongst all these forces trying to pull her away from you?

Let’s face it: 90% of her guys friends would fuck her if they had the chance (but this discussion is for another time)…

Before we get into the structure of how to keep her faithful, I want to tell you the number one thing you have to grasp before we get into anything: keeping her faithful all starts internally. 

This means that you have to create a mindset that your girl will stay faithful. If you think otherwise (in your head), it will transgress and influence your body language and your behavior around her – you will act needy, talk needy, and generally be needy. And, remember, neediness is the #1 thing that detracts any (if not all) attraction that your girl has for you.

Anyway, the primary thing to keep in mind is you cannot worry if she’s going to cheat or not, because the more you worry about it the more likely hood that she will cheat on you.

How To Keep Her Faithful

The best way to do this is to make her understand that you are the only man in her life, the guy that makes her feel the happiest, and that you’re also too great of a guy to cheat on. Yes, there are other men out there who give her things and make her laugh, but at the end of the day, she only wants to be with you. So, fuck those other guys.

How do you keep her happy and make it known you’re too great of a guy to cheat on?

By being the guy she first met (that’s why she’s with you… right?). So, keep being yourself. Understand that doubting your girl’s faithfulness stems from insecurity. You need not be jealous or wary because you are “THE MAN.” Once you get that in your head, the situation will be better. However, “trust issues” are sometimes normal and can be remedied by following three guidelines.

1) Give her the time she deserves (you’re together… aren’t you?) 2) Make it extremely clear to her that if she does cheat that you will no longer be with her 3) You both should have open communicate to express how your relationship works

Number II is very important because most guys have struggles leaving a girl they really, really like if she cheats on them. But, you have to make it very important to push through if she does.

In addition, here are some other tips to remind your girl that you’re too good of a guy to cheat on:

i) Keep surrounding yourself with hot girls who find you attractive. The idea is that you are a “wanted” man. Because other girls want you, she’ll want you even more (keep you/doesn’t want to let you go).

ii) Continue doing the things you’ve done over your past interactions with her because, again, she’s with you for you. And, if you change this in anyway then you’ll lose her.

iii) Give her space! Every girl needs space and if you’re too clingy, she has more of a reason to want to break free from your grip and fall into another guy’s arms (behind your back). Give her space and make her miss you. However, if you’re too distant, you’ll push her into another guys arms. Remedy this by giving her the space she needs, but letting her know that you’re there for her when she wants or needs you, which ties into the next tip…

iv) Communicate. This can’t be stressed enough. If you both can communicate your needs and wants, then she’ll get a better understanding of who you are and what your guidelines are when it comes to relationships.

v) Stay faithful yourself. If you don’t want her to cheat on you, then don’t cheat on her. It’s really that simple.

Ending Notes:

I’m not going to lie and say that if you follow my advice, your girl won’t cheat. All I know is that doing the aforementioned suggestions above will make it less likely she will even want to cheat. Some girls are just cheaters and there is rarely something (if anything) you can do to keep them faithful. But, if she is a cheater, you need to stay strong and force yourself to get out of the situation and dump her right away.

There are no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it, and you should always be making this very clear when talking to her.

You don’t deserve some fucking cheater. You deserve better.

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135 Responses to How To Keep Her Faithful

  1. Heaven Sent May 14, 2013 at 11:20 pm #

    Why haven't you guys been posting on SimplePickup2 ?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

      Simple 30 has taken a lot of time for us to do. However, we're going to be doing some new adventures soon and we'll be uploading them in the upcoming weeks.

      • mike May 15, 2013 at 5:09 am #

        i recently ran into a french girl while shopping she was with her friends we talked for a bit then exchanged numbers we were suppose to hang out later that night never heard back from her a day later she writes me on facebook i try to meet up with her but shes all over with her friends and leaving the next day i tell her lets meet up lateron id bring a friend for hers she says their going to the bar i tell her skip on the bar since shes leaving tomorrow and well hang out ill send you back with the experience we just shared she never got back at me was there anything i could have done different?

        • Cardo May 19, 2013 at 4:00 pm #

          Although I’m not simple pickup, I can say you should just forget about her. From the time you see her all over the place that could mean 2 things. 1. She’s a party girl or 2. She’s avoiding you. Just keep searching my friend

    • Sammy June 28, 2013 at 3:12 am #

      Right?!

  2. Joe May 14, 2013 at 11:22 pm #

    This is not so relevant to the article but I hope you answer. Sometimes when I go out I hit the jackpot and in a gd mode but sometimes no matter what I do I can't get to that state. I sort of feel like I am forcing myself and it only gets worse and worse. How do I handle this. Thanks

    • Sirch May 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm #

      THIS. This happens to me all the time.

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:27 pm #

      Sometimes the best way to get yourself back in the mood of God Mode is to take a step back and rest for a bit before you go back out. Then, start energizing yourself through push ups or jumping jacks (then approach).

      • kakarot January 25, 2014 at 9:22 am #

        I love my girlfriend. I think we have a great relationship, and I definitely do not want to break up. How do I tell her I need a few days to myself without creating any sort of tension on the relationship? I see her all the time and just feel like I need the time to recharge and think for myself. Seeing the same people all the time really throws me off my natural cool state.

  3. Kong May 14, 2013 at 11:23 pm #

    or you could just fucking her

  4. John May 14, 2013 at 11:23 pm #

    How do you build that attraction when you interact with a girl thats with her mom? how do you get that 1 on 1 moment?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:28 pm #

      In Project GO, we actually have an episode where we teach you how to approach girls who are with their moms / parents. But to give you a short rundown, the easiest way is to approach normally and then ask the mom if she's okay with what you're doing (get the phone number / explain / isolate).

  5. Kong May 14, 2013 at 11:23 pm #

    keep*

  6. Sirch May 14, 2013 at 11:23 pm #

    Worst experience ever with pickup? Any fights, reports to the police for harassment, anything? Out of curiosity!

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:30 pm #

      I will start off with one that happened about 4 years ago. It isn't really the worst experience I've had with pickup, but rather as I was picking up a girl she was actually a married woman. Then, once we got together her husband actually found me (he was a military man) and almost beat the shit out of me. But, I can go on for hours explaining the story in detail but this will be for another time.

      • Sirch May 14, 2013 at 11:33 pm #

        A story for another time? I'll hold you up to that! You guys should make a video at some point explaining your worst pick-up stories. I think a lot of us would find it interesting and informative. But ya know, that's could be just me.

  7. Jeff May 14, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

    Do you guys use facebook or stick to texting?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:30 pm #

      We normally stick to texting.

  8. ElixirDnB May 14, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

    If you meet a seemingly perfect girl but she has a boyfriend, would you orbit her or look for someone else?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:31 pm #

      We would ask for her to introduce her to her hot friends. Basically, yes, look for someone else (making girls cheat on you… isn't really our thing).

  9. Anthony May 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm #

    Where are the best places to pick up girls as a highschool/college student? I have been talking to this one girl for a while, but she doesn't like me so I need to find more girls. Thanks man!

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:31 pm #

      The best place to pick up college students is on the college campus itself / community groups.

  10. johnccc May 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm #

    how do you convince a girl to be a friend with benefits?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:33 pm #

      We actually answered this question in one of our Project GO podcasts. But, it's basically (simply) being honest with her as best as you can. Tell her your intentions.

  11. Paul May 14, 2013 at 11:26 pm #

    My fwb partner is shy to kiss in public,but she's nothing like that when we're alone.I mean it's not that she's unexperienced she just says "idk..i just feel uncomfortable in front of other ppl".

    What should I do,to stop thinking like this?

    • Paul May 14, 2013 at 11:27 pm #

      to stop her from thinking like this*

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:34 pm #

      If you want her to do more than tell her your intent. But, to be fair… you guys are fwb, which means you're not in a relationship. Therefore, kissing in public is actually like acting like you're in a relationship. So think about that.

  12. Jesse May 14, 2013 at 11:27 pm #

    My girl gets constantly hit on by her ex and she doesn't really blow it off. She says he was an important part of her life and won't stop talking to him. She's been faithful but I don't like the whole situation. What's the best way to ask her to stop talking to him?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:35 pm #

      Tell her the rundown. Basically say, it's either "him or me." I know he was a big part of her life, but you must understand that she is playing with fire when she allows him to enter in her life (communicating). And, it's offensive (to you) if she keeps doing what she's doing.

      Be stern, but thoughtful at the same time.

    • Zach May 15, 2013 at 4:21 am #

      The advice Simple gave really does work! I actually had the exact same situation a few months ago when I started dating my GF and I had to figured out on my own what to do. I ended up doing exactly what they said and it worked prefect. She basically removed him from her life and he has not been an issues since.

    • Mr. Clean August 11, 2013 at 7:02 am #

      Look, it's really as simple as you stating your (functional) expectation, and enforcing it through reward/punishment. This in turn defines your boundaries and the boundaries of the relationship. You're the man, and you're the one who has to lead the relationship in the direction you want to take it. If your expectation (make sure it's functional; not dysfunctional) isn't met, then enforce it–punish (ex. rejection). Functional expectations benefit everyone and are reasonable; dysfunctional benefit no one (not even you really) and are unreasonable.

  13. Desiviza May 14, 2013 at 11:27 pm #

    So im texting few girls. However, im always the one to start the conversation. Although they usually always respond, they never text me first. Does that mean they are not interested in me? How is the case with you guys?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:35 pm #

      Most girls rarely reach out to guys first, unless they need something. As long as they're responding and you're setting up dates with them, then you're good.

  14. Sid May 14, 2013 at 11:28 pm #

    My girl has many guy friends (whom she would maybe to go lunch with, hang out at school while waiting between classes ,etc.). Yell at me if you want, but while sneaking through her texts, I've noticed a couple guys who she has been texting as if I wasn't in her life (we got back together after a month break up and she continued to text these guys as if we weren't together still). Planned to go Disneyland, hang out, etc. She really talked to them as if she was interested in them, and they were OBVIOUSLY interseted in her. One of the dude went on a date with her between our break up and she told me how it was the worst date ever (probably an exaggerated lie) and wont ever go on one with him again, yet she keeps texting him!)
    After confronting her like a man and walking out on her (her response and reaction to my very reasonable confrontation was unapologetic), she began texting me apologizing and saying she wont do it agian and whatnot.

    Now, how can i trust her today? I haven't been looking through her phone and haven't since, but should I really just trust her like that?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:38 pm #

      This is a very complicated situation and it's good of you to walk out on her like that. Should you really trust her? Well until there is a reason for you not to, then yes. However, if it really bothers you, ask her what you want to see BECAUSE of what has happened in the past.

      It's a sticky situation, like I said before, but I would suggest just trusting her because of what you pulled earlier. However, I will say that if you're still having trust issues then you should a) talk to her about it b) leave.

      • Sid May 14, 2013 at 11:46 pm #

        ma niggas. amongst all your goofyness and vulgarity, you guys are some smart and intelligent people.

        appreciate the response!

  15. Kevin May 14, 2013 at 11:28 pm #

    This is going to sound completely random but after being a huge fan of you guys, I noticed that you guys have very nice straight WHITE teeth. This has nothing to do with this article but It would be nice if you guys could answer it. I'm sure other guys want to know as well. My question is, did all of you guys have braces in the past and HOW did you all whiten your teeth? It's not a big issue, but I'm sure if you had nice teeth, the girl will sub-cautiously know.

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:38 pm #

      We use crest white strips. And, most of us actually have crooked teeth, but the "whiteness" of it makes it look straight. It costs around $40 and it'll whiten your teeth in two weeks.

  16. Paul W May 14, 2013 at 11:30 pm #

    Hey guys. You answered my last question of how I should tell this girl I don't want to jump into a relationship right away. So I did and it worked out and we both decided we're not ready to be in a relationship. Now my question is, How do I know that shes still interested and not just putting me in the friend zone slowly but sure? She does text me first most of the time and she responds positively to my compliments and gives me some but is there a way to know if I'm slowly going into the friend zone?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:53 pm #

      If they like you, overtime girls will want to "be with you." And, you have to understand that because she wanted to be with you and you didn't… well she has to psychologically push you away. Yes, she may be having sex with you, but at the end of the day either a) you're going to be with you b) she's going to leave you.

  17. Dap May 14, 2013 at 11:31 pm #

    What do you do about your girlfriend when she genuinely believes that "90% of her males friends DON'T want to fuck her" (When, as guys, we all know that they do).

    My missus got really pissy when I brought it up, and she genuinely believes that her guy friends don't see her that way, to the point where she will throw a bitch fit about it (which is a shocking reaction considering I'm not having a go or anything).

    This kind of thing really bugs me in a relationship, I understand everyone has different opinions, but this is fact, right?

    • JesseKongJason May 14, 2013 at 11:56 pm #

      This is fact. I say let it go for now until her friend does something is very obvious that violates your relationship. The best case is to never throw a pissy fit yourself, just be calm and explain what's happening and your insecurities.

  18. simonsays May 14, 2013 at 11:34 pm #

    How do you guys come off from genuine in the interaction? Ive done so many sets its like im reading a script, and they feel it and i get blown out

    • JesseKongJason May 15, 2013 at 12:04 am #

      Be genuine by talking about whatever comes to mind, right away. Stop using scripts.

      • Nigel May 28, 2013 at 10:50 am #

        Please answer this, do you guys write down random ideas that can make a girl feel special?? or just ignore them. I'm asking this because I don't know what to do when i have some crazy ideas and I don't wanna make fool of myself taking note of them.

        Is it worth?

  19. Joseph Bonhomme May 14, 2013 at 11:36 pm #

    Hey guys I have a question Ive been meaning to ask. Im a serious laiúd back kind of guy who is kind of intense. I have anxiety and whenever I want to talk to this hot chick i go in but I just freeze. I get in my head and I zone out. How could i snap out of it and be myself without making her uncomfotable with my intense vibe and anxiety. Thanks

  20. danny May 14, 2013 at 11:37 pm #

    Hey simple pickup crew. I want to thank you for teaching me how to reach God Mode. Im sharing the knowledge with others. One quick question. I record my self and this last Thursday I made another approach. Everything went smooth. I texted the girl "This is a VIP #, store with care" from one of Jesses videos. She hasnt replied. 1. she offered me her number afters asking her if I would see her again. 2. we are in the final 2 weeks of school. What should i do?

  21. Bryan janssen May 14, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    Hey guys!
    I was wondering if keeling things interesting is a good way to svoid cheating?
    And whats is a good way to keep the things interesting?
    Thanks!

  22. Blaz May 14, 2013 at 11:44 pm #

    I hope you'll still reply. What do you do when a girl says "i have a feeling im being cornered" and "our relationship is moving too fast, i haven't had a serious relationship before" ? We've been together for 6 months now and it's been absolutely great, but today she told me this.
    I know what went wrong, she went to a concert last week and i doubted her faithfulness. I told her the next day, that I had a bad feeling (our relationship always revolved around honesty and trust, and we'd discuss every problem; i told her that i want honesty and to fix problems immediately). She really seems upset about this. It was a foolish mistake of me to doubt her. Should i just give her space and freeze her out ? Can you give me any advice?

  23. Kevin May 14, 2013 at 11:48 pm #

    Where do you guys get your V-NECK shirts at?

  24. rahul May 14, 2013 at 11:50 pm #

    Hey Guys, what does your basic schedule look like for a day? You guys have been doing so many new projects, do you ever even get some time to like…relax?

  25. AJ Hajie May 14, 2013 at 11:50 pm #

    Im startingsomethng called mini pickups and its based from you guys except more highschool and were starting it in uruguay then south africa and beyond, can you give us any tips or advice?

  26. Jay May 14, 2013 at 11:50 pm #

    My girlfriend has told me she has cheated on every previous boyfriend, just kissing other dudes. But when I tell her that if she ever did that to me it would be over there and then, she doesn't understand why… like she thinks a kiss is easily forgivable, and that it may happen even though she doesn't want it to. Why would she kiss another guy if she loves her boyfriend.. do all girls create drama like this??

    • Cardo May 19, 2013 at 4:04 pm #

      Dude dump the chick I’m having a feeling you would want to slap the shit out of her

  27. iflao002 May 14, 2013 at 11:50 pm #

    how to pickup girls at hooters? (or other hot girls who are working)

  28. Alexander May 14, 2013 at 11:51 pm #

    the most common, in me, i talk a lot and when i have a real a chance doesn't work. I follow this steps but i don't know why i failed all the time

  29. Vish May 14, 2013 at 11:52 pm #

    Hey guys, I have a problem with things to talk about. My sense of humor is quite vulgar and many people tht I talk to (understandably) find it weird or awkward. I noticed tht you guys have a vulgar sense of humor as well, so I was wondering how you guys connect with girls that dont share tht sense of humor? Thanks

    • Jeremiah June 11, 2013 at 11:25 pm #

      make your jokes a little lighter and try to match the mood of the situation.

  30. Nathaniel B May 14, 2013 at 11:55 pm #

    i think im going for the "nothing else" with my bff, but i cant forget her, im telling her the thuesday, i dont know if i like her or her tremendous ass.
    she gets jealous when i talk to other girls but she says she only sees me as her friend. what does this mean?

  31. Thomas May 14, 2013 at 11:58 pm #

    What would you do if you met the girl of your dreams? Would you stick to her and give up pickup (which i assume is very important for you), or would you keep her waiting until you're ready to settle down definitively?

  32. Elias May 15, 2013 at 12:08 am #

    How do you hit on older women? Im 16 and i always seem to end up hitting on girls older than me? Im
    In high school and i seem to always to flirt with girls around 18-20? Any idea?

  33. Vish May 15, 2013 at 12:12 am #

    You guys say tht it's ok to be awkward. And tht when you start pickup you should be yourself and work on certain areas tht are awkward tht need to be fixed. What certain areas are u guys talking about? Do you mean personality wise or something else?

  34. sandjoe33 May 15, 2013 at 12:31 am #

    so Im a high school senior who's been talking to this girl who's in college. I like her and I'm torn between two options:
    1. go out with her and have the relationship last a little over two months because I'll be leaving for college in the summer.
    2. remain friends and maintain some long distance communication while in college.
    I've been thinking about these options for quite a while, please help

  35. Nick May 15, 2013 at 12:59 am #

    I lost my girl recently to neediness ( and a bunch of other reasons). But we never actually went out. Since her parents wouldn't let her go out with another guy until next school year, we decided to wait and committed to being with each other next year. But I did certain things that bug her, and she started to not like me as much anymore. There's a dance at the school coming up in like 2 weeks. I feel I will still have a chance with her, but I don't know how to win her heart back. I know this doesn't fully relate to your article, but SimplePickup, I'm a big fan of yours in need of some help /:

  36. Malthe May 15, 2013 at 1:15 am #

    I have a problem, and I'd really appreciate it if you'd help me. It isn't specifically related to the article. So whenever I go picking up girls with one or more of my friends, I feel really confident around girls, and have gotten a few succesful numbers. However, when I am alone, I can't seem to get the same drive. This is a problem, because my friends aren't always available when I am.

    What can I do to be more confident when I am alone?

    • Mr. Clean August 11, 2013 at 7:10 am #

      Identify your inner roadblocks and recognize your capacity as a self-driven man. You need to understand that as a man, you are the natural leader, more assertive, bigger, stronger, have a greater capacity to be a provider/protector etc. it's in your friggen design man. Understand this on a deep and real level, and recognize these assets and that they are necessary to women, just as women's unique feminine capacities are necessary to you; you depend on each other. This is the way nature works.

  37. Tay May 15, 2013 at 1:34 am #

    Hey simplepickup, when will you put out Day Game part 2 Podcast? Intro to DayGame podcast is just you guys talking about how everybody should do day game. That’s it. I was hoping for the part 2 where you talk about instant dates, best way to make a connection etc. Also why don’t you guys update the bonus video section?! It’s been the same for like year but its the same two videos and that section is part of the 20 dollar project go plan. Thanks guy

  38. Carey K May 15, 2013 at 1:37 am #

    Accept my Simple30 Application!

  39. luke May 15, 2013 at 1:45 am #

    i met a girl a while back and texted her for a while but my friend said he was going for her so i laid off, but now he doesn't talk to her but i don't have her number,but how would i talk to her on facebook because i just stopped talking to her? It would be amazing if you answered this but i don't expect to much there is a lot of other girls out there.
    -luke

  40. Jon diprince May 15, 2013 at 2:29 am #

    JesseKongJason, props for the time and effort it takes to generate content; you have men’s health and sanity at heart, and for that I commend you. This article, however, is a little too generic and lacking in substance to be practical for my tastes.

    The “Lost Boys” of pickup need more logically sound philosophical guidance to work with. 

    The best pieces of advice are to make it clear you don’t accept cheating, prepare to offer exclusivity yourself, and to communicate. The rest you’ve mentioned is just gravy.

    For one thing, you’re missing “trust.” Relationships need trust AND communication. You can’t have one without the other. You might even find that there are topics of conversation which serve this counterintuitively. Like, for instance, past relationships, sexual experiences (NEVER your “number” of notches), your insecurities, and more. 

    All communication should be building trust. And its amazing how effective expressing a little “blind faith” in your woman’s fidelity will be in assuring it. “Baby, I trust you to make decisions for yourself. I have no ownership over you, and if you want to be with other men, I support your free will.” Think less of those words specifically than the mindset behind it. 

    Which brings me to the next point: you have to be secure enough in yourself that whatever happens, your life carries on.

    The fact that you’ve dated before and that you have total confidence in your ability to navigate dating again in the future will go much farther in bonding your woman to you and establishing that trust than, say, getting bent out of shape about a lapse in her judgment. If its against your code and standard, you just walk away and cut off communication. Do that once or twice and the vibe that you are NOT one to cheat on will spill out of your pores. 

    With respect to that philosophy and one of your comments,you should NEVER put a girl in a “him or me” situation. Men generally do not compete for women, and shouldn’t. Putting your woman in a position to choose is weak and will fuck with your mind and soul; you’re much better off fostering an environment with your woman that gives her the freedom and choice to date other people, and not making her feel guilty for it.

    Subtle reminders that you know she’s dating and that you’re unaffected by it is going to put you in a much more mature and level-headed frame of mind, and as the RSD/mystery pickup retards would say, “maintain your value.” Then, if your intuition about her feelings for those other men suggests she and they are becoming closer, YOU choose for her. “Baby, you’re important to me. You need to explore these other relationships. I need to move forward and respectfully ask that you not contact me. You are amazing and will learn a lot. I’m so glad to have had you in my life.”

    Then you follow through on that. No “I’m here if you need me” safety net, no response if she reaches out. You can open the door back up delicately if she’s persistent, but she needs to know it closed.

    Lastly, don’t forget about love and romance. We all want it. Don’t think that she doesn’t just because you’ve been a cool cat all this time. It feels great to share everything with someone, to be in a bubble together (and not just “create it” because pickup told you to). Love is subjective, don’t think that you’re waiting for some special form of it before express it. “Love” is not magic, nor should two other words that often surround it be considered as such.  

    If you feel something positive when you’re around a girl, and you’re reasonably sure she feels something in return, there isn’t any reason to avoid labeling it love. there are different degrees of it, and saying you love her isn’t a contract that you have to be exclusive or married.

    It’s just an expression of feeling, the kind that keeps women in your life and faithful to you.

  41. Alec May 15, 2013 at 3:07 am #

    are you guys going to do a article about how not be needy

    • Benjyboi May 15, 2013 at 3:35 am #

      One of the thing I've notice from not being needy is the fact that you have to have the right mindset. That is, "I want pussy, but I don't need pussy." is the right mindset you want to incorporate into your life. What does that mean? It basically mean you are not afraid to lose that girl, because you know that there are billions of other girls out there.

      So conclusion is, don't be afraid to act, say and behave the way you want to. Many guys become needy because of this, they think that the girl that they are with will be their last and only girl. But if you have seen in many countless videos of SimplePickup they aren't afraid to lose a girl because they know that there are many more girls out there. It's a very, very very powerful mindset to have.

  42. Brandon May 15, 2013 at 3:43 am #

    We wanna see some of your old shit, before you got really good, started from the bottom (Drake)

  43. preet nijjar May 15, 2013 at 4:22 am #

    hey i hooked up with one girl we had 9 or 10 meeting i thought everything is alright but suddenly she said that ''i don't have same feelings for u i m comfortable with u as a friend". so i didn't know what's wrong…

    • Vish May 18, 2013 at 7:50 pm #

      Maybe she thinks tht you want a serious relationship in which case you should just tell her tht your not looking for anything serious

  44. Medo May 15, 2013 at 5:09 am #

    Hey guys now i met a girl and i think she is hot i wonder how many dates should i take her to utill i take her to my house to sleep with ?

  45. PSY May 15, 2013 at 7:09 am #

    What shampoo and conditioner do you guys use?

  46. Ramzee May 15, 2013 at 10:22 am #

    This article is ill. Came at a time when I really needed it. You guys are amazing, and have totally changed my life with all of your insight into the female psyche. Thank you, and keep up the good work.

  47. popo May 15, 2013 at 2:06 pm #

    Apart from pickup, what jobs do you guys have?

  48. Alex May 15, 2013 at 2:56 pm #

    Any tips on how to improve your game when you live in a small town with very few hot girls? I still do pickup but not as often as I would like.

    • Vish May 18, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

      Doesn't matter if they're hot or not so long as your willing to fuck them. Even if they look just decent you should still try to talk to them.

  49. Yairjan May 15, 2013 at 6:25 pm #

    Hey guys ! i got a question for you:
    im 18 and i want to pick up girls,but the problem is that i have a nerd friends who dont have balls to do that..(also,they dont like to socialize much and going out and i need to begg for them to do so)after i realized that i "left" them and right now i dont have any friends..How do i find cool friends that go out socializing with girls and do fun stuff like you guys? (note that all the other guys in my school are douchbags or nerds)Please help me guys i want to improve my life and live in God-Mode like you do ! :)

    • Dean May 19, 2013 at 5:14 am #

      I'm in a similar situation but the guy friends I have aren't nerds, they just have girlfriends or have casual relationships with girls already. They don't have the balls to do pickup though. But they get laid with the alcohol/clubbing scene or because they naturally build connections through college. We both just have to go out on our own and build a circle of girl friends. Some we weill fuck, some we won't. It'd be alot easier with other people who can do this as I am a confident god around other people but we have to dig down and bring out the push to do it when no one cares whether you do or not. When only you care. It's hard yes, but I know and you should to, if you keep trying, eventually you'll find the balls and go up to a girl. Once you've done it a few times, it'll get easier as it's no longer a completely new experience.

  50. Yairjan May 15, 2013 at 7:04 pm #

    1 question about SIMPLE 30..you told us we paying one fee for lifetime so thats means if i done with 30 days i can do that agian with the same challenges (or get new ones) if i would like to ?

  51. Kain May 15, 2013 at 8:53 pm #

    Hey, I am 18 years old and I've been into this girl for quite a while and i think that she is into me as well. But to me it seems like she was playing hard to get. She has been doing this for quite a while but i can see that she enjoys talking to me. Anyway, i see her basically every day and I am not really sure whether I should try to make a move in school or wait for the next party we got to. So far i think i have made my intentions clear enough, so why is she not responding to my moves if she feels the same way? What i have noticed is that she talks to me differently when we are alone (and also she responds to me touching her differently), so i guess being around her friends or other people in general is a reason for that.

    After all: How should i deal with this and how can i make it happen?

  52. Jack May 15, 2013 at 10:32 pm #

    Hey, is it too much if you call her each day?

    • Vish May 16, 2013 at 12:50 am #

      yes it is

  53. MikeVinnyPauly May 15, 2013 at 11:16 pm #

    what facial products do you guys use?

  54. goku May 16, 2013 at 2:04 am #

    hey guys! this article was great. but i have a question:
    how to keep her faithful if you are not in a relationship yet?

    what i mean by this is that you are making out with the girl, talking and texting, but what if she is doing that with other guy? i can't communicte with her by telling my needs and wants, it would be weird.

    • Yairjan May 16, 2013 at 9:17 am #

      you are not being weird you are being a pussy,tell her your true intensions

  55. Benny May 16, 2013 at 4:47 pm #

    Just proposed to a girl, her dad angrily contacted me telling me to keep away and never contact his daughter. She won't come near me. Feel like shit. How do I move on from this rejection? Any tips would help guys.

    • Jon May 16, 2013 at 9:52 pm #

      lol

    • Kay May 20, 2013 at 11:58 am #

      Sad story bro

    • Tilo May 20, 2013 at 11:58 am #

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  56. Mike May 16, 2013 at 6:11 pm #

    How do you deal with it when a girl says she just got out of a relationship and not ready for another one because she's hurt and her heart needs time to heal?

  57. Hot Toaster May 16, 2013 at 8:39 pm #

    What if you want the opposite? Open relationships, I'd just say I don't wnt anything serious & not mention the other girl(s).

    • goku May 17, 2013 at 1:32 am #

      i had that question too, don't know what to do.

      • Hot Toaster May 17, 2013 at 3:22 am #

        I'm about 90% sure being honest will give the wanted outcome(if she's looking for the same thing), it has worked before for me. I was looking more for specific wording, but after realizing how chump-like that sound I'll just stop being such a puddy-tat.

  58. J Dizzle May 17, 2013 at 7:51 am #

    So I was dating this girl, who, due to a bad previous relationship, had developed a bit of an inferiority complex.Things were going well, she always invited me round and wanted to see me. She would text me like every day and tell me how much she loved me. This was consistent over the two months. However one week she claims her phone got stolen/lost. And after one week of not seeing her, she got a new phone and text me saying she wanted to end it. Any ideas on what the hell happened? Is she crazy or am I missing a trick? Thanks.

  59. Will May 17, 2013 at 9:33 am #

    Great article as always but what I enjoy the most about them is all the guys commenting with their problems or views.

    It's interesting to know that we all think in a similar way.

  60. Colin May 18, 2013 at 4:19 am #

    OFF TOPIC:

    I need a little help, from anyone here! I applied for a job at a local grocery store. So anyways, I was in there a few days later and was buying a drink. The cashier, who is very pretty, may I add, dropped something and was saying how she's new and shit. I was like wow how did u get the job they are ignoring me! Anyways, we talk and I leave.

    Fast forward to 3 days ago. I got the job, in a different department. She came by my first day and we talked a bit. I get home, she's already added me on facebook.

    What should I do next, and should I worry that we work together??

    • sam May 18, 2013 at 2:42 pm #

      Ask her on a date! She obviously likes you if she added you so soon..

      It's only a grocery store job and you're in different department so even if something goes wrong or things get awkward, it's not like it really matters in the long run..

      (By the way I don't mean "only a grocery store job" in a negative way, I just mean it's not like you're in a high up position of a international accounting firm or something..)

      Good luck dude!

      • Colin May 19, 2013 at 4:03 am #

        sam,
        hey man, thanks for the reply. So I went ahead and im'ed her on facebook, after a short convo, she wants me to take my break at 6 with her, (mines normally at 5). I also got the digits.

        She did mention her ex boyfriend several times in the convo though, about how he used to work there and shit. I didn't let it phase me and kept the conversation going without skipping a beat. Should I be worried about this, or am I stressing over nothing?

        Vish,
        Thanks for your reply too! It's not that I care about what she thinks about me (quite the opposite actually). First attempt at picking up a girl after finding simplepickup. I am being pretty ballsy for me, and so far it seems to be working. My followup question, for you or whoever wants to answer; is any date ideas w/out using a car? I live up shits creek so nothing is in walking distance. (I am in highschool, have to wait until August to get my license.)

        PS: I just wanted to say thanks to Simple Pickup, and the great community here. I actually feel like you guys are here to make us succeed, and note only in pickup stuff, my self image is improving thanks to Simple.

        -Colin

        • Dean May 19, 2013 at 5:17 am #

          One thing, avoid facebook in the future with your interactions with her. Arrange dates and flirt through phonecalls, text, in person. FB ha an aura of friendship and is rarely successful in helping with girls unless they are already your girlfriend, then it's just convenient.

          • Colin May 19, 2013 at 6:57 am #

            Haha noted. Like I said though, she added me. I didn't even ask her to. I was actually planning on visiting her register this coming week but I checked my fb and she sent me a req. already. I got her digits now, So yay. Instead of just texting her, I'm going to follow a tip I've picked up here and call her instead. Wish me luck!

      • Colin May 19, 2013 at 4:05 am #

        pps, No worries man I know it's a crap job. I'm in HS, limited job market ;p.

    • Vish May 18, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

      Why would you need to worry tht you guys work together? If you like her then tell her tht and try to take her out. I think you're caring to much about what this girl thinks about you.

  61. Colin May 20, 2013 at 1:52 am #

    Holy shit. I'm so in. Thank you all! I just manned the fuck up and things took a massive turn for the spicy. I called her up and said some dump shit about me teaching her to play pool, and she had to teach me something in return. She's like what you want me to teach. I go "How about anatomy? I have a bone I need help identifying." Ended up at her asking if I prefer top or bottom after about an hour. We are hanging out Saturday.

    This has skyrocketed my confidence. I fucking love you simple pickup.

    • Colin May 20, 2013 at 1:52 am #

      dumb*

  62. Vish May 21, 2013 at 1:53 am #

    Hey a buddy of mine and I are subscribed to project go. We were both wondering if you guys could give some kind of a guideline on how to pick up a girl. A routine to picking up a girl if there is such a thing. From approach to number.

  63. Reaper May 22, 2013 at 12:57 am #

    is it creepy to constantly change topics when you approach a girl? cuz if you start a conversation with a topic and than you don’t have anything more to say, is it ok to talk about something else? Like in 5min talk about 3 completely different things.

  64. YaBoi19 May 22, 2013 at 4:44 pm #

    Where is the best place to meet girls? I am a 19 year old college student, about to turn 20. I do not hang out that much, but I want to know places I can go to try to pick-up girls. I am shy at times, but for the most part I can hold a conversation, it is just nerve wracking to approach, and when I approach a girl I get nervous before asking for her number (bitch butterflies lol). What can I do to get rid of that horrible nervous feeling?

  65. sanchez May 23, 2013 at 5:03 am #

    I hardly ever read your guy's articles but this one caught my eye. Wow. Thanks so much. This is something that worries me about the girls that I date and I must admit that I fucked it up with the last one that i had by doing all that not trusting being needy shit. I love you guys.

  66. Arthur May 25, 2013 at 1:39 am #

    I met this girl. We went in a date and it was better than i expected we kissed and I felt a really good connection with her. But I became really needy and she friendzoned me. (Jesse talked about this mistake in the Friendzone podcast, a stripper frindzoned him). I stopped talking to her, I didnt want to be her friend. 1 month after I stopped talking to her I asked a friends help to make her jealous. The girl's school is near my house so i took my hottest friend and went there. We pretended we were a couple (holding hands and stuff) . I hopped she would text or call me after that. She didnt. IT happend 3 weeks ago. What can I do to win this girl again? I can go there and talk to her anytime I want, I just dont know what to do. I am approaching and picking other girls but that one is really special to me. Thanks.

  67. Rob May 27, 2013 at 9:01 am #

    You guys reinforce how you need to make it clear that there will be no relationship if she cheats. How do you make this extremely clear?

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    Hey guys Ive recently got together with my super hot girl friend, shes always on her Instagram having dudes all on her flirting with guys on there. I have her passwords to everyhing so she really has nothing to hide, but I just have those negative thoughts that onlinr flirting is just a warning to full blown cheating. I need some help guys thanks!!

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    From reading this and understanding it at least to a certain degree, I feel like having a hot girlfriend and keeping her loyal is like tight-rope walking with an electrified barb wire rope and trying not to feel pain.

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