Besides picking up girls, setting goals for yourself is the most requested topics from many of the men who reach out for advice. Not only are many unable to set goals, but they also have trouble successfully and strategically accomplishing them.
In my early teen years, before I started getting into Pickup, I wasn’t necessarily a goal-minded individual. I fucked around a lot and mostly wanted to have a lot of sex. The goal was sex, sex, and more sex, and nothing else. At the time, it was a good goal to have, but I soon realized that this goal wasn’t very concrete and that I hadn’t planned well enough because I didn’t even get laid in the first year doing Pickup.
It’s all changed now.
What To Think About When Setting Goals
Too many guys set goals that don’t allude to anything substantial or concrete. For example, someone may say that he wants to make a lot of money or that he wants to be a famous YouTuber or that he wants to be great at picking up women.
The reason these goals already set you up for failure is because these going DON’T MOTIVATE you. Essentially, they’re just words that are so plain and generic that they become the equivalent to taking a shit every morning.
Instead, you should think of goal setting as problem solving. There is a problem in your life and it needs to be fixed. Once you adopt this mentality, there is a pressure and urgency to solve the problem, which will in turn motivate you to keep the goal you have alive to pursue.
Take the following instance into consideration…
Problem: I haven’t had sex in three years and as a man, I need to be able to have an orgasm to live. Sex will always decrease my stress levels, it’s proven to make people live longer, and it feels good. I need to be able to release. I’m also lacking attractive girls in my life and this is a problem for my sexual sanity.
Goal: I need to get better at pickup so I can build more confidence in order to have sex with hot girls.
All of the details and logistics don’t have to be set out. I just wrote the scenario in an exaggerated, but not so exaggerated way to demonstrate the more you detail a problem, the more you’ll be motivated to accomplish the goal.
Here’s another example:
Problem: I don’t have anything in my bank account and my future depends that I have money so I can feed myself, my family, and support any loved one and cause out there (that I support).
Goal: I need to make a lot of money before I turn to the age of 30.
Problem: I don’t know how to make a lot of money before I turn the age of 30.
Goal: In this upcoming year learn how to make money, either through books or a mentor
Problem: I need to think about who I know or what resources I have available to learn more about this.
Goal: Find the best 5 books that talk about “how to make money.”
Can you see the difference? You’re going to start off with a problem and you’re going to keep finding solutions to this problem and other problems that you encounter until you establish the foundation to solve an overarching issue. You have to get to the basis, the very core of your problem to start fixing it.
This may take time, at first. But once you keep cutting it down and making your goals very concrete to solve the problem you have, you’ll know the direction where you need to go. Direction is ascertained by differentiating concrete goals from make believe ideals.
Keeping Track Of Your Goals
Take out a piece of paper, a word document, just something that you can doodle or journal on in order to track your progress. You need to be honest, real, and as harsh as you can on yourself so you can always look back and realize how far you’ve come.
You not only want to accomplish your goals, but you also want to see it in action and track the developments in your success to motivate you even more and to set more goals for yourself in the future.
Listen, it’s not always going to be easy because you’ll have to throw your ego aside and really dig deep in order to address some of the problems that you have in your life. Once you’re honest with yourself and motivated enough to just fucking push yourself through it, you’ll be able to create goals for yourself and accomplish them without hesitation.