How To Make Goals and Accomplish Them

Besides picking up girls, setting goals for yourself is the most requested topics from many of the men who reach out for advice. Not only are many unable to set goals, but they also have trouble successfully and strategically accomplishing them.

In my early teen years, before I started getting into Pickup, I wasn’t necessarily a goal-minded individual. I fucked around a lot and mostly wanted to have a lot of sex. The goal was sex, sex, and more sex, and nothing else. At the time, it was a good goal to have, but I soon realized that this goal wasn’t very concrete and that I hadn’t planned well enough because I didn’t even get laid in the first year doing Pickup.

It’s all changed now.

What To Think About When Setting Goals

Too many guys set goals that don’t allude to anything substantial or concrete. For example, someone may say that he wants to make a lot of money or that he wants to be a famous YouTuber or that he wants to be great at picking up women.

The reason these goals already set you up for failure is because these going DON’T MOTIVATE you. Essentially, they’re just words that are so plain and generic that they become the equivalent to taking a shit every morning.

Instead, you should think of goal setting as problem solving. There is a problem in your life and it needs to be fixed. Once you adopt this mentality, there is a pressure and urgency to solve the problem, which will in turn motivate you to keep the goal you have alive to pursue.

Take the following instance into consideration…

Problem: I haven’t had sex in three years and as a man, I need to be able to have an orgasm to live. Sex will always decrease my stress levels, it’s proven to make people live longer, and it feels good. I need to be able to release. I’m also lacking attractive girls in my life and this is a problem for my sexual sanity.

Goal: I need to get better at pickup so I can build more confidence in order to have sex with hot girls.

All of the details and logistics don’t have to be set out. I just wrote the scenario in an exaggerated, but not so exaggerated way to demonstrate the more you detail a problem, the more you’ll be motivated to accomplish the goal.

Here’s another example:

Problem: I don’t have anything in my bank account and my future depends that I have money so I can feed myself, my family, and support any loved one and cause out there (that I support).

Goal: I need to make a lot of money before I turn to the age of 30.

Problem: I don’t know how to make a lot of money before I turn the age of 30.

Goal: In this upcoming year learn how to make money, either through books or a mentor

Problem: I need to think about who I know or what resources I have available to learn more about this.

Goal: Find the best 5 books that talk about “how to make money.”

Can you see the difference? You’re going to start off with a problem and you’re going to keep finding solutions to this problem and other problems that you encounter until you establish the foundation to solve an overarching issue. You have to get to the basis, the very core of your problem to start fixing it.

This may take time, at first. But once you keep cutting it down and making your goals very concrete to solve the problem you have, you’ll know the direction where you need to go. Direction is ascertained by differentiating concrete goals from make believe ideals.

Keeping Track Of Your Goals

Take out a piece of paper, a word document, just something that you can doodle or journal on in order to track your progress. You need to be honest, real, and as harsh as you can on yourself so you can always look back and realize how far you’ve come.

You not only want to accomplish your goals, but you also want to see it in action and track the developments in your success to motivate you even more and to set more goals for yourself in the future.

Listen, it’s not always going to be easy because you’ll have to throw your ego aside and really dig deep in order to address some of the problems that you have in your life. Once you’re honest with yourself and motivated enough to just fucking push yourself through it, you’ll be able to create goals for yourself and accomplish them without hesitation.

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163 Responses to How To Make Goals and Accomplish Them

  1. prakhar May 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    I want to ask Jesse..
    How to approach INDIAN girls in India.
    pls. help….

    • paras May 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm #


    • Arifin May 23, 2013 at 6:21 pm #

      choose the right games, see which pussies r in da season, go close, dont say hii or ask any question, say dat u were wid friends and U saw her walking and U liked her, play alpha game, talk side wise, exchange numbers, dont leave, spend 2/3 minutes after uve exchanged numbers, hope it helps prakhar ;))

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:22 pm #


      There is this Project GO episode called "Shy Girls." That's pretty much what you need to go by, in addition, be different by dressing a little nicer than most Indians (but not douchy).

      • Swapnil May 24, 2013 at 5:38 am #

        I support this. Dressing nicer, umm not really a necessity but yeah always a plus point. Yes, it is hard BUT I thought I would be much harder. You just have to GO. Obviously, analyse before going, a little, because they might be with family or with their short tempered Punjabi boyfriends :D But I've been doing this in malls of Mumbai for about two months and I finally got my first number. Progress is slower but you develop your socializing skills so why not?
        AND mainly it's fun!

      • Vipul May 24, 2013 at 5:46 am #

        Being precise guys they aren't SHY they're just too arrogant to talk like they're the queens of this world, how to treat such girls?

        • paras May 24, 2013 at 6:59 am #

          Yes ,the culture has changed a lot ,so you can do pretty much everything in india instant make outs and stuff . As for the arrogance stuff ,i hope simplepickup do an episode on ARROGANT GIRLS ,that would help us in tearing that shit apart into pieces .

        • Boss May 26, 2013 at 8:56 am #

          You don't.. Why in hell would you want to date an arrogant girl? She has spiderwebs growing on her vagina because of her attitude, keep 'em that way.

        • KousIK August 28, 2013 at 4:56 pm #

          Where are you from?
          I am too from India.
          I live in Kolkata.

      • Meraj August 16, 2013 at 8:55 pm #

        There is no video clip of shy girls in your channel ?!

    • MikeVinnyPaulyD May 25, 2013 at 12:27 am #

      ask Dhalsim

    • sultan June 7, 2013 at 2:01 am #

      spicy food

    • Krodhguru June 11, 2013 at 1:43 pm #

      Its all the same, start off small and slow, there are lots of malls and hi-fi places in india these days, so start off conversations and be bold and look obvious when asking for numbers and beware of frowns and stares from others, its common, you need to have kong's reccomended attitude (smile and think "go fuck yourself" in head when meeting haters) and dont try nerd or unusual stuff, the only key all over the world is confidence and casual attitude. there is a video on youtube too, i dont know who uploaded but just try approaching girls in india.

    • racist mofo August 7, 2013 at 9:04 pm #

      bring a goat with you

    • Maverick September 23, 2013 at 4:53 am #

      And find yourself wings…

  2. federico May 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    what are you guys's biggest goals now?

  3. Jakob May 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    This is a question not really related to this article, however…. :
    as I am getting better with girls and things work out sexy, I still did not really get behind the trick of how to make her chase YOU – and keep on chasing?
    the only way I figured was trying to DHV urself to the sky, like not even giving her your cell number…

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:20 pm #


      If you're getting laid and you're confident, they will chase.

      • federico June 12, 2013 at 12:01 am #

        Thanks a lot for not replying to my post which was second and replying to all others…

        • kevroy33 July 15, 2013 at 6:23 am #

          Sorry your vagina got sprained, frederico. Seems painful.

  4. Snickersbar May 23, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    I have a problem with my gf right now.
    When in I'm in bed with her, she doesn't want to take off her panties. Any suggestions on fixing this problem?

    • maroun May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

      tell her to take it off or you'll dump her, she will take it off. if she doesn't, do you really want to keep going out with her?

    • Jango Fett Tyrone May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

      Rape her… Duh

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:21 pm #

      I have heard that some people talk to their girlfriend.

      • Snickersbar May 23, 2013 at 6:51 pm #

        Thanks for the obvious, TheObvious. Tried it, but it failed. That is why I asked SP, if they could help me with this problem, for instance, if I should say some key things, to make her feel better and if yes, what are those things.
        For SP, she is still a Virgin and I've tried the methods you talked about in the Podcast but it didn't work out how I wanted it..

        • Amit August 20, 2013 at 4:41 pm #

          If she isn't comfortable either wait or dump her. Don't force others.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:20 pm #


      Put her on top of you and slide your fingers behind you. You can still do stuff to her while she's on her panties (move things aside). In addition, you should be naked as well.

  5. Borja May 23, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

    So i go a=out a lot and pickup girls… but sometimes i just dontknow what to say… how do u know what to talk about?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:19 pm #


      Read books and do more (adventures).

  6. Laquan shaniqua May 23, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

    I am the first to comment, I have this question… Do you guys want to play League of Legends with me? We should all get together one day and smoke the fattest most strongest blunt known to man. Are you guys up for this? ACCOMPLISH! My goal is to smoke with you guys some day.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:18 pm #


      Not our style

  7. Player May 23, 2013 at 5:57 pm #

    Kong, how many girls have you slept with?

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:38 pm #

      e * π

  8. She wants the Rich D May 23, 2013 at 5:58 pm #

    How do I keep a girl interested for a long period of time(a year at least) without becoming her boyfriend? and if I have a girlfriend and want to keep doing pick up, can I have my cake and eat it too?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:07 pm #

      @She Wants

      Tell her your intentions. If it works, great, if not, whatever. Honesty is always the best policy.

    • ur a dumass August 7, 2013 at 9:05 pm #

      give them the rich D alot.

  9. Tess May 23, 2013 at 5:58 pm #

    Is it weird for girls to use your methods on guys? I went for a guy first and he just gave me a weird look.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:22 pm #

      It's weird if you think it's weird, otherwise, no..

    • Bálint May 23, 2013 at 7:01 pm #

      i don't think guys are used to girls approaching them. it happened to me a few times and i was just pretty much shocked because it took me by surprise so it was kinda weird. also it can come off as very slutty if you go in for a kiss or something like right away i don't know what you mean by their method. also you should look okay i guess. if you look decent and you don't act overly slutty go for it, it may be a bit surprising for the dude but just persevere and he'll probably into it. IMO

      • Bálint May 23, 2013 at 7:02 pm #


    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:06 pm #


      If it fucking works, do it. We don't really specialize on girl game though.

      • Bobby May 24, 2013 at 9:20 am #

        I think it would be cool if you incorporate some girl game into your videos. It would be an interesting, new thing to see on the channel. It could also really blow up on youtube since it would probably be the first ever girl picking up guys video. It could also help a lot of girls out with their game. Although, I don't want it to turn into that one video you tried to have a girl "pick up" the guys but all she did was be hot and say crude, sexual remarks. You could turn this into a collaboration too. Collaborate with some girl youtubers and see if they have the skill to get some digits. All-in-all, it would be a fun, new, and interesting thing and could really blow up on youtube if you do it right.

    • ~Sean June 14, 2013 at 5:45 am #

      I don't see any problem with it. However, if I think the woman goes around talking to everyone she see's in search for attention or doesn't really make it clear she's interested, than I might respond cautiously or "friend" zone her. Also,once you approach him; don't wait for him to flirt or get your number, which is where I think some women make the mistake. However, If you approach the guy and make your intentions clear , and following through to the end… it should be easy. however, You need to be the one to make your intentions clear, such as flirting, and to get his number. Some men are clueless, for me, it's because I don't know if they're interacting with me as a tutor, because of my skills and knowledge or because we just have something in common, such as a class, degree, or going to school? But it doesn't really matter, something even small in common, or nothing at all you can still Dive In and request that number.

  10. Indian Guy May 23, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

    So in this facebook generation, many conversations start on facebook and transfer to dates, how do you start and keep a convo on facebook and transfer that into a date without it getting awkward?

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:27 pm #

      Perhaps not calling it a "date". It sounds a bit formal and perhaps you should go for a more casual approach. Just ask her to hang out of watch i movie. Besides, if she likes you it doesn't really matter

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:06 pm #

      @Indian Guy

      During the facebook conversation, get her number & from there go plan to meet somewhere. Also, it's easier to be more flirtatious online then it is in real life. so exploit.

  11. brandonv May 23, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

    Do girls really care about dating a different race? For example, im indian like jesse, how many white girls does he pick up and in the end able to sleep with?

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:30 pm #

      Jesse picks up 3.21 white girls a week. It depends mostly on the weather forecast of that particular week of course.
      What i'm trying to say is, some girls care about race and others don't. Who cares?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 7:05 pm #


      They don't care unless you make it an issue.

  12. Ayman May 23, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

    Hey guys i havé à question i always start with something tough from thé begining for instance hey what s your name havé you Ever Been kissed whats your favourite position and i finally catch her attention but she becomes used to me in à few days and i lose her intérest without making m’y goals (u Know) please help me

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:55 pm #


      Make a goal to setup a date. Instead of plaing too many games.

  13. Anonymouz May 23, 2013 at 5:59 pm #

    Hi guys.

    I've been wondering how you got into this. Did you just realize at some point that you suck at picking up girls, discussed about it and decided to go out and make fools out of yourselves? If it was something close to that, did you do it as a group? Did you decide from the beginning to film it, or did you do it just for the laughs/lessons?

    I think I'd be good at it, but I have a serious problem with starting to talk with a total stranger. If I happen to run into a discussion without my acknowledged first move I manage just fine, but to make the first move… Just can't do it. I've already wasted so many great opportunities because of those butterflies.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:51 pm #


      We started to do it to change our lives. While having fun and just shitting around we decided to film it… and it just grew from there.

  14. Jay May 23, 2013 at 6:00 pm #

    What's the best way to start pick up? To use canned lines so I can focus on getting more confidence or to start off with direct approaches?
    Nearly every time I go out I don't make anywhere near the amount of approaches possible, and I really want to break my social conditioning.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:46 pm #

      You get confindence by failling, not succeeding. Get over your fears and embrace the hate. If you want to get good at something you just focus on your goal and how you can achieve it.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:50 pm #


      If you watch Project GO we teach you that lines are not the best way to start. It's about approaching and going with subtle movements we do.

    • i go to the gym August 7, 2013 at 9:07 pm #

      go to the fucking gym.

  15. Shreyas707 May 23, 2013 at 6:00 pm #

    The prob with me is I’m a lazy ass gamer. I’m putting on a lot of weight because of it. I don’t feel like working out. I guess I’m addicted to gaming. What do I do now? I wanna go out, socialize but then the moment I think about it, I feel like sitting in front of my pc and start using the Internet or gaming.

    Any solutions? :/

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:50 pm #


      Stop making fucking excuses. If you want to get out of the house then shove your game console away.

      • Tyler OG June 5, 2013 at 4:40 pm #

        I agree, as I've had similar problems. If it's a card game, get rid of the cards. If it's a pc gaming thing, shove the pc away (not kidding).

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:54 pm #

      If you really want to change you should have plenty of motivation. Find something that drives you and you will succeed. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and go do something.

  16. Jango Fett Tyrone May 23, 2013 at 6:01 pm #

    My accomplishment is to become the worlds best bounty hunter, even better than that fucktard "Dog" I want to do it in fashion as well, like wearing a Jango Fett cosplay and go around collecting my bounties. I will customize a gun to look like a ray blaster. How would I go about on starting this? Not stoned what so ever.

    • Joshua May 23, 2013 at 6:02 pm #

      this is the best question ever.. whoever you are, kudos on your dream bro.

      • Jango Fett Tyrone May 23, 2013 at 6:12 pm #

        <3 marry me

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:33 pm #

      To get a hold on that ray blaster, you have to find the mystery box. Most of the time it's somewhere in east Germany so i would take a look there.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:49 pm #


      Whatever Django did, follow.

      • Jango Fett Tyrone May 23, 2013 at 7:12 pm #

        So i have this problem. I want Princess Leia to be my gf, I took her away from Luke, but now he wants to kill me. Do I invite him to a 3some? I kinda want to. But I'm scared he'll kill me. Help!

  17. playmaker31 May 23, 2013 at 6:01 pm #

    My question is: I have a hard time making eye contact because I am afraid the girl will call me creepy. I have had it happened before with one girl making eye contact calling me creepy, but now I am afraid to do it one with many girls. Is there a rule on how long you should look at a girl before you look away and what exactly is it to be creepy so I dont have this happen to me in the future?

    I feel like this is the biggest thing holding me back and I wish you guys would answer my question as it's possible many guys may possibly have the same problem. Thank you!!

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:48 pm #


      Try this line over and over again. It'll help: "I have a lazy eye, can you figure out what it is…" The more you do it the more you'll be able to make eye contact. Then, stop the fucking line and just do it.

  18. Joshua May 23, 2013 at 6:01 pm #

    so yeah, i find myself having too big a plate when i make goals, and i end up falling flat before it becomes a natural habit in the rhythm of my schedule. i've heard baby steps are a great way to build momentum, but i've always heard from you guys go hard or dont go at all.. so now im at a standstill. also my rejections for pickup hurt, and i dont feel that DGAF attitude you guys talk about, i just get more depressed after each pickup outing. what i do i do?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:34 pm #


      Making your goals concrete and detailed – does not mean you're doing "baby steps." Baby steps mean that within that goal you start small and take it day by day. Once you have a fucking concrete detailed goal from the bottom ACT RIGHT AWAY with it. You then should be jumping from one goal to the next… Boom. Boom. Boom.

  19. Javi May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    Isn't approaching strangers unhealthy? I mean theres no need to do that, would you ever meet the love of your life like that?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:28 pm #


      It's not unhealthy. We're made to be social and these people can bring us into other groups. And Yes.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:34 pm #

      Yes it's unhealthy, it's the number one killer in american after a high cholesterol.

    • stupid question August 7, 2013 at 9:08 pm #

      shut the fuk up

  20. gotenks234 May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    I easily start a conversation with girls but I run out of topics to talk about :/ what do I do then?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:27 pm #


      Silence is sometimes golden. It's okay. start being physical – also shuffling around is always good because the scenery and new changes will always strike up conversation.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:35 pm #

      Talk about what you like, just don't end the conversation.

    • its not about you August 7, 2013 at 9:10 pm #

      tell her that you want her to tell you something interesting or else she cant have the d

  21. James May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    Any thoughts on making a video indoors? Such as in a grocery store or library or some other public indoor place? I would very much like to see such a challenge.

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:27 pm #


      If we get the legal paperwork so we don't get sued, fuck yes. In Simple 30 (actually) we do have many indoor challenges.

  22. Pedro May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    have you guys ever drink some alchool to start picking up girls?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:26 pm #


      It's not our thing unless we want to go out just to party (not pick up girls). Being sober is the best because you are at your highest peak of intellect. Drinking is a crutch

    • no, i dont. August 7, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

      ur a pussy. do the shit sober, puta

  23. Teddy May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    Asians, Caucasians, Africans, Latinas??? Other Ethnics and aces okay… All three of you, which prefer and why? Prefer to what?? You decide. ;)

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:25 pm #


      Anyone who gives me an erection.

  24. Bobby Andover May 23, 2013 at 6:03 pm #

    Hey SimplePickup!,

    When I set goals, I try to stick to them. However, sometimes my emotions get involved too much. Sometimes I even think, "Oh, I'll do that later". How can I learn to work through my emotions and stick to me goals? I also noticed that when I try to approach girls, I get super embarrassed and I turn extremely red, my mouth gets dry, and I look very nervous. After many attempts, I still turn red and it prevents me from reaching my goals. How can I work through that? Did you ever blush and how did you overcome it?

    On the other hand, when I am not nervous and I am feeling happy, girls just say I am immature or childish, but I am just having fun. Those who like my sense of humor just want to be friends.

    Thanks for your help, you guys are amazing!!

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:25 pm #

      @Bobby Andover

      This is something you have to face internally on your own. As in "how do you control your emotions?" The easiest way is to not only breathe but to have this mentality that anything that is stopping you or anything that gets in the way should "fuck themselves." In addition, start thinking about how GREAT you are and be more positive… when you are positive you start to do better.

      Act it, until you become it.

  25. MonqezFromSweden May 23, 2013 at 6:04 pm #

    You guys meet alot of girls, but what do you do if you fall in love with a girl? probably it happend to you, do you stand away from relatiosships or do you have girlfriends and keep doing you thing becuse its a part of your job?

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:24 pm #


      Work is our first priority. Therefore, any girl who is with us knows this and if they don't want to stick around because of it, then they don't get us and they don't belong to be a "girlfriend."

  26. AFCGUY May 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm #

    You think it's better to lie about being a virgin to girls/not even bring it up? Two girls have already said they will not hook up with me because I'm a virgin…

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:22 pm #


      If this is the case, don't mention it… if they ask – say something like "you just have to find out. But, I hear you are by how you fuck." Also, listen to our How To Give a Girl an Orgasm on our Project GO podcast.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:56 pm #

      Those girls are lame, just be confident about it.

    • u are worthwhile August 7, 2013 at 9:16 pm #

      i have been giving people fuckass comments for the past 5 minutes but you seem like someone who needs a more in-depth answer. do some shit with your life. go to the gym avidly. get sexy. accomplish something. then go back to those bitches that said that and tell them their crustyass yeast infected cunts dont deserve you or the time that it took for you to speak to them to tell them this

  27. josegusmao May 23, 2013 at 6:07 pm #

    Hi guys i have good grades, and im good with the girls. My problem is that im not being able to go beside that, like trying to have great grades or trying to pick up the hottest girls, help me guys

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:21 pm #


      Your first priority is YOUR OWN LIFE. Grades and a good job is what matters the most for your financial security? Am I right? Of course. So any girl you meet should understand where your priorities stand. Therefore, if they know your priorities then you'll be able to focus on your work, first without them throwing a fit.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 7:02 pm #

      wait whut?

  28. John May 23, 2013 at 6:09 pm #

    Hey i got this friend. we were in the same class 2 years ago and now rarely see each other. But i realised that i barely know her but i want to change it. But i dont have her phone number. So my question ist would u guys tell her that u want to get to know her better because u think she is cute via Facebook? Or should i get her number from my friend and call her? I feel odd obout both ways…

    Kepp ur work up!

    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:20 pm #


      You should always try to do everything in person. Can you fuck online? Virtual sex, yes… but not physical sex. Real life is so much better. However, if you can't wait and haven't seen her – ask for her phone number, call her, and meet her up in the next couple days.

      • John May 23, 2013 at 6:42 pm #

        Wow. Alone the fact that u guys anwered this give me a lots of motivation.

        Thank You!!

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

      Just contact her via Facebook and say you're are dying to meet her but you didn't have her number.

  29. Justan May 23, 2013 at 6:12 pm #

    I agree with everything in this article,but I have a question. How do you get over a fear of talking to a girl,or even approaching one. I’ve never been able to do it cause I’ve been so scared,I get ready to do it,but chicken out at the last minute,and I’ve watched all you guys videos,especially Bitch Butterflies,but I just can’t do it,is it possible for you guys to maybe,idk,help me out,maybe take me in as a student of yours,teach me everything u know,I just want yo b able to flirt with a girl that’s like a 10,and be able to get her to say yes to going out with a nerdy guy like me,if u can help,that’d be great.

    Your fan,


    • JesseKongJason May 23, 2013 at 6:19 pm #


      The first thing you need to do in this situation is to really "not think" and "just do." The more you "just do" the more likely hood that you'll develop a social machine gun like tacit to be able to approach any girl out there. Yes, you may get rejected and you may have the bitch butterflies, but these things INCREASE and stall you even more if you just "don't do." In addition, if you're really having trouble try some cardio exercises to get your blood flowing before you go out. It's crazy (like in our Project GO episode on Jumping Jacks). How easily it is to approach after that cardio exercise.

    • TheObvious May 23, 2013 at 7:01 pm #

      Fail so many times you can't count it. The first goal is not not care about the girls reaction. Just care about getting confident. If you want to do some drills, look up lahwf on youtube, great stuff. Perhaps you can do it with a friend of yours, should be a lot of fun.

  30. Chrisman May 23, 2013 at 6:18 pm #

    What up guys? Can you give us some tips on how to socialize with other people, (men and women) using your stuff about confidence etc without actually doing pickup? What the difference between socializing and pickup? Thanks!

  31. Ken May 23, 2013 at 6:24 pm #

    i can start the conversation easily,problem is how to continue?somehow i just run out of *good topics* and craps just keep coming and it makes me seems retarded

  32. Jack norton May 23, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

    Hey last time I asked you guys how many times you should ask a girl to hang out before you write her off. You guys said 4 spaced out. How long is spaced out?

  33. Bálint May 23, 2013 at 6:39 pm #

    You guys are always such a goddamn great inspiration. and also motivating

  34. Radu May 23, 2013 at 6:52 pm #

    Hey guys!
    You are simply best of the best, i leaned so much from you.
    Thank you very very very much!

    I have one problem with girls now…
    After meeting a girl and after a first date,
    how do you make the girls call you, instead of you call always them.

    Once again thank you for your work!

  35. Ayman May 23, 2013 at 6:59 pm #

    That s the problem guys i always fail when i tell her that i like she says something like ok and nothing happens

  36. Sean May 23, 2013 at 7:00 pm #

    Hey guys, after initially meeting the girl getting her number, and hanging out with her maybe once or twice, how do I establish with a girl that I only want sex? Do I act differently in those situation vs situations where I want to get serious with a girl? I feel that when I date a girl I convey a more intimate dating vibe which girls may confuse for something serious.

  37. Robin May 23, 2013 at 7:01 pm #

    Hey guys!

    I was just wondering can you guys make a video about this. The article is great but it would be even better if you guys made a video.

    Thank You! guys for all the hard work you guys do!

  38. IntelSq May 23, 2013 at 7:30 pm #

    Taking on your mindsets have been the most helpful resource in me learning 'pickup'. Equally if not more than the actual techniques which I figure out through trial and error.

    If your looking for new video topics to talk pilot a new series on your second channel where you just talk about your daily mindsets on working not just on your 'pickup' goals but actually building your business too. (It would be easy and fun to do)

    Most guys are not sure about what to do from the moment they get up in the morning – Even for guys taking action, they don't have a Jesse or a Jason and the people I have worked alongside with never give it their all so we really look up to you guys. Especially since you are roughly the same ages as us.

    Always, always commenting about a behind the scenes and I remember that video specifically about your crappy apartment with brown water, and sleeping on the floor in the same house so you could build your business working 60+ hours a week made me take a good hard look at my own life because NEVER have I seen ANYONE in my life work that hard. Not saying you should change from dating coaching to life coaching but if you put more of that stuff out there it would resonate deeply and we can begin to take on the same perspectives and values once we become aware of how hard you guys have worked on simplepickup.

  39. helios May 23, 2013 at 7:33 pm #

    I just want to say I've been enjoying all your Vids on YOUTUBE! Must certainly have watched all of them! well except PROJECT GO coz i cant afford it YET!
    You're very helpful and inspirational guyz!! I hope I'll be able to put up a video like you do and share it with you too :)) !
    more cock power!

  40. Juventino24 May 23, 2013 at 7:53 pm #

    So Guys here’s my problem. I like you all and I must show you alot of respect for what you guys do. I have a problem with girls. So now I’m 16 years old. I don’t smoke and I don’t take drugs. I’m from Switzerland in Europe. In my life I tried to have a gf, but it never worked for me.. I showed to every girl how I am. Now since 2-3 months ago there was a girl. She seemed nice, we liked each other. So I had my first date with her. After date she told me that she wants another guy and that she’s not interested in me. I don’t have muscles or six-packs. I’m ugly.. With the time it started to be a problem with pick ups. 1 Year ago happened the same thing. So now I’m at the point that I don’t want to pick up anymore. I don’t like the way girls do here in Switzerland. It’s really complicated to pick up girls at the age of 14-18 here in Switzerland. If you’re not beautiful or such a “gangsta” then you are out.. The most are just b!tc***. If you don’t smoke or drink, they don’t want to do nothing with you. They just look on how beautiful a guy is and she will go out with the most beautiful guy, even if you worked your ass off! I’m not gay, but I’m now very scared to start pick up girls. I don’t know what to do anymore. If I would start, then the same thing will happen.. Advice?


    • Vish May 25, 2013 at 12:06 am #

      I doubt tht there isn't a single girl tht would talk to you. I also think tht you undervalue yourself because you think your ugly.I also doubt tht they immediately ask you whether or not you drink or smoke, if they never ask you then just avoid it. If they don't like tht you don't like drinking or smoking then fuck them, who cares. Don't give up on yourself.

  41. Alvin May 23, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

    What do you guys do for a living and what did y'all study in college?

  42. Ruper May 23, 2013 at 8:12 pm #

    Hi guys, big fan here. I got into pickup very recently and I have to say what you guys are doing here is awesome, some of your videos are extremely uplifting and can motivate the shit out of me on the worst days to go out and approach. I'm told that this thing works in "streaks", some days/weeks/months it will be better and others will be terrible. But this last month, the first month that I've tried going a full 100% into pickup, has been terrible. I can notice my game improving and getting better, but still every hot girl I approach seems to have a boyfriend, or is not interested. I try not to obsess myself over this, but to notice such a huge change in myself and still not get any results whatsoever can be a little frustrating.

    Now onto my question: you have been doing this thing for a long time, and I'm assuming you've done it in almost every possible imaginable circumstance. Throughout a whole year, what would you say are the best times to approach? Have you noticed if women are more responsive to your advances on specific dates, like holidays, NYE, etc…?

    I'm not trying to find a bullshit excuse to limit myself, I still intend to go out there and approach as much as I can at a full 100%. I just want to understand why this is happening to me; I remember one of you saying in a podcast that certain seasons were better than others or some thing like that, and it got me thinking.

    • Vish May 25, 2013 at 12:11 am #

      Get a friend to video tape yourself. And record yourself using an ipod or something. This way you'll be able to see what you're doing wrong when you go out. If you can't see anything wrong with it then compare it to one of their Project GO videos and see how your tonality and body language compares to theirs.

    • Vish May 25, 2013 at 3:33 am #

      OH and record yourself (video and sound)

  43. John May 23, 2013 at 8:33 pm #

    Hey, there's been this girl that sits a couple tables in front of me all semester and I don't know how but I developed a crazy crush. Anyways next week is the final and my last chance to see her. What should I say? It seems weird that I waited until the very last day to say anything at all to her. I'll have to finish my test quickly and then wait for her to finish so we can leave at the same time which will be weird. But should I say something like "i wanted to leave at the same time so i could tell you that I think you are really cute" or is that too weird. She is very shy. ADVICE FROM ANYBODY PLEASE

  44. moody May 23, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

    I agree with that you don't hesitate and you are most creative when there's a problem, but problems put pressure on you, makes you nervous, anxious and doesn't allow you to have fun. You have said many times that the most important thing when picking up girls is to have fun. So what now?

  45. Brandon May 23, 2013 at 10:02 pm #

    How long before you got really good, true success?

    • MichaelVera May 27, 2013 at 4:07 am #

      Usually very long, maybe a year. But that's how you know you're actually growing!

  46. YaBoi19 May 23, 2013 at 10:12 pm #

    Where is the best place to meet girls at night, and during the day? I am a 19 year old college student, about to turn 20. I do not hang out that much, but I want to know places I can go to try to pick-up girls. I am shy at times, but for the most part I can hold a conversation, it is just nerve wracking to approach, and when I approach a girl I get nervous before asking for her number (bitch butterflies lol). What can I do to get rid of that horrible nervous feeling?

  47. channelin May 23, 2013 at 10:56 pm #

    This article is fantastic, however i must ask, last week i started approaching for the first time ever, i got rejected 5 times out of 7 but got 2 numbers. i stopped approaching for one week, today i went out to a busy high street to start approaching again but i had such intense bitch butterflies that i did not do a single approach. All i did was walk around for 3 hours. i watched jesse's video on 'when you feel like shit' he took a 3 week break from pick up and felt rusty but he still did an approach. why cant i do an approach too???!!! please please help me!!

    • Vish May 24, 2013 at 4:47 am #

      I think you're thinking too much about it, just go.Don't quit now.

  48. Arthur May 24, 2013 at 3:03 am #

    I met this girl. We went in a date and it was better than i expected we kissed and I felt a really good connection with her. But I became really needy and she friendzoned me. (Jesse talked about this mistake in the Friendzone podcast, a stripper frindzoned him). I stopped talking to her, I didnt want to be her friend. 1 month after I stopped talking to her I asked a friends help to make her jealous. The girl’s school is near my house so i took my hottest friend and went there. We pretended we were a couple (holding hands and stuff) . I hopped she would text or call me after that. She didnt. IT happend 3 weeks ago. What can I do to win this girl again? I can go there and talk to her anytime I want, I just dont know what to do. I am approaching and picking other girls but that one is really special to me. Thanks.

  49. Haber May 24, 2013 at 4:51 am #

    hi can u give me some “master” pickup lines that will work (maybe) and how to pick up a friend that is a older two years???

    second question: There is one day in summer when all teenagers come to the park to drink alcohol. and how to pick a girl if she is drunk or not????


  50. Haber May 24, 2013 at 5:02 am #

    Hi I am from Croatia, and my grandpa
    died four days ago and i want to change
    my character because every girl didnt
    thint for me that i am serius (they all think
    that i am just another one funny guy). I
    want to be that guy in group that was
    with every girl. So i want to know if you
    can give me some pickup lines that are
    funny and serious, and some advices how
    to aproach girl na group in this situation:
    there is one day when teenagers come to
    park and they drank alcohol (some are
    drunk and some didnt). Tnx

  51. aditya narayan May 24, 2013 at 5:12 am #

    What if you want to accomplish your goals, but you're lazy as fuck to care about them.What should i do then,i want to accomplish my goals,but i'm really lazy to do anything.

    • Vish May 26, 2013 at 5:18 am #

      stop making stupid excuses. if you want something, you have to go get get it. Nothing is going to magically come to you.

  52. Swapnil May 24, 2013 at 5:54 am #

    Every time you guys put up a new article, I always want to ask a question. But this very box. I come onto it, start typing and realize I know what you guys will say after all. It's like now, I know how to handle stuff that's going uphill and ignore the stuff going downhill rather than whining about it. I bet most guys here know the solution to the questions they ask, but they just need something like an confirmation from you guys to do it, and it's not like our fault. The way you guys give the confirmation is so awesome, it motivates the fuck out of everyone. Haha! Thanks a lot Simple Pickup!

  53. nottheone May 25, 2013 at 2:24 am #

    I got a deeper question and I really hope that you can answer it. I got a name that is not really pronouncable in the country I live and therefore it gets another meaning.Im being honest,it had a very bad influence on me in the past 3 years,not just concerning girls,but in general,I dont really know what to about it,but I know I dont want to be called this way,though I know that you cant really pronounce it different here,but changing the name wouldnt really be a solution.However this has a massive influence on my self esteem in everydaylife,every single time I present myself or get to know new people,my confidence is not the biggest.And you cant present yourself with a nickname at certain situations.This has been the greatest problem in my life,since it is part of every daily interaction..SInce you guys build a great confidence so far,my question would be;what would you do ?

    • Vish May 25, 2013 at 3:14 am #

      Dude my name is Vish. People have called me bitch and fish and so much other shit it really doesn't matter anymore. That isn't even my full name which can be even worse. One time this asian guy straight up called me bitch because he had an accent. If it's really tht bad just come up with a nickname tht doesn't sound tht bad and only give your real name once you become really close with them. Whenever tht certain situation comes up just act like it's no big deal.

  54. popo May 25, 2013 at 12:05 pm #

    question: apart from pickup, what do you guys do for a living?

  55. mike May 25, 2013 at 6:44 pm #

    mike May 5, 2013 at 11:09 pm #

    Hey guys, basically I have exams coming up so ive been going to my local library, I saw this girl who was literally beautiful, so I wanted to approach her and talk to her for weeks eventually i built up the courage and did a few weeks later thanks to my friends persiading me to do it. So I approached her we had a great 10min conversation she was smiling throutht it as was I. So I thought it was going well so at the end I asked for her number. And she said “im seeing someone ay the moment sorry”. Then like a week later she told her friend to give me her number since we’ve had a few good text conversions but nothings really happened, she dont really make an effort to start conversions so ive stopped to, and even when I still see her in library we don’t really talk. What should I do? I want this girl really badl

    • Vish May 26, 2013 at 5:03 am #

      You should've told her tht you want her

      • Vish May 26, 2013 at 5:04 am #

        approach her again and state your intentions

  56. Edward May 26, 2013 at 4:42 am #

    So i like this girl, and she likes me back, but she had this rule that she doesnt want a boyfriend until she finishes grade 12 (we're in grade 12). did not want to wait that fucking long so i asked her on a date, and she said she'd check ect. but when i asked her again if we were going on it she said she couldnt because of work, assignments, and because no boyfriend rule, however she said she really does want to go on a date with me but she cant for those reasons, the fuck do i do?

  57. ianh May 26, 2013 at 10:51 pm #

    just got back from a meet up with a girl… at starbucks after we ordered i said we should sit down outside while he drink our shit. she said that she didnt have the time and had to go.

    When I drove her back to my house, she opened the door immediatly as i pulled up and said by quickly.. but she still gives me signals that she may like me.

    Should i call it? or keep trying.. because from her language there it looks like she isnt interested.

  58. jo3hua May 28, 2013 at 7:10 am #

    What happens if she still like her EX??????

  59. Bknaka May 28, 2013 at 11:17 am #

    You guys are awesome! If you ever end up in Hawaii, let me know. I’ll take you guys out and buy you guys rounds because I appreciate your work. You guys gave me the confidence to approach women and be myself where all other pua coaches have failed.

  60. MasterOfTheBukakke May 29, 2013 at 1:53 am #

    THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! You have given us the info we need to answer our own questions I cant thank you enough.

  61. Tuugu May 29, 2013 at 11:56 am #

    How to make a girl who doesn't like me to love me?

  62. Garaudy May 30, 2013 at 1:12 am #

    First off i wanted to thank you guys. Jesse, Kong and Jason, because of you guys i've been able to be more confident and social and to pick up way more girls than before. But i'm 15 soo clubs are out but, i go to a lot of house parties. should i approach girls at those parties the same way you do in clubs (FFM)?

  63. Konstant June 1, 2013 at 6:21 am #

    Hey guys I'm in middle school and I'm dating this girl who has never been in a relationship before. I'm a very experienced player for someone my age (thanks to you guys) and I'm just wondering what should I do in this relationship. I don't want to go to fast because shes new to this but I'm used to taking things fast. Can you please help me out?

  64. Bknaka June 2, 2013 at 11:43 am #

    Please do picking up girls and strippers at the strip club

  65. Trayan June 2, 2013 at 1:27 pm #

    How to pick up older girls?

  66. Trayan June 2, 2013 at 1:29 pm #

    one bitch who thinks is my friend told me a few days ago this "why are you trying to date her? Do you know how many boys chat her and like her.. and they are handsome and older" (p.s. it's different from my question how to pick up older girls)

  67. Jon June 2, 2013 at 3:46 pm #

    So I'm in high school and you guys normally pushing this stuff towards people who have trouble with girls , but I'm actually good looking and getting girls is normally easy. But I get the girls I'm around, the popular girls, and I don't want them. I actually normally like the good looking girls that no one notices I don't know how to approach them because even when I tell them that I like them or want them they still don't understand that, it simply doesn't make sense to them. They think I want something like I'm asking for something, but I'm trying to hit on them, and they don't understand that I am. How do I approach a less popular girl in high school when I'm popular, and we don't have mutual friends?

  68. bohica June 2, 2013 at 7:42 pm #

    OK Guys, any help needed with this one, I'm in New York for a few days for site seeing, I'm staying at this hostel and I met the recepists and short stroy is she amazing had over a two hour talk but I'm only here for tonight and tomorrow, My goal is to get her number and/or get lucky, she down right gorgeous but talking isn't the problem time is here and moving it along, Ive seen a good 90% of simple pick up videos but what do I do in such a sort time and also she working, ps she stays in the hostel due to working and traveling, we shared a room one night due to over book but now I'm stuck in a different room since they fixed it. any more info I can give but the question is what nexts I feel like I'm stuck and time is running out…

    • Vish June 2, 2013 at 9:11 pm #

      if you talked to her for 2 HRS then you should've asked her for the number right then and there. You also could've taken her for an instant date and made an attempt to get her back. Instead of waiting for an answer or making excuses you need to go out and make stuff happen. Try going up to her and asking her out on a date.

      • bohica June 2, 2013 at 9:27 pm #

        your right vish, but the reason i didnt or ask out was this… she works there we sharted talking and 11 she had work(or a lil after) and during the beginning talk she had brought up how saying in america "how are you" is like flirt since people keep trying to get her number after she trys to be nice so i was like crap dont be like that lol. I wont lie im scare to death of fucking up rather than being rejected, I was thinking asking her when she gets off or should i bring up the idea now, oh gawd, here i go again over thinking shit.

  69. ~nytmare~ June 19, 2013 at 9:18 pm #

    @kong… how did you overcame the girl who frndzoned u???? and m asking about the first few initial days months or years of it…. watever time it took!!!! wat was the strategy??

  70. Parm Gill July 5, 2013 at 1:40 am #

    This is a great article, its true that if you don’t have any real desire to accomplish something than your not going to get anything done. Just need to have the desire and intent and any goal can be in your reach. Good job guys!

  71. Tobias July 16, 2013 at 10:17 pm #

    I watched a few of your videos and are kinda interested in PickUp. However, I'm just 16 years old and girls aren't that comfortable with getting picked up that age.
    Any tips'n tricks for me?

  72. ABHINAV KUMAR July 30, 2013 at 3:28 pm #

    i think guys why make it so complex …that how to make any stranger girl in india go nuts for you , i believe everyone hee has read this that female pshycology is same no matter she is in which part of the world, bottom line and clarity and Kongs attitude is all we need here ..there could be two things ACCEPTANCE OR REJECTION.. forget rejection with Kongs(Go fuck your face attitude) and if thee is acceptance celebrate it with bottle of beer ..we all guys need love to be with each other DONT WE…so stand on our beliefs as a Pickup artist ..n BE A MAN !

  73. vlad November 7, 2013 at 10:25 pm #

    how to convince my gf to get laid ? We've been dating for 4 months, she's 17, she likes when I touch and kiss her boobies, that makes her horny but when I put my hand down to her pussy she takes my hand away… she says something about wanting to protect her inocence…

  74. cira August 13, 2014 at 1:54 pm #

    has your ex told that you dont have a future together or that things will never work between the both of you,you dont have to beg him or her to come back into your life,learn how to make your ex come running back to you now

  75. Exalar Her September 3, 2014 at 8:38 am #

    Honestly, I don't need anyone's approval to do to successful, I just need someone who can offer me a solution, and have what to offer, those kind of people, I'll listen, not those who are going to persuade me to change my mind. I agree, some goals are just to generic, need to explore more options.

    • exalar September 3, 2014 at 9:08 am #

      to be successful*

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