After teaching many of you guys how to pickup girls, we’ve received a ton of questions on how to make their relationship last. We’ve been in relationships before: Jason had a girlfriend for two years. And, we continue to coach our former bootcamp students how to make their relationship thrive.
I want to preface this article by mentioning that each relationship is different, one thing might work with one couple whereas it won’t with another couple. To go even further, some men will never be or ever be in a relationship.
However, with that said, there are a set of insights I’ll share that will greatly improve your chances of keeping your relationship last over time.
Making Your Relationship Last
Stay The Man You Were
She fell for you due to certain traits: the confident charisma you carried, the care you had for little kids, the way you cried when watching a Pixar animation movie, etc. You have to focus on these personality traits; make them better and stronger than they were before.
Build on your strengths…
If you stray away from your original traits, the more likelihood she’ll see you as different and you’ll get the typical response: “things weren’t the way they were before.”
I’m not saying you can’t change your goals, make new friends, or try new hobbies. I’m saying is if you were a charismatic talkative man when she met you, always cared to dress nice, then whatever you do, don’t lose the personality traits you had when you first met.
Imagine if your girlfriend stopped laughing the way she did or didn’t bother to dress well in public or stopped her philosophical mindset that working out is a lifestyle she must keep… how would you feel? Would you stay attracted to her? Exactly.
Have Your Own Life
Do you remember how new and exciting everything was when you first met? You had your own life, she had hers, and it was fun meeting your friends as well as hers. Too many guys intertwine their life with the girl’s life a little too much and pretty soon everyone she knows, you know. Everyone she hangs out with, you hang out with as well.
I’m not saying you can’t hang out with her friends; just remember that at the end of the day you must keep her friends separate from your life. She acts a certain away around her friends while you do the same. Let her have her space AWAY from you because: i) you cannot receive 100% happiness just from one person and ii) you can share more with each other when you guys reunite.
Sometimes you need your space…
You won’t learn anything new or exciting if you guys share every experience, friend, and activity with each other. This is how a relationship gets boring, pretty soon you’ll come home and the only thing you’ll say to each other is: “how was your day?” then… silence.
Be Sexually Adventurous
It’s common advice to be adventurous and try new things with each other. But, to be more specific it’s beneficial to your relationship to be active and adventurous in bed. Or, wherever you decide to have sex.
If you’re compatible with your girlfriend, as in she screams and orgasms when you touch her body, then there is a higher chance she’ll stay by you. For most girls, sex is a very emotional activity and her emotional attachment towards you increases when you make her cum.
They say it’s what you do while having and right after sex that shows your true personality. If you make her cum, it means you’re not entirely selfish. If you cuddle, it shows you care for her beyond the penetration. If you can hold your load for a while, it shows that you can be in the moment and elicits you can be a patient man.
Also, transitioning from good to GREAT sex requires active communication, teamwork, and an intuition that can only happen by being attentive to her body.
You don’t have to have threesomes, take part in S&M, toss the salad, or even try anal… you just need to work together to make each other’s sex life REALLY REALLY pleasurably satisfying.
Almost every guy we’ve taught, helped, or who have sent us feedback regarding our videos, have pushed the idea of finding and being with “the one.” And once they find “the one” they get to a point where they have no idea how to make it last.
It can be difficult but just like when you started pick up, it takes time and it takes practice. One thing we’ve learned from ourselves and other students is this: a relationship thrives through trust, patience, understanding, and being calm.
And, the more you go out there and meet girls or begin a new relationship, you’ll see that these four primary traits will help your relationship thrive.
Alright, for the guys who have yet to find “the one,” go out and approach as many hot girls as you can. There so many girls you can find to sleep with, so don’t rush, you’ll find the one for you.