How To Not Give a Shit

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We constantly preach that if you ever want to do something great, you have to learn to take risks. This can be hard for many guys because when you take risks, you’ll be ridiculed, laughed at, and even mocked for what you’re trying to pursue. However, we know that it is through these risks that you’ll be able to achieve the highest reward.

So, how do you get through the haters, the chodes, the people who put you down? It’s called not giving a shit or for an acronym sake: DGAF (Don’t Give a Fuck)

Remember, the more you GAF, the more your mind gets distracted and goes crazy…

It’s easier said than done, so we’ll give a few suggestions on how to DGAF productively so you can start focusing on what matters the most: taking risks to accomplish your goals.

Exercise #1

Go up to the first cute girl you see and start a conversation: “Hi, you’re cute, let’s talk.” And, don’t give yourself a bullshit excuse to not go up because you can’t find a “cute girl.” If you’re in a place that is desolate, then the first girl you see you should start talking to her. JUST DO IT. 

Remember, those who hesitate, masturbate…

If you’re made fun of or rejected or pushed away, just keep trying. This will help you build up a social callous when your risky moves are turned down. It’s okay because if you keep going, you’ll get used to the negative and in the end you’ll be a better person for it.

Exercise #2

Approach complete strangers and then out of nowhere start pushing yourself to do awkward things. Yes, I repeat, purposefully make the situation awkward. You’re like how do I do that? Sit on the floor randomly, stop mid-sentence during a conversation and stay silent, make a troll like joke…

This exercise will help you understand that “awkward” situations don’t really mean anything. In fact, there are no awkward situations, it’s just your own state of mind.

Again, this exercise doesn’t work unless you JUST DO IT.

Exercise #3

The next time you go out, wear an outfit you’ve never worn before. This means if you usually wear a collar shirt and shorts, wear a costume. I’m being serious, put yourself in a position where people might stare at you and judge you from a distance. This is a great thing! By putting yourself in this position and going through with it, you will end up creating a shield from any haters who come your way.

What I’m Not Saying

I’m not saying to purposefully go out there and cause unintentional havoc that can get you arrested. I’m merely saying to have some balls and take risks that can benefit your life: approaching hot girls, tackling a new hobby or skill, building up a social callous, etc., And, understanding that anything or anybody who gets in your way of pursuing these risks should be pushed aside in your brain… simply don’t give a shit about them.

A Few Things To End On

Remember, we do not believe in “baby steps.” Baby steps slows down your progress and it can even bring you down to a point where you don’t improve or worst, give up. The point I’m trying to make is you have to just start BIG, over-exaggerate, embarrass yourself, and get messy, because it is from these actions that you’ll learn the most and know either to take it up a notch or to bring it down.

You got this player.



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190 Responses to How To Not Give a Shit

  1. Ansh G March 2, 2013 at 12:42 am #

    How many times do you approach a girl in a single night (In a club/bar scenario)

    • Sam May 4, 2013 at 3:51 pm #

      How long does it take to not get approach anxiety

      • Adam Lentini May 8, 2013 at 7:58 pm #

        Thinking that anxiety from approaching hot women goes away with with time, is like thinking that ferocious lions will not scare you after approaching several of them. Just be a man, and suck it up. The fun part is that instead of killing you in five minutes with sharp teeth some of these women will want to make out with you in five minutes.

        • Jake August 27, 2013 at 4:20 am #

          I think they did a video about " bitch butterflies" and basically said that that rush of anticipation and anxiety becomes enjoyable. Like when you rode a rollercoaster a few times and the fear went from traumatic to thrilling. At least that's how I'd describe it

  2. Amd9990 March 2, 2013 at 12:42 am #

    How do you inftrate a group of girls, when all the girls in the group generally know who you are, except for your target?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

      Then go after the target and just say you know everyone in the group. Have the group of girls introduce you to the target. 

      • Bill April 21, 2013 at 8:50 pm #

        What do you do on the second approach the day after you got her number? And also what should I do because she stopped texting me when I started a conversation via text ? She texted me that I made her day I don’t understand?

        • Vish June 18, 2013 at 5:27 am #

          You should be trying to set up a time for the two of you to meet. She might've just gotten bored b/c this wasn't leading anywhere. If she doesn't respond after a month, meaning you txt her every once in a while move on

    • maroun May 24, 2013 at 9:11 am #

      inflitrate a group where everybody KNOWS you?…is not infiltrating, go say hi to your friends.thats it

  3. Jesus March 2, 2013 at 12:42 am #

    My gf dumped me, and she sorta took my confidence with her, how can I get a rebound?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:46 am #

      Start approaching every girl you see (regardless if you think she is cute or not), it'll help you build a caliber and you'll even might find a hot girl that you will be pulled to…

    • IAM_GOD March 2, 2013 at 12:54 am #

      When you're in public and your eyes just lock on that girl, go over there and tell her "HEY!, my gf just dumped me and I am having a bad day. Can you give me your number?." she will be so sympathetic and confused she might also give you a blowjob.

      • Purple Kush April 17, 2013 at 3:51 am #

        IAM GOD you've been watching too many movies. I cant count how many times i've seen that. If you tell a girl that you just got dumped it will make you sound needy, desprate, insecure, and many other terible things lol. just quit replying to messages iam god when you clearly know nothing. cough* cough* virgin cough*

        sorry for the spelling lol im so faded right now

  4. Guest1 March 2, 2013 at 12:43 am #

    How to ask a girl to a high school dance (prom)?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:46 am #

      Go ask her in person. Straight up.

      • Bill May 3, 2013 at 2:19 am #

        No only ugly girls will say yes to that, girls hate that.

    • Dumad April 18, 2013 at 11:25 am #

      Like this

    • Bill May 3, 2013 at 2:18 am #

      Dont be a pussy, think of creative meaningful ways to ask her. If she plays piano, write her a song, if she plays soccer, spell out PROM? with soccer balls, point is tailor it to her unique likes and it will give you a ton of points in her favor, just be creative, sweet and have fun with it. PS if she blows you off, take her friend to prom.

  5. Nicholas Curcuruto March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    What are you supposed to talk about on a first date and never have an awkward silence?NI

  6. Keith March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    I find I always get in this period of success that usually lasts about 2-3 weeks where I approach a lot more often than I normally do. Then after a while it's like a high that wears off and I find myself not approaching as much until I get right back to where I started. Does this happen to you? If it does, how did you deal with it?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:48 am #

      This happens to us as well. In project go we have an uncut video called "When You Feel Like Shit" where you not only see the psychological effects of what you're talking about, but how we deal with it… it's a big process that can take a while. Literally though, you just have to push yourself. 

      • Keith March 2, 2013 at 12:51 am #

        Thanks. Glad to know I'm not the only one. I got on Project Go a little late. I might have to go back to see that one. This is one of the biggest reasons I'm a psychology major. Cause literally, it's all in our heads.

  7. Leilar March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    What is the best way to go down on a girl? Any techniques you guys know of?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:49 am #

      We have a podcast in Project Go, talking about sex. It might a little too graphic to say it here… but basically, those pornos aren't always the best resources. 

  8. Dustin March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    I always just count down to 10 and at zero and say IDGAF and then I just go up and say something, usually works.

  9. abel314 March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    i started to not give a shit and i would get into god mode but now all that stuff i did doesnt work anymore do i need to start doing crazier shit?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

      Not crazier shit, just reflect on what's going on… maybe do something new? Routines can turn into boring shit. Spice it up, no need to do something crazier, just do something that is out of your element. 

  10. Laido Dittmar March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    Is my experience right that trolling and having fun with trolling esentially is the first way to kill approach anxiety?

  11. Alex_gradinaru2006 March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    Honestly enough I feel like the women in East Europe (Romania) are being less open towards men talking to them randomly on the street, what can I do in this situation?

    • Alex_gradinaru2006 March 2, 2013 at 12:46 am #

      also, I am a short person is that a big impediment ?

      • GfckG March 2, 2013 at 1:05 pm #

         No, it doesnt matter if you're small, tall, ugly, beautiful or sth. like this
        you want to find the girl, that likes you the way you are, dont you? So it doesnt matter
        if someone rejects you because you'r a short person, just DGAF

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

      Try to DGAF. Understand the culture, remember how we said "know when to tone it down." Maybe this can be one of those moments… keep being risky, but tone it down a tad. 

    • AlexB April 24, 2013 at 8:14 am #

      I'm Romanian, so I understand what you mean. They are alot more cautious about all the sudden talking and approach. But besides of the conservative and reserved culture, the women, like simplepickup say of all women, dont want to be seen as sluts, especially if picked up in public. From my experience, they are more open to a drink or instant date if it's already in that location. As for the random approaches, simply just got to make them understand that you're not low class, (at least don't speak like one) and just seem interested in her with your intentions clear.

  12. Smmahdad March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    Honestly, I am able to get a girls number and become fuck buddies if it is through friends, but I guess I just have a bad case of bb and just make excuses for myself. How did you guys get motivated to go out more and more and just talk with people? 

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:51 am #

      Like the article stated, we just went out and just did it. It's a hard concept, but if you just DO IT. It'll make it easier. 

  13. kfgh March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    How old are you guys?

    • Ansh G March 2, 2013 at 12:46 am #

      22, 23,23
      Jason, jesse, kong

      • iflao002 March 2, 2013 at 1:45 am #

        BUT….they've been doing this for a few years, age is NOT an excuse. Whether you are 15 or 45 just GO

        • Ansh G March 2, 2013 at 2:05 am #

          yeah they have been doing these for last 5 years.. since jesse and kong were 18..

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:51 am #

      We don't want to give our age away because it might discourage other people to go out and take risks

      • James96 October 1, 2014 at 10:42 am #

        Really need your help

  14. Marrerol29 March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    How do I get a girl from sitting on my couch to my bed? Like lets say I invite a girl over And we're sitting on my couch. How do we move to the bed so we could GET IT ON? Haha thanks

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:52 am #

      1. Start making out on the coach 2. Lift her up and head to the bedroom 3. Take her hand and head to the bedroom 

  15. thegeneral March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    Hey guys,
    I will be entering medical school this August. It goes without saying that I will try to talk to as many hot girls in my school/class as I can. My question is, do you think I should go direct with these girls, or go indirect and try to befriend them first? I prefer going direct in my approaches, and you guys have recommended going direct in the classroom, but I worry that if I go direct, at least one girl will think I'm creepy/weird, then tell her friends, and then the gossip could spread like wildfire. Especially in medical school, where my main focus will obviously be to excel in class, the last thing I want is my peers to think poorly of me. What do you think is the best way for me to build strong, possibly sexual relationships with my cute fellow doctors? 

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:53 am #

      If you're really scared of hurting your reputation, you can always go to a different school (not for academics but to visit) and pickup the girls there. I would say that going direct is always key because even though she doesn't want to "be with you" you are always leaving an option open because she knows your intentions. 

  16. Dan Gomez March 2, 2013 at 12:44 am #

    How do you break up/call off a relationship with a girl?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:54 am #

      Meet up with her, don't have sex or do anything sexually, and bluntly say you want to break up. 

      • George July 22, 2014 at 4:10 am #

        In the middle of sex call her a different name… works all the time :o)

  17. g_l24 March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    What are some good activities./challenges to help an extremely socially awkward person who barely knows how to have a conversation, get started?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:54 am #

      Challenge: First girl you see, start conversing with her. Activities: Community service 

    • youngster March 31, 2013 at 4:35 am #

      i suggest going outdoors/laundry/supermarkets/malls/etc by yourself and talk to everyone and anyone,old ladies,young ladies,milfs,guys,everyone ,pet peoples pets,the ones who dont say anything back then STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM THEM,Clearly do you want to spend your limited time that you have on this earth with people who dont realize that life is not guaranteed

  18. Bee March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    If you speak to some girl at school and the next day u mean again,but she's not interesting and boring.she speaks more with her friend that with u and doesn't have anything to say.answers briefly…
    should i be persistent?or move on?

  19. Luxin March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    does this also count for nightgame? or only daygame

  20. Lovinnubin March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    were can i meet a lot of new girls at, if im in high school and not legally allowed in clubs yet? all your stuff works in high school , but i need new grounds and more people. girls are started to get the wrong impression of me at school and im cock blocking myself now since people think im a man whore.

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:56 am #

      Community service organizations / extra-curricular activities / community colleges – should work. Also, if you have any girl – friends, ask them to invite you over so you can hang out with their friends. 

  21. Samkiller104 March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    Hey guys. Did you guys ever solo clubs alone? Like not knowing anyone at all.

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:57 am #

      Yes. And, the secret is to meet as many people as you can in the club so they can introduce you to their friends. 

  22. Flawisperfection March 2, 2013 at 12:45 am #

    Ready to get Cockblocked at Comic Con ?

  23. Connor Ozbay March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    How do you deal with ppl giving you a bad wrap in say college because you are hitting on girls??? "Oh that guy hits on every girl." shit like that??

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 12:58 am #

      DGAF. The ones who you're nice to and stick by you are the ones who matter. "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind" – Dr. Seuss 

      • George July 22, 2014 at 4:11 am #

        You realize they are to scared to hit on girls…

  24. Jay Nguyen March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    How do you trust girls after knowing that with proper seduction and well executed game, most girls can cheat? That with solid game, they can give in to you? If they are falling for you, how do you know someone else won't come along and take them away?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 1:01 am #

      Think about this, not every girl cheats. Even if the guy has the greatest game in the world, I know plenty of girls who are strong enough and hot enough not to cheat. Why? Because they're guy (who they're dating) is pretty bad ass awesome (you can be that guy).

      Also, if she's taken – you should back off – you're setting yourself up if you don't. 

  25. Fulminum March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    I apprecıate your work very much, Sımple Pıckup. Thıs here ıs a very well crafted pıece of advıce, I can only wonder the hardshıps the three of you went through se we wouldn"t have to. Now the questıon: I"ve known thıs gırl for a few years, we went to school together but lıfe parted us away. Now we"re back ın the same school and I"d very much lıke to exchange bodıly fluıds. The problem ıs: She seems to be rather closed to my normal game. What do you thınk of thıs sıtuatıon, how should I begın my campaıgn over her pale ass?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 1:02 am #

      Be direct. Also, she's not a "campaign" – the way you word it sounds gross.

      • Fulminum March 2, 2013 at 1:13 am #

        lıckıng someone else"s throat or puttıng your love apendıx ınsıde her sewage ıs rather gross, too. ew, dude, how do you sleep at nıght ?

      • James96 October 1, 2014 at 12:00 pm #

        Hi guys,I watch your videos all the time and I think their great. But I still dont go out their and talk to random girls because of confidence, you use the the words "dont give a fuck" and I still do give a fuck, I care to much about what others think and i wish i didn't as you said if people mock you. For example seeing a random cute girl and I would not alle the balls to talk to her as I care to much what others around think and it makes me very unhappy that I do take action and talk to them. Please give me advice on what shoould do because its making feel awful.

      • James96 October 1, 2014 at 12:06 pm #

        If only i did not care

  26. joe March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    Is it ok to just constantly interact with new girls in school clubs etc but dont really have to approach random girls outside?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 1:05 am #

      It's okay to do that, but what if you see a cute girl outside of school? Without approaching random girls outside, how will you know what to do? 

  27. munchyasian March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    my buddy and i approached two girls.
    my buddy was getting along with his girl.
    i escalated too quickly, told her i wanted to dance with her but she took it the wrong way.
    awkward as FUCK.
    she gives her friend the "lets go to the bathroom" look but the friend is having a good convo with my friend.
    meanwhile im standing there with my dick in my hand.
    turn around and walk away or try to be a good wingman amidst the awkardness?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 1:05 am #

      Try to be a good wingman and keep pushing yourself. Grab the girl's hand or just keep "distracting her." I hope you didn't walk away because your friend needed you at that moment. 

  28. Kyle March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    About how long did it take each of you to fully not give a shit anymore and what event(s) was the one that really changed you?

    • Kong, Jesse, Jason March 2, 2013 at 1:06 am #

      About a few months to a year: this is us constantly going out almost every single day. 

  29. hiko March 2, 2013 at 12:47 am #

    how to get a girl when you have little to no money? in other words how do poor people get some too?

    • Julian May 14, 2013 at 3:19 pm #

      you don't need money just walk up to a girl and talk to her
      if you're a bauwzz you'll get a girl eventually

    • Miww July 10, 2013 at 4:41 pm #

      same way it doesn't cost anything to say hello.

  30. Roseen19 March 2, 2013 at 12:48 am #

    Yo fellas…… This is really starting to get to me!!!! Ive been going out like a machine lately approaching 25-30 sets @ night and during the day like 10-15 a day. So heres what i neeed some motivation / insight. I understand this shit is a #s game for instance last night i got blown out 30 times and got 3 #s so yes technically not bad, but its been kind of typical to get blown out so damn much at night. Then during the day its been growing on me as well, its just getting frustrating. Heres my 2 questions, i NEED your inspiration brothas.

    1. What EXACTLY should my mindset be when im going out during the day and night. my #1 goal is yes to get a sexy girlfriend but i might be taking it a little serious. where should my head be @ during this process, through all the ups and downs?

    2. Why the fuck do i feel soooo needy when i stop girls on the move? I know its all about the way you come off and the way you interpret yourself, but for some stupid reason i feel like if im stopping a girl on the move that im lowering my status and looking needy and less attractive.

    HELP A BROTHA OUT….. you 3 got me inspired 2 do this ( got serious respect 4 ya ) so a nice bit of advice could go a long way. I love u…. 100% homo

  31. Yo_bleach March 2, 2013 at 12:48 am #

    Thanks guys. You are really something, you know that?

  32. nasir March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    thnx men,dats wat i was doing last 3weeks. nw m fears r decsending towards gals,and whenever i try looking girls its like they r smiling at me. greeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaat!!!!!!!!!!! 

  33. Serge March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    i don't have problem hitting on chicks in bar, but i can't do it outside. i just can't. what do i do?

    • LaurisD March 7, 2013 at 2:26 pm #

       just try it man. There is an article up there about not giving a fuck if you didn't see it.

    • juliusthebro April 17, 2013 at 6:07 am #

      I have the same problem lol. But I just randomly approach girls. And I always fail.
      But it's good experience. Just keep doing it.
      Look back and regret on what you did or did not do and try sth new next. I almost had a heart attack the first time I approached a girl in public outside a bar or club…

  34. HearseRider69 March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    Some guys do this… Can you please advise them where to draw the line though? Cause sometimes it turns from cute and interesting, to douchebag

  35. Mika March 2, 2013 at 12:50 am #

    I danced today in a club with a chick for more then 20 minutes , before the end of the night. After that i  isolated her from her girlfriend who also danced with another guy for the whole night. I spoke a bit about school and then i asked her for her number: I like you and i want to get you know better , she said to me that she doesnt give out her number to club acquaintances . I asked her whats wrong about that, i am a nice guy . She said i know but i just dont give it out. So i asked for her Facebook , she didnt give it to me either . Then i asked her to take down my number ,the same again.  My last offer was to give her my facebook name and if she is interested she can add me .Later i found out that she had a boyfriend… What should i do the next time to get the number ?

  36. Benjamin March 2, 2013 at 12:52 am #

    There is this one special girl, She's single but not ready to mingle, how to convince her (i mean long-term, not only getting some action, which would also Be Nice Along the way xD!)

  37. Yuri March 2, 2013 at 12:52 am #

    How to deal withth girl who rejected you but wants to be firnds and ia there still a chance?

    • 2Tone March 2, 2013 at 1:03 am #

      you need more english lessons

  38. Jesusism March 2, 2013 at 12:52 am #

    Kong – is it true what they say about Asian men's penises and how did you work through it.

  39. RatchetStudio March 2, 2013 at 12:56 am #

    I find that when I don't think of the woman as a potential sexual partner, I tend to become extremely funny, confident and charming. However, this rarely happens, as the sex factor always muddle it up. Any tips on getting out of that state of mind? If not, how can I turn this into my advantage? Thanks.

  40. Diegosaur March 2, 2013 at 12:58 am #

    Guys, im in a youtube project with some friends (we are from Chile), about us doing akward shit in public or with girls, I would be honored if you guys could help us by sending us a video with challenges, and of course we'd have to challenge you too. If you are interested contact me at my email

  41. Jacob March 2, 2013 at 1:00 am #

    Thanks for the help guys! You have changed my life!!! I am now talking to three different girls at once because of you guys!!!! I no longer give a shit about what people think of me, and it has done wonders for my life! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!! 

  42. guest March 2, 2013 at 1:00 am #

    normaly i DGAF when the girl rejects me, but what can i  answer if she says that she has boyfriend? sth that make her laught and create more atraction?

    • Tanner Mann March 2, 2013 at 2:03 am #

      "That's okay. He can keep you busy when you're not with me ;)"

    • juliusthebro April 17, 2013 at 6:05 am #

      try this, "so… do you want a manfriend?". It cracks girls up

  43. TeeDee March 2, 2013 at 1:03 am #

    Have you always been into picking up girls? Or it's somthing recent? Tee

  44. Carsongiles March 2, 2013 at 1:11 am #

    What the hell do you do if you get boners while getting grinded on

    • Jtabansi 1 March 2, 2013 at 1:19 am #

      Thats the point!

      • Tanner Mann March 2, 2013 at 2:02 am #

        I see what you did there

    • Peter Menzel94 March 2, 2013 at 1:27 am #

      You push that bone right up to her, don't you want her to know you are turned on. You gotta own the bone…

      • Transformation2012 March 18, 2013 at 11:59 pm #

        Jajaja, own the bone! Nice one…

    • Tony BSM March 2, 2013 at 2:57 am #

       Point it up so its not uncomfortable and rub it hard up against her ass so she can feel it , she wants you to pop a bone and it will make her night!

    • juliusthebro April 17, 2013 at 6:03 am #

      well, just keep going…. I don't think they mind. None of the girls I grinded on did not seem to mind a small peck that kept feeling their booty. Maybe it's cus i'm asian and they can't feel it….

    • alex December 18, 2013 at 12:22 am #

      You own that shit like a boss!

      In all seriousness, I used to freak out whenever I popped wood dancing with a girl. I'd back away awkwardly, try and tuck it under my belt or whatever…basically anything to avoid what I thought was gonna be awkward, in turn this made the night a whole lot more stressful.

      What you should be doing is trying not to give a fuck about what anyone thinks of you. If I ever see some guy dancing with a hot girl, its kudos to him…who cares whether his body is performing a perfectly natural response the woman he is up against.

      From another point of view; if a girl is into you enough to be rubbing her ass/groin against you do you think she's going to be freaked out by the fact that you have a penis? Of course not! :)
      When you get hard and you let her feel it your basically saying "I am a real man, I find you attractive, and your turning me on."

      So whether you've got a 10 inch monster, or a 4 inch worm, own that shit brother!
      And always remember…if she wasn't into you, she wouldn't be dancing with you. :)

  45. Naeton18 March 2, 2013 at 1:16 am #

    Hi, I'm not a very attractive guy, and I studder really badly. Every time I approach a girl and try to say something it takes a while to come out, and I think they get turned off by it. Also I have an accent (I'm from the Bahamas but current in school in America) so if I am able to get words out sometimes they don't get my accent and I have to repeat it. What should I do seeing as I have a speech impediment?

    • Eminem March 2, 2013 at 1:23 am #

      just do-do-do-do don't give a fu-fu-fuck

    • Max June 21, 2013 at 1:00 pm #

      You should joke about your speech impediment, for example you could say "I was gonna talk to you later on, but I figured I'd best go asap so that I might finish this sentence before the end of the night."

      I dunno I'm no expert, but try to use it as a conversation starter.

  46. Schu9600 March 2, 2013 at 1:30 am #

    Hey you guys are great. Just wanted to throw it out there.  I wasn't shy before but you guys have made my game just that much better. 


  47. George March 2, 2013 at 2:15 am #

    u guys are awesome, its like we are your brothers and u love us. Damn!

  48. Nedoiu_paul March 2, 2013 at 2:18 am #

    If you want to take more risks than learn to increase your testosterone, Ive tried everything from affirmations to nlp, but this has helped me the most !

    • Rius March 2, 2013 at 2:40 am #

      Seriously? you tried learning a complicated part of psychology and when some random person tells you not to give a fuck you are suddenly enlightened? 

      • Nedoiu_paul March 3, 2013 at 1:16 am #

        Dude your an idiot, you didnt even understand my comment, I was telling that psychology, nlp and other stuff indeed helps but its the male hormone the one that converts fear into excitement !

  49. MathewKh March 2, 2013 at 2:49 am #

    cutting the sentence in the middle is fun. I tired it.

    • nigel nwosu March 15, 2013 at 1:30 am #

      what do u mean cutting the sentence?

  50. Tony BSM March 2, 2013 at 2:54 am #

    Thinking too much is one of the worst things you can do , just pretend like your about to jump off a bridge into water , your gonna land in safe water but the only problem is thinking about it. Just do it!

    • Shawn March 2, 2013 at 5:32 am #

      Actually, if you jump off a bridge into water you can hurt yourself pretty bad depending on the height… but I get what you mean

  51. Gonzalez987 March 2, 2013 at 3:11 am #

    whats up simple pick up. A challenge for you guys is this tough one, pick up girls with ugly facial features such as yellowish teeth, acne, uni brow, booger in nose, did I mention acne? Give some hope to those who are plagued with breakouts. I suggest making an article centered on texting or social website communication. I know this isn't your style of pick up but guys and girls can seriously gain feelings for you the way you can communicate with texts or social website. Thanks for the advice kong, jesse, and Jason you gus are the shit.

  52. Sevin March 2, 2013 at 4:27 am #

    I have a shirt that says "I'm Single" should I wear it proudly?

    • Ben March 31, 2013 at 2:12 pm #


  53. Guest March 2, 2013 at 7:21 am #

    Good article, I hope there will me more on DGAF and self-confidence. Here's something that sometimes experience: the more I focus on not giving a fuck what others think of me, the more I put them in the middle of my thoughts – and kinda focus on them again. Anybody else who encountered this problem? 

  54. Vipul Langayan March 2, 2013 at 7:59 am #

    Best words by simple pickups "Remember, those who hesitate, masturbate…" XDD

  55. esh March 2, 2013 at 2:35 pm #

    yes know more

  56. xxspikeyxx March 2, 2013 at 3:46 pm #

    I love you guys. Without you guys today I wouldn't even be able to handle being awkward with so many girls in my group (6 of them) and me the only guy walking around today's event!

  57. Xaph March 2, 2013 at 3:49 pm #

    Yesterday, before even reading this article, I used the "You know where this is?" excuse to start a conversation with a girl, immediately revealing my true intentions right after that.

    The thing is, I actually asked for an undertaker. For real.She turned away, saying she had a boyfriend, she that, she there; who gives a damn: it was hilarious!
    Today a friend of mine starts mocking me like the bitch he is "Where's the undertaker, buddy?" or "Take this flowers sweetie, I got them from my grandma's grave!". I tried at first to be reasonable (telling him how it didn't matter, how I didn't give a fuck and so on), then I made fun of me a bit too (he's right, I was a dumbass after all) until it got to a point where I told him to fuck himself because he was just going to drive me nuts. Now he's probably doing literally that, since he's got no balls to GO talk to a goddamn girl… He says that you guys "just philosophize and don't give any practical advice whatsoever" and you "know how to pick girls up, but just can't make others do that". Basically he wants to be taken by hand with someone whispering lines for him… Enough of this, it doesn't really matter how much of a pussy he is.
    So I went on the website, saw this article, and after reading it I just felt AWESOME. I sure didn't care before, but now failure (and how I handled it) feels actually great!I'm Italian and here girls seem (<–key word!) harder to pick up.. we'll see about that. Tonight I'm going to a party and I'll dance the crap out of some hot girls!! I may be ahead of you in terms of tactics, yet you still made me and huge favor posting this article. God Mode, engaging.

    • BRDude March 2, 2013 at 7:52 pm #

      It was inspiring. 

      Go get'em, player.

    • Transformation2012 March 18, 2013 at 11:06 pm #

      Totally agree with BRDude! You behaved like a total fucking boss and your friend is just a hater.

      Keep at em'

  58. dark_angel March 2, 2013 at 10:38 pm #

    briliant stuff, I'm begining to see the changes and improvements after 2 months of pickup , everyday , day by day 

  59. Lakersjc March 3, 2013 at 8:31 am #

    Hell yeah! Be your own person. Don't care what anyone thinks. No one lives your life other than you so do what makes you happy. Act a fool to show people you are comfortable with stepping out of normal society!

  60. BRDude March 3, 2013 at 7:18 pm #

    On the latest days I proudly got rid of my BBs several times. I just can't DGAF when I'm on a situation that I can't run away in case of rejection. For exemple a long trip on a bus… I can't talk to the girl beside me afraid of not only a rejection but to have to look to her for more 30 minutes of awkwardness. There are similar situations on bus stops, waiting rooms, etc.
    I think this is my weakest point and I don't know how to handle it. Any tips guys?

    • navid March 3, 2013 at 10:07 pm #

      Sorry BRDude but there are no tips anyone can give that will help you, only you can make your bitch butterflies go away by actually approaching. I know its easier said then done because for some reason us guys fear rejection, I admit I do to sometimes but I honestly have no idea why.
      Just think of this, remember your first approach after watching simple pickup? Remember how amazing it felt to finally do it and the unbelievable high you got afterwards even if you got rejected. (at least thats how i felt.)

      Now ask yourself would you rather have that feeling, or the feeling of knowing you bitched out. 

    • Ade March 3, 2013 at 10:07 pm #

      I had the same problem in the train or the bus, I just couldn't do it. Then I realized that

      1. It's THE BEST practice to build up a "social callous" and truly not GAF
      2. Even if you get rejected you made a new friend you can talk about anything, and when you can talk about anything you like with a complete stranger (preferably a hot one) there is no reason to run away.

      How did I realize this? Well because I happened to be in a situation that was really awkward on a bus like this.  Twice.

      Moved myself from the back of the bus to near the front next to a hot girl, went up to her direct, she had a bf AND was 15 years old. So I just sat there stunned, then I just talked as if nothing happened. I mean I couldn't run so might as well have fun with the situation, and that's what pickup is all about right?

    • Transformation2012 March 18, 2013 at 11:55 pm #

      I used to have the same problem and I pretty much have it on lock now. This is how I did it:
      1. DON'T beat yourself up if you bitch out sometimes (or all the time)! Never EVER browbeat yourself… I used to do it, doesn't help you any, sitting around on the bus calling yourself a bitch and a pussy and feeling bad about yourself is NOT going to help you beat this situation in ANY way, so DON'T do it!!!
      2. Small chunk… Take smaller steps and build yourself up into awesome approaches. First just say hi to people in those kinds of situations until you get comfortable with that. Then try small talking everyone (old people, kids, adults, etc.). Then you start small talking girls WITHOUT going for a number or hitting on them or anything. Then after you're comfortable with that… approach girls.
      3. This one is key… !!!Blow everything you do out of proportion and only see the positives in it!!! If you're mission that day was to say hi to two people on the bus and you did it, blow it out of proportion. If you're mission was to small talk someone and you did it, blow it out of proportion. I would literally sit there on the bus, screaming at myself in my head that I was fucking awesome and a complete badass not because I had just said hi to two people on the bus but because I had pushed my comfort zone and badasses push their comfort zone! Even if you bitch out on your mission that day, mind fuck yourself and realize that you are a fucking badass, most people don't push themselves, you are. So even if you fail you are still a badass just for trying. You'll feel a little insane standing there calling yourself a badass after you just said hi to two old ladies but it's absolutely necessary that you do it because that's how you start to gain emotional leverage over yourself…. Hope this helps and go pimp it!

  61. Mzubac March 3, 2013 at 11:37 pm #

    You guy are honestly my heroes! Whenever I feel like I don't know what I'm doing or go looking for some needed girl advice I come to this website. You guys have actually helped me improve myself around girls and I seriously thank you for what you're doing. Keep up the great work!

  62. Leonardo March 4, 2013 at 2:09 am #

    Actually, baby steps are proven to be the best way to get rid of anxieties, just google for "Cognitive behavioral therapy".

    • BossMan March 4, 2013 at 2:30 am #

      STFU. by the time those are over something has already happened.

  63. BossMan March 4, 2013 at 2:30 am #

    For a list of awkward yet fun things to do, Look up LAHWF on YOUTUBE.

  64. Low March 4, 2013 at 9:03 pm #

    Hmm its interesting,i got biggest problem,ppl still make fun of me,they shout to me that iam looking like harry potter because of glasses and that shit,its very hard to get over it for me because iam myself and people laught at me,its happening me all the time,do you have any advice to get over it and dont give a fuck?(sry for my english :P )

    • Turtlemilk March 5, 2013 at 10:09 pm #

      Make a joke about it, be like, (Have you ever hooked up with Harry Potter) <3

      • Javil March 6, 2013 at 1:42 pm #

        Or say something like: Wanna come to my chamber of secrets? I'll show you my magic wand.

        • Low March 7, 2013 at 4:25 pm #

           hmm thx i try it :)

    • Oscar March 5, 2013 at 11:32 pm #

      talk about ir, how it makes you feel, it looks like you are being honest and also you can joke about it

    • vivek March 11, 2013 at 5:14 am #

      Just curse them, "AVADA KEDAVRA"

    • hula wizard March 14, 2013 at 2:21 am #

       "hey asshole, you look like harry potter!' "epelliarmus bitch! *flip finger*"

    • The Iceman August 8, 2013 at 6:36 am #

      Damn man I’m reading your comment, and it’s like déjà vu for me. I had the exact same problem. It drove me insane for a long time, I thought low of myself thinking I shouldnt live. I thought that the bullies shouldn’t exist. I had round glasses and thick hair and was bullied a lot. I started lifting weights, then I started to get into MMA and joined football and wrestled. During that time I started to wear contacts, now with the help of these guys Im feeling starting to feel confident about myself. I know your it’s tough. Hang in there man, KCCO and DGAF!

  65. Aron March 5, 2013 at 3:07 am #

    That was a good article.Ive learned that DGAF about what other people say about you because you will just put yourself down with some WORDS some hater said

  66. Chi_guy789 March 5, 2013 at 5:11 pm #

    this shit was great like me and my gf was losing our spark i started to DGAF and we're happy now thanx bros

  67. Ftrig004 March 7, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

    You guys got me new  pu$$y coming in. I always relied on clubs to score on girls and pick up phone numbers. However, since your videos, you guys inspired me to approach any cute girls that I see. I go to school and I'm always seeing different girls. Today I approached a girl and I said I'm from San Francisco and I'm use to seeing gay parades and from there we hit it off. I admit, you guys been a big hand (helpful lol). I'm using what I'm learning and applying it to the real world. I live in Miami, so you know its going down over here!! 

  68. Rockmanuno March 8, 2013 at 6:26 am #

    shit guys… I have always taken baby steps, and noticed little progress. But now I will just do what SP says and not NGAF. Is it really that easy?

  69. King F March 10, 2013 at 10:41 am #

    I started out crazy, doing REALLY akwards stuff and going balls in (Like going up to a MILF and tell her i wanted to fuck her straight up) Did it for while, but it never actually helped me :/

  70. Eaglehigh81 March 10, 2013 at 8:42 pm #

    I have a feeling that the word “risks“ that is found in the line right above the headline “A Few Things To End On“ should be “goals“.

  71. R00T_BAHRAIN March 12, 2013 at 8:26 am #

    Dose it Really Work ._. ?

    • Bernard v.d Merwe March 12, 2013 at 6:37 pm #

      Try this: Within the first 3 seconds of seeing an attractive girl, approach her. Then see for yourself if this really works or not. By doing this, you're not giving your brain a chance to GAF.

  72. Matsew March 12, 2013 at 11:14 pm #

    "This can be hard for many guys because when you take risks, you’ll be ridiculed, laughed at, and even mocked for what you’re trying to pursue." this.. :( fuck people.. thanks for the advice :)

  73. nigel nwosu March 15, 2013 at 1:38 am #

    NO NO NO ur being a little kiss ass, what your mistake was is telling her that you like her. dont do this EVER!!!! because pnce a girl knws you like her the challenge is gone and gives her every resaon to reject you man. you should have said something along the lines of "You seem really cool and i would like to chill with you sometime, what is your number"  just an example that i see kong and his friends use, and remember when you ask say "what is instead of what's"

  74. felim6 March 15, 2013 at 5:58 am #

    How do you pick up girls when your 21, and you have a chi.ld how do you bring it up or should you not say anything can you please make a video on how to pick up girls with letting them know

  75. Jozell March 21, 2013 at 7:40 pm #

    I been wanting to do this pick up and watever. I know I don't have the confidence yet but ya IDGAF im just so busy at work but ill find time

  76. Andre Liu March 24, 2013 at 4:57 am #

    This method is actually similar to the conventions in which psychologists use to remove or reduce the effects of phobias in patients.

    there are two types of ways to deal with phobias

    1 – systematic desensitization

    2 – flooding.

    systematic desensitization is what these guys have referred to "baby steps"

    whilst flooding is pretty much what they described this whole article.

    So, in a way. This article is loosely based on the treatment of phobias.

    go get them players. (Y)

  77. Tom March 27, 2013 at 5:26 am #

    damn im about to take off my shirt in mid class tomorrow

  78. gavra March 28, 2013 at 9:33 pm #

    I am sure you guys read about "The mystery method" What atcually you think about it?

  79. youngster March 31, 2013 at 5:04 am #

    This is what helps me not give a shit


    WORKOUT 5 Minutes ,Rest For Awhile,Then Do It Again And Again

    Then You`ll Start Doing 10 Min Then 20 Min (You get the idea)

    Start Small Then Your Body Will Naturally Adapt

    And Will Want To Keep Doing It And Doing It

    Then A Funny Thing Will Start To Happen ,You`ll End Up Liking It




    IF you dont like lifting weights take on a sport that you like

    not only will you have fun and meet new people

    but the whole point is to get your body moving

    and you will naturally get ripped and have a hobby and have something going on your life besides women,

    dont put women first put yourself first
    work on your self
    better yourself

    get off the computer
    get off the video games
    get off the tv
    stop wacking off to porn
    and start moving your body ,literally start getting into the habit of doing some fun physical activity
    thats fun for you

  80. Rzzz123 April 3, 2013 at 7:27 pm #

    Hey..Im from India and Indian girls are very conservative..Any special tips on how to approach girls here…

  81. EVAN April 6, 2013 at 10:04 pm #

    yesterday i went up to 5 girls and i was like ' so are you interested in ……. a sixsome? and the girl said no and i put my thumbs up. I were laughing my ass off tbh :p

  82. Mike April 15, 2013 at 11:17 pm #

    After a day where I got the number of a girl I liked, I was feeling great. So while I was leaving a track meet at the school I stopped, asked the closest girl what her name is, told her mine, said she was cute, and walked away.

    I was short on time because of my ride home but I will be doing this in the future and attempting to get their numbers too.

    DGAF Mode: Activated

    Thank you guys for motivating me.

  83. juliusthebro April 17, 2013 at 6:01 am #

    I aksed a girl alone in a gift shop at Universal Studios LA. I approached her and told her that I came over because I thought she was cute. She said Oh thanks and continued looking at whatever. Then the next few seconds are not so clear but I basically tried to introduce myself and ask her to introduce herself but she said no….

    What did I do wrong?

    And ps, I've been texting this girl I just really like for a while (text and chat) but she has a BF…. Should I keep on going?

  84. juliusthebro April 17, 2013 at 6:22 am #

    PPS I want a routine (since I'm a beginner at this… Only one success and she has a bf).
    I approach a girl from an angle, and I either tell her why I came over or I use a funny line or make her laugh…. Then I tell her my name and get her name as well.
    Then I gently put my hand on her arm and close the space a lil bit…
    THEN I talk… just bullshit but the problem is i don't know what to say cus I don't wanna scare her off. And I think this only applies to the 'night game' right?
    … but at the end I TELL her we are going to hang out later, or should I ask her? like sth like this: "…you, and I, are going to hang out later. I'm gonna give you a call" ("I'mg gonna call you" is a sign being my asking for her phone number)

    What do you guys think? Is this routine a safe thing to do? I usually try to hit 16 to 22 year olds (ending Junior year in HS). I'm fairly confident but also pretty crazy, I do talk to girls but my friend tell me "Julius, you don't know how to talk to chicks!" I usually say random things to make them laugh and to make myself have a good time. Which usually works. But I have a feeling I'm being a 'creep' to them :D

    I'd love some help from pros :)

  85. Inner confidence April 17, 2013 at 10:12 pm #

    Hey, so how to deal with girls in your social circle after you've hooked up with them.
    Approaching, hooking up is no problem because of you guys (KONG YOU MY N****), but word goes around fast and how can I prevent this from hurting my 'Not-player' image to other girls that are in the same social circle.

    I know there are a lot of other girls out there etc etc.

    Love you

  86. Futureboss May 18, 2013 at 1:28 am #

    I'm a senior at high school and I have pretty much a crush on a girl. These feelings came about and I always feel awkward when we walk together alone. I feel like this is a major problem for me because I constantly do this with girls. What's there to talk about when you have nothing else to talk about? And how do I stop this awkward silence between us.

  87. HT808 June 2, 2013 at 8:08 am #

    Im going to get DGAF tattooed

  88. David June 28, 2013 at 6:40 am #

    What if your face turns really red randomly when you think you do something "weird?" I can talk to girls but sometimes I'll do something weird or someone else will embarrass me and my face will turn super red. When it turns red everything just goes downhill and I basically have to abandon the girl..

  89. Ironman fan July 10, 2013 at 7:57 am #

    "Sometimes you gotta run before you can walk"

  90. Mark August 19, 2013 at 3:51 am #

    hey, i'm 16 and i'm interested in a girl, thing is, people here are not used to going on dates, so i can't ask her out on one. i'm in high school. what would you recommend?

  91. Exalar September 16, 2013 at 6:50 am #

    I guess what your saying is, leave it to an action I may not understand from the beginning, but I will understand later.According to my experience, I've realized that the more I talk to people the faster I learn. Thank you, because I experience that ever since I attended anime convention even though I am not trying to go after girls I learn how to talk better :)

  92. Emma September 25, 2013 at 3:34 pm #

    You guys are the best.. you merely talking about the everyday things that we are afraid to do as guys..

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  97. Andrew July 24, 2014 at 2:31 pm #

    With your 'straight in the deep end' method. I'd imagine that'd mean approaching hot girls (who make you nervous 8-10s) straight off, instead of approaching woman you sort of find attractive (5-7s) who are easier to talk to. If it's been years since I've approached any girls, should I practice with the less attractive ones first/as well?

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