We started with the logistical steps of how to get prepped up and then devled into approaching methods in a club. If you missed any of those past articles you can check them out here: [Part 1] [Part 2]
In this article we’re going to go over:
Be wary because this isn’t for everybody. There is no need for you to go to the dance floor if you’re uncomfortable and believe your pickup is better served next to the bar or in quieter areas.
However, with that said there are going to be moments where: i) you’ll see a hot girl on the dance floor and you’re just propelled to dance with her, ii) the girl you’re talking to hears her SONG and brings you to the dance floor, and iii) the only perfect transition you can think of during your pickup is to LEAD her to the dance floor.
So for the guys out there who will experience the above situations, this is for you.
Heading to the dance floor is like approaching a girl, you CANNOT HESITATE one bit. As soon as I approach the dance floor I start dancing right away. I throw my hands in the air, move my legs, and get it going. The reason for this is because the more you hesitate the less likely you’ll start dancing.
NOT DANCING on the dance floor is the worst thing you can do: you don’t want to be those guys who are on the dance flooring not doing shit because they end up looking like creepers. You’re not a creeper, instead you are a dance machine.
Because you’re dancing RIGHT AWAY it should be easy for you to break into any social dance circle or approach the girl on the dance floor… again, it shows that you’re confident and ready for a good time.
Regardless of how you show it, girls are attracted to confidence
It’s a common belief that dancing replicates sex. This means that you have to treat it like sex, and like with every sexual interaction it is always wise to start with foreplay first: who wants to stick their penis into a dry vagina? OUCH.
So, it is best advised not to start with grinding. Now, I’m not saying “grinding” on the girl is a bad thing, I’m just saying that too many guys start off like that and it doesn’t really do anything for the girl. Yes, she might have fun, however there is no challenge for her and at the end of the day (most of the time) you just walk away with blue balls.
Also, what sucks about grinding is that 90% of the time she is grinding from her backside: the less likely you’ll be able to makeout with her when her body is facing away from you.
What Is Dance Floor Foreplay?
1. Dancing around her body while smiling and making great playful facial expressions
Since you can’t talk on the dance floor, animated facial expressions will pull the girl into your bubble.
2. Spin her around.
Go on the internet and learn tango, ballroom, waltz dance moves… It is very rare for a guy to spin the girl around to house or rap music. DO IT because it’s not only different, but many times she’ll see you as “cute.”
3. Pull her in, then push her away.
Once you get a good rhythm of being animated, spinning her around – start pulling her body into yours where you’re about to grind (or grinding for a few seconds) and then push her away. You want her to WANT to grind with you.
A Tip About Approaching A Girl On The Dance Floor
It’s good to dance with her friends or around her first before attacking her straight away. Think of it like any other approach: be forward yet mindful of the people around her.
If you did everything right above, then you should begin grinding. Remember that foreplay can range from 1 minute all the way to an hour. It’s all about feeling, but once you get a sign that she’s ready to grind… starting grinding.
Again, most guys let the girl grind while her face is pointed away from yours: this is bad. Instead, because she is HOT for you (foreplay), make sure you’re grinding face to face. You want every opportunity for her mouth to interlock with your mouth.
Even if you don’t makeout, the close interaction between you and her is a very intense experience that there is a very likely probability that she will do “something” with you later on. Albeit it getting your number, seeing you later that night, making out… this intensity is a good thing.
I’m not saying this is a full proof plan, but it comes close to one.
Believe it, many girls go to the club just to dance. They’re not looking to hook up with a guy, get a drink, or find their soulmate… they just want to dance. So, why not do the same?
There is no shame of having of the mentality: I JUST WANT TO DANCE.
I’ve found that when I go to a club for the sole purpose of dancing, I have so much fun: doesn’t matter if I pickup a girl or not, I’m having a blast. Personally, I think this is the main takeaway you should have when it comes to dancing in a club – who gives a shit and dance.
If you’re looking around to see if any girl is looking at you or you’re craving to be center stage, trust me, girls will see this and actually be turned off. It’s when you get lost in your own world that girls will just end up dancing with you because they don’t mind joining your world of fun.
I don’t care if you’re a bboy dancer or you have two left feet… Just dance, it’ll be okay.