In part one we talked about logistical steps, in part two we moved forward into approaching, and in part three we moved towards dancing. If you missed any of those past articles you can check them out there: [Part 1] [Part 2] [Part 3]
In this part we’re going to go over:
Buying Drinks & Moving Around The Club
The old adage goes, “you should never buy a girl a drink.” This is not necessarily true because there are times where buying her a drink is the right thing to do. However, you don’t want to be like those chumps who buy bottle service and comp girls just because they’re hot and then get nothing in return. And, when I mean nothing, I mean not even a handjob.
Besides, you don’t want girls to give you sexual action just because you gave them a drink; they’re called gold-diggers and not the best type of girls to be around.
There are a few ways to handle girls who ask or hint for a free drink.
Her: I’m drinking an iced vodka.
You: I’ll only buy you a drink if you make-out with me first.
The many times we’ve said this line the girl on the other end either laughs, likes your confidence and starts rapport, and in the best scenario starts making out with you. Now, just because she makes out with you doesn’t necessarily mean you have to buy her a drink.
You can then follow up with:
You: Nice. But how do I know you’re not into me just for the drink? Follow me, let’s get to know each other for a bit.
This is where you can lead her to the dance floor, a nearby lounge, the bathroom… and if she pushes you away, then at least you know she was just there for the drink.
Another line I like to use when it comes to drinks, is this:
You: How about you buy me a drink and I’ll buy you a drink as well?
Therefore, this shows how dynamically confident that you deserve a drink as well. The idea is to show the girl that you’re not going to be taken advantage of. Now, the drink you get her is totally up to you: you can get her a real drink or a glass of water… your choice.
The idea I want to hone down on is that everything you do, either be it picking up girls or everyday interactions, is to elicit some confident vibe: you should never be taken advantage because you have traits which stand out from the rest.
Moving Around The Club
I see too many guys going around the club with their heads facing down at the floor. They keep saying things like “Excuse me, sorry.” or “Umm Hi.” or even the dreaded “….”
Silence isn’t always a bad thing, but walking around the club with a pout or creepy face as you’re trying to look for some hot girl to approach is… well, needy and disgusting.
The best route to take is to have your neck up and your chest out. Confidence, remember to be confident that you belong in the club, that girls will find you attractive, and that you shouldn’t be pushed back… you got this player.
And, own the club and move forward like nothing is holding you back. These are a few lines I like to use while going through the club:
“Excuse me, there is a very cute girl over there that I need to talk to.” This line has not only gotten people to part ways but sometimes even helps me bring the girl closer to my direction.
“Excuse me, men coming through.” This line is a fun thing to say because it projects the dominant vibe you have over the club. Many times, I get girls to laugh and even head in my direction because of what I just said. Yes, sometimes the line works as a great opener.
“I’m moving around the club to look for my friends and a hot girl in the corner, but hold my hand for a second and dance with me.” When you move around the club with confidence, your eyes will be more attuned to your surroundings and you will bump into hot girls.
And, instead of just walking off, this is the perfect opportunity to approach them: telling them the truth that you seriously accidentally bumped into her.
The point of this is not to give you specific lines to use all the time, as you know we’re not fond of pre-conceived pick up lines. However, these lines should be helpful to give you guidance on how you should be approaching these situations. And, of course, save you some money and dignity.
Don’t forget to leave your questions and comments below: especially on any issues you’re dealing with at the club