Most guys who get the girl’s number only correspond with her through text. In order to stand out, you must CALL the girl. Guys know this intuitively, but why don’t they do it?
It takes real confidence to call a girl and balls not to hide behind a text. It also takes risk to think on your toes, instead of taking the time to craft the perfect text.
You’re probably asking “What do I say?” or “How do I make the conversation last?” Don’t worry, we got your back. Here are a few tips to make it easier for you to start a conversation with a girl on the phone.
The Pre-Call: Your Voicemail
Before you call a girl, you want to make sure your own voicemail game is on point. You want to make sure she hears something that inclines her to leave a voice message if you don’t pick up. A voice message from her gives you more of a reason to call her back. For example, this is my voice message:
“Hello, you’ve reached Jason’s voicemail. Say something clever or ask him a question so we”ll have something to talk about when he calls you back.”
Do you know many girls have laughed and given me a fun brain teaser after they heard my voice message? I do this because when I call her back I want to make sure there is no excuse for silence.
A successful phone conversation is where you and her are always engaged to whoever is talking.
Silence will force her to say, “Alright, that was nice… I have to go.”
When to Call
You should call whenever you want to hear her voice. Well, maybe not every time. But, I’ll illustrate some examples in case you need the play-by-play.
Calling her right after you get her phone number
I like to call her the day I get her number because you’ll still be on her mind. When she answers, you both can start the conversation where you left off. “So you were saying you were locked up in that cage for how long?”
Sunday – Wednesdays
The best days to call a girl is from Sunday – Wednesday. Thursday – Saturdays are normally days where people go out and socialize. You’re gonna seem like a loner if you call her for an hour long conversation on a Saturday night. In addition, you’re more likely to reach her voicemail on the weekends.
Send Her a Text Beforehand
If your phone is next to your body when you suddenly receive a text from her, reply back, “I’m going to call you in a second.” Then, after a few minutes pick up your phone and call. She not only expects your call but this technique works best when you’re driving. Remember, CALLING & DRIVING > TEXTING & DRIVING.
You just saved a life. Probably your own.
Setup a Time While You’re Getting her Number
Before you leave your interaction with her, setup a time when you’ll call her. “I’m going to give you a call on Sunday at 7pm PST, so leave your phone on.” Again, this makes her expect your call and decreases any anxiety or awkwardness you’ll have before dialing.
You’re Ready to Call Her
I see so many guys throw a temper tantrum when they hear her ringtone. *Ring* *Ring* *Ring!* They don’t want her to answer, instead their facial expression screams out,
PLEASE DON’T ANSWER! I HOPE IT’S A MESSAGE MACHINE SO I CAN HANG UP!
Take a breath and think positively because this is chump-like mentality. Besides, you should never hang up if you’re calling for the first time.
IF YOU’RE CALLING FOR THE TIME, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE.
Leaving a message gives her an incentive to call you back. It also gives her an opportunity to hear your voicemail greeting if you miss her call. (Hey, you didn’t record a voice message for nothing after all!)
Leaving The Voicemail
It can range from asking her a question she must answer, to saying something completely off the wall to intrigue her to call you back. Here are a few examples:
1) “I really don’t want to match when we go out, what are you wearing on our date?”
2) “Hello. This is your voicemail, so this is my voice message, call me at *your number*.”
Yes, you can bluntly say “call me back.”
WARNING: Be careful saying “call me back WHEN YOU CAN.” Those last three words can mean she can call back 1 minute to 300 years later. If you want her to give you a call between certain hours of the day, TELL HER.
When do you call her back after the voicemail?
If she doesn’t call you back, give it a few days and try again.
She Picks Up the Phone
If she picks up you have to figure out why you’re calling. You don’t want this conversation to be:
Her: Who’s this?
You: It’s Jason.
Her: What’s up?
You: OH GOD! *hangs up*
Continuing the Conversation
Most guys will start getting into interview mode: “Where you from?” “What do you want to do?” “How many siblings do you have?” Which makes it easy for her to respond in one word answers, “My mother’s uterus.” “Go to sleep.” “I’m an orphan.” Instead, talk about the things that interest you.
Think about the last time you had a long conversation with one of your good friends. You don’t know really know what was said, all you know is it was fluid, fun, and the time passed by quickly. This is the same mentality you should have when talking to her. Stop thinking about what to say next. Instead, just start talking.
You can be random or straightforward or tell a story like you’ve known her forever. And she’ll reciprocate.
Listen to Her
Yes, you’re talking and she’s intrigued, but don’t forget to listen to her. You’re not a dancing monkey. Push her to talk and tell you about her life. If you don’t know anything about her, how can you figure out a date spot that you’ll both enjoy?
If she tells you she loves tennis, now you have an excuse to setup a tennis match. If she tells you she loves shoving things in her mouth, then now you know she’s down to gorge your… homemade cake that you baked. Also, if her interests don’t match yours, then you can weed her out as a potential mate.
Ending the Conversation
All good things have to come to an end. As much as you both want to talk forever, it’s not possible. This is why during the conversation tell her when the conversation will end: “I like talking to you, but I know you have an orthodontist appointment for your crooked teeth tomorrow, so let’s give it ten more minutes and we’ll talk more when we meet up this weekend.”
Yes, make it explicit that you will see her (in real life) before you hang up the phone. Remember, regardless how long you want to talk to her, the ending motive of the phone conversation is to see her again. You want to go on a date with her, and the phone conversation is the catapult to get you there.
You got this. Now pick up the phone and call her.
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