In today’s time, most guys who get the girl’s number only corespond with her through text. However, to be different you should actually CALL the girl. I know many guys know this to be a basic concept, but why don’t they do it?
They don’t do it because it takes real confidence to call a girl, it takes balls not to hide your voice behind a text, it takes risk to think on the spot instead of taking the time to respond wittingly, and it takes a real guy to attract a girl on the phone.
If you’re scared because of these reasons: “What do I say?” “How do I make the conversation last?” Don’t worry, we got your back. Here are a few tips to make it easier for you to start a conversation with a girl on the phone.
The Pre-Call: Your Voice Mail
Before you even begin to call a girl, you want to make sure your own voicemail is setup. You want to make sure she hears something that inclines her to leave a voice message if you don’t pick up. A voice message from her gives you more of a reason for you to call her back. For example, this is my voice message:
“Hello, you’ve reached Jason’s voicemail. Say something clever or ask him a question so we”ll have something to talk about when he calls you back.”
Do you know many girls have laughed and given me a fun brain teaser after they heard my voice message? I do this because when I call her back I want to make sure there is no excuse for silence.
A successful phone conversation is where you and her are always engaged to whoever is talking.
Silence will force her to say, “Alright, that was nice… I have to go”
When to Call
You should call whenever you want to hear her voice. But, I’ll write up a few points just in case you’re hesitant to see if you should call her at 4am while you’re lying on your bed – with your pants off – lotion on the nightstand – thinking of her.
Calling her right after you get her phone number
I like to call her the day I get her number because she will still have you on her mind. When she answers your call you both can start the conversation where you left off when you first met: “So you were saying you were locked up in that cage for how long?”
Sunday – Wednesdays
The best days to call a girl is from Sunday – Wednesday. Thursday – Saturdays are normally days where people go out and socialize. You’ll more likely to seem like a loner if you call her for an hour long conversation on a Saturday night. In addition, you’re more likely to reach her voicemail on the weekends.
Send Her a Text Beforehand
If your phone is next to your body when you suddenly receive a text from her, reply back, “I’m going to call you in a second.” Then, after a few minutes pick up your phone and dial the number! She not only expects your call but this technique works best when you’re driving. Remember, CALLING & DRIVING > TEXTING & DRIVING.
I just saved your life.
Setup a Time while you’re Getting her Number
Before you leave your pick up session with her, you can setup a time when you’ll call her; “I’m going to give you a call on Sunday at 7pm PST, so leave your phone on.” Again, this makes her expect your call, which decreases any anxiety or awkwardness you’ll have when you dial her number.
You’re ready to call her
I see so many guys throw a temper tantrum when they hear her ringtone. *Ring* *Ring* *Ring!* They don’t want her to answer, instead their facial expression screams out,
PLEASE DON’T ANSWER! I HOPE IT’S A MESSAGE MACHINE SO I CAN HANG UP!
Take a breath and think positively because this is chump-like mentality. Besides, you should never hang up if you’re calling for the first time.
IF YOUR CALLING FOR THE TIME, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS LEAVE A VOICE MESSAGE.
Leaving a message gives her an incentive to call you back. And, it also gives her an opportunity to listen to your voice message if you miss her call when she calls you back (you didn’t make a voice message for nothing).
Leaving the voicemail
It can range from asking her a question which she must answer, to saying something completely off the wall to intrigue her to call you back. Here are a few examples:
i. “I really don’t want to match when we go out, what are you wearing on our date?”
ii. “Hello. This is your voicemail, so this is my voice message, call me at *your number*.”
Yes, you can bluntly say “call me back.”
WARNING: Be careful saying “call me back WHEN YOU CAN.” Those last three words can mean she can call back 1 minute to 365 years later. If you want her to give you a call between certain hours of the day, TELL HER.
When do you call her back after the voicemail?
If she doesn’t call you back, give it a few days and try again.
She Picks Up the Phone
If she picks up you have to figure out why you’re calling. You don’t want this conversation to be:
Her: Who’s This
You: It’s Jason
Her: What’s up?
You: OH GOD! *hangs up*
If You Want to get to Know Her
Tell Her: “I’m calling to tell you a little something about me, then the same from you, and we’ll start there.” Believe it or not, honesty is a very attractive quality for a girl.
If you want to Invite Her to the Party you Talked About
Tell Her: “I’m headed to the party and I’m wearing blue, where am I picking you up again?
If you want a One Night Stand
Tell Her: “ME SO HORNY!”
Of course, these are just guidelines and should be said in relation to your personality
Continuing the Conversation
Most guys will start getting into interview mode: “Where you from?” “What do you want to do?” “How many siblings do you have?” Which makes it easy for her to respond in one word answers, “My mother’s uterus” “Take a poo” “I’m an orphan.” Instead, talk about the things you found most enjoyable about her or the entertaining subject you had with her the first time you met.
Think about This
Think about the last time you had a long conversation with one of your good friends. You don’t know really know what was said, all you know is it was fluid, fun, and the time passed by quickly. This is the same mentality you should have when talking to her. Stop thinking about what to say next, instead just start talking.
You can be random, you can be straight forward, you can tell her a story, just talk like you’ve known her forever. And, she’ll reciprocate by doing the same.
Please Listen to Her
Yes, you’re talking and she’s intrigued, but don’t forget to listen to her. You’re not a circus prop where you’re supposed to be entertaining her 24/7. Push her to talk, to tell you about her life. If you don’t know anything about her then how can you bounce off ideas to figure out a place where you both can meet up?
If she tells you she loves tennis, now you have an excuse to setup a tennis match. If she tells you she loves shoving things in her mouth, then now you know she’s down to gorge your… homemade cake that you baked. Also, if her interests don’t match yours, then you can weed her out as a potential mate (if you want).
Friendzoned vs Sexual Partner Conversation
The main difference is throwing out direct sexual innuendos and planning out future dates during the conversation. Subtly telling her you’ll bring chapstick or (anal beads) the next time you meet is a perfectly good example. Always be confident about your sexual innuendos. Make it obvious that your next interaction will be sexual, don’t say it like it’s joke. It’s not.
Ending the Conversation
If the conversation is about getting to know her…
All good things have to come to an end. As much as you both want to talk forever, it’s not possible. This is why during the conversation tell her when the conversation will end: “I like talking to you, but I know you have an orthodontist appointment for your crooked teeth tomorrow, so let’s give it ten more minutes and we’ll talk when we meet up this weekend.”
Yes, make it explicit that you will see her (in real life) before you hang up the phone. Remember, regardless how long you want to talk to her the ending motive of the phone conversation is to see her again. You want to go on a date with her, and the phone conversation is the catapult to get you there.
You got this, now pick up the phone and call her.
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