Ever since our article, how to talk to a girl on the phone, we’ve been getting many questions about what to say when the phone call leads to her voicemail. It can be a difficult task because how do you a leave a voice message where you don’t sound needy, creepy, or too contrived for her to call you back?
I remember back when I first started leaving voice messages; I would stutter and often times just hang up the phone hoping she would see the “missed call” and call me back (which rarely happened).
Now, what I’m about tell you are statements I’ve used that have worked a huge percentage of the time. I understand our method is to side step any pre-conceived pick up lines, so I ask that you take what I’m about to tell you as guidelines for your next voice messages. Remember, no one knows you better than yourself, so leave a voice message that pertains to your own creativity and voice.
But, before we go into these statements, let’s go through why leaving a voice message is important.
Why Leaving A Voicemail Message Is Important
1. Most guys don’t leave voice messages, so this will make you stand out from the rest.
2. You’re putting yourself in a vulnerable situation because you’re doing something where she is the one who decides whether to call you back or not. But, by leaving a strong message, you’re basically saying that “I’m not here to play games” & “I’m confident that you will call me back.”
3. If the voice message is memorable / funny / awesome, there is a high chance she’ll save it on her phone. You don’t know how many girls I’ve been with who have told me that they still keep my voice message and listen to it when they need a quick laugh.
4. It’s fun to do for yourself because you have free rein to be as creative as you want with your voice message. And, there is absolutely no one stopping you or halting your conversation during the voice message.
Now that you understand why it’s important, there are also a few things you must remember before we get into these statements. I want you to make sure that you’re not just saying these lines just to say them; you need to say them with passion and a whole range of different tonalities.
Remember These Things While The Phone Is Ringing
She can’t see your face when you’re calling, but when you smile it will reflect in your tone of voice. If you call and you sound like a sad depressed ogre, then that’s the vision she’ll have in her head. And, if you’re having issues smiling, watch a funny clip on the internet that makes you laugh and then call her right then and there.
Practice Your Speech
If you stutter or slur your words, then start practicing how you speak. My favorite exercise is to read out loud in front of a mirror for 15 minutes a day. You may look like a dummy, but in the long run it’ll help you with your articulation.
Learn To Pause
Sometimes the greatest way to pull someone in to your voice is by pausing. What do I mean? As you’re talking, pause for a brief second during your sentence and then continue. The pause creates a sense of curiosity for the person listening, and they’re more likely to want to hear more.
Try it yourself by recording a fake voice message and listen to how pausing helps.
Lastly, if you want to practice the above steps, it’s crucial to record yourself and re-listen to see if the voice message is clear, articulate, fun, and enticing.
The Best Voicemails To Leave On A Girl’s Phone
If It’s Late & You Want To See Her
“Hey *Girl’s Name,* it’s Jesse (pause). I’m calling you at this late hour because (pause) something reminded me of you, it’s just… what I do (smile). Give me a call at 555-555-5555, talk to you soon”
The line, “something reminded me of you,” can get her curiosity boiling.
“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. Most guys call at this late hour because they think you’re a booty call (pause). Don’t worry, I can relate (or insert your own joke here and laugh). Call me back at 555-555-5555 to talk things through.”
This one is just more fun. And, yes you can be very creative with your joke here: make it up and improv your line that you want to use.
“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. I’m not drunk right now. Period. Give me call…”
This is something I use a lot because I find it very funny.
Calling To Plan A Date (or just met)
“Hey *Girl’s Name*, it’s Jesse. Let’s go out this weekend, I have some free time to *do what you said you were going to do when you first met.* Call me at 777-777-7777
Again, you’re reminding her of something you said you were going to do with her when you first met. This is reconfirming that you’re thinking of her and you were actually listening to her when you first met.
“Hey *Girl’s Name*, I’m sitting on the toilet as I’m calling you. Give me a call back”
“Hey *Girl’s Name*, *make your own joke here as well*”
Do you understand the dynamic here? The point of the voice message is to be creative with what you’re going to say and make sure you understand a few points: i) make it seem like you were thinking of her (it makes her feel special) ii) say things about your past conversations so she knows you were listening to her iii) there is a reason why you’re calling her… usually to hang out in real life.
Remember, the reason why you leave voice messages is so she calls you back. If she doesn’t, then at least you don’t have to worry about calling her again; it’s not ambiguous. But, if she does call back, it means there is a higher probability that she wants to see you again. This weeds out the girls who don’t mesh well with you (saving time).
There is no need to call her again because the ball is in her court. Be patient and use the extra time to pick up other girls.
Now, when she does call you back, don’t forget to read this article on what to say over the phone.
It’s time you get yourself together and just start calling.
You got this.