You get her number, you’re brave enough to call it, the conversation goes past the fluff talk, and you’re getting the vibe that she likes you. So, with a deep breath you push your proposal.
“I’m going to pick you up this Friday at 7pm. We’ll go out and eat someone’s food.”
“Okay. I’ll see you then.”
WHAT!? You can’t believe it; you even give yourself a congratulatory high-five for your efforts. But then, you realize you have no fucking idea what you got yourself into. Now what?
Preparation
1. Take a shit
Before you leave the house it’s crucial you take a shit. Arriving at her house, or worse, having to shit at your date location, can be time consuming. So take a shit, I don’t care if you pop a blood vessel, push as hard as you can.
2. Pack a Condom(s) in your Pocket
Don’t sell yourself short; you have to motivate yourself that this date will end well. What better way than by prepping yourself against STDs and babies.
3. Know your Directions
Don’t be an idiot and get lost during the date. Fix your GPS, bring an atlas, just do whatever it takes so she knows you’re not Helen Keller.
4. Save your Money
Make a monetary budget for the night. There are so many girls in this world and if you paid for each date you’ll be a broke ass man. Be smart and save your money. What we like to do is withdraw $60 (or less) from the bank and leave our debit card in the house.
This mentality allows us to limit our spending and gets us to be more creative in the locations we pick.
Location, Location, Location
You’re prepared and ready to have a fun night with her, but you’re just staring at this article because you need a deeper understanding of where to go.
1. Shuffle Her Around
Shuffling is a term we use often at Simple Pickup.
Basically, you want to pick various locations she can go with you so the date doesn’t get boring. Psychological research states that you create more prominent memories when you travel. This means, in this one date, she’ll be sharing a shitload of awesome memories with you when you shuffle her around.
Examples include, going to a place where there are more things to do than just eat. Driving somewhere and then jumping out of the car to walk through a fire trail.
2. Pick a Place where You can Have a Conversation
The music, the DJ, the band, and any other ambiance from a club or concert will only distract her from you. The attention span of a person, let alone a girl, is like mosquito transfixed to a light bulb.
You don’t want her to multi task, her main focus should be on you.
3. Avoid Group Dates
Unless you’re in middle school or you all made a signed agreement to partake in an orgy, this is a stupid idea. Remember, her body should not be touched by anyone else during the date.
Touching
Though we’ll get into more detail of how to touch a girl, here are some basic principles.
1. Touch her Right Away
Touching her boobs in the first 2 minutes isn’t the best idea. But, push yourself out there and give her a hug. Nothing says I’m an insecure wimp than NOT touching her, or worse, shaking her hand.
2. Hold her Hand
When do you hold her hand? The motto is this: If you feel like you should hold her hand, take the initiative to make the first step to play with her fingers, with your fingers. You can play with her fingers using different body parts later.
What Now
You’re thinking about the Ice Cream shop and the Oregon Trail you have planned for her, when suddenly you realize that you’re in front of her door. You begin to ask yourself:
How do I act? What do I say? How do I make sure she’s going to have a good time?
Easy. Inhale and exhale. Remember, she gave you her phone number and was excited enough to accept this date. She already likes you, so act the same way as how she met you on the fateful night near the dumpster of the homeless shelter. She wants the player who made her laugh and surprised her with his presence. So get out there and knock on her door. It’s time for your first date.
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What up,
I really like your articles. It is so good to know that these texts are " 'baws-approved' by SPU".
Even though you have the article "What to talk about with a girl you just met" I would love to read an article on "What to SAY on a first date", or how to get it to "the next level". Even though I use ALL the tips from "What to talk about with a girl you just met", I does not seem to be enough to make her really interested in me, see me again or let alone sleep with me on the same day even though I usually end up making out with her.
I cannot get rid of the feeling that I am always just scratching the surface and that there should be more, some kind of Super Saijyan-US-mentality and deep connection where i.e the girl doesn't have bad conscience sleeping with me.
Usually, during dates, my girls appear quiet, passive and as though somehow in thoughts. But maybe it's just my imagination.
Anyway, thank you for the free articles I am looking forward to seeing more in the future.
Best wishes
What up,
I really like your articles. It is so good to know that these texts are " 'baws-approved' by SPU".
Even though you have the article "What to talk about with a girl you
just met" I would love to read an article on "What to SAY on a first
date", or how to get it to "the next level". Even though I use ALL the
tips from "What to talk about with a girl you just met", I does not seem
to be enough to make her really interested in me, see me again or let
alone sleep with me on the same day even though I usually end up making
out with her.
I cannot get rid of the feeling that I am always just scratching the
surface and that there should be more, some kind of Super
Saijyan-US-mentality and deep connection where i.e the girl doesn't have
bad conscience sleeping with me.
Usually, during dates, my girls appear quiet, passive and as though somehow in thoughts. But maybe it's just my imagination.
Anyway, thank you for the free articles I am looking forward to seeing more in the future.
Best wishes
Same here for Me
articles/videos + failures = success. tone down on article reading. fail more. fail often.
Thank you for the answer. I DO get out a lot, like every second/third day, yet now I just realized that I lack the ability of self reflection. I hit the same wall a thousand times and still don't get it. I do not mind failing, it's just that I cannot make an educative experience out of it.
A suggestion that would really help me (maybe others as well): An article on how to reflect i.e. what to look at, a concept of trial and error, how to approach your sticking points, what questions should you ask yourself when something does not work (i.e is it just the girl, is it me, or was everything right and I just failed to convey it right; how to tell the difference?).
Anyway, your tip "Continue if she smiles" is gold and helped me a lot.
Could you give some examples the locations of first dates besides the park and ice cream?
starbucks. ur car. ur grandma's house…
have sex on the first date its also a good idea, it shows that your own with it.
getting stds on the first date is fun too.
Should we kiss on the first date? how?
wrong question to ask. the right question: how the fuck do i make this fun
+ Texting ARTICLE WILL BE THE BEST IDEA (PLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSEEEEEEE)
Thanks for all the articles, they're real gooood!!!
we're working on it. in the meantime, share our shit.
In my experience, you should kiss her during second or third date. You usually go on a date two times per week, so after week it is a perfect time to kiss her. Sex has to come after two weeks, so basically after fourth or fifth date. But this comes from my own experience and every meeting or every date is unique.
Also, I want to say a HUGE THANK YOU to Simple Pickup team, because their advices are really helpful! Thank you so much for what you guys are doing!
Hope that you will continue this work; it is really useful for guys like us.
like it? share it.
Wow! Thanks a lotI got a new question! "you know when I stop girls to talk to them, most of them get scared on that first 5 seconds of interaction which makes a huge bad impact on the rest of interaction. more than half of them loose the scariness after i talk for a few sentences. but still there are those who stay very scared(Asian Culture!) till the end of interaction.and I always stop them at the maximum gentle level.but they still get scared…Is there any suggestions from you guys on that FIRST SENTENCE to stop a girl with less probability of her getting all scared and stuff? "
real heros you guys! :X
OMG. Good at writing as well?? not fair
What if you dont have a job or a car
You can walk.
that surprises me you said that. i though you would suggest to take a bus or a cab.
"her body should not be touched by anyone else during the date."
What about if you take her to dance lessons, where people dance with many different partners throughout the night (thought you keep going back to who you came in with).
This could be looked on as an exception. In general, you want to be touching her the most during the night.
Should you pay for the food?or does she have to Pay for her own food??
ofc you should pay for her food .. letting her pay would in no possible way, make you look good
I actually never payed for a girls drink/order, she never let me.
What's with that? Or she just wanted me to know she can handle her own shit…
you pay for her. You invited her, so you pay. Simple concept really.
Amazing work on this guys! I'll be able to put this to good use hopefully this Friday if everything goes according to plan. Then improve upon the next one! Thanks! Well said.
The thing with me is i'm always paying for the girl. I've never exceeded $60…yet. Now i'll try and keep a limit in mind. In the meantime…guess i'm just too big of a gentleman. :') Hope that's what you'd call it!
ok so lets say everything goes well you both had a good time yada yada etc. so do u still keep in touch with her after? or do you stop talking to her and move on cuz you want to charm other women??
If you like her than take her out again! if not, then fuck it..
Is sex on the first date possible?
Yes, yes it is
And how does having drinks on the beach sound as a first date?
That sound like i really good idea ! You dont HAVE to do a shit ton of stuff on a first date, a drink/dinner on the beach can be just as good..
What if she said yes and you suggested a date but she said she didn't have time there and was going to tell you when she was available… and now one week later you didn't hear from her. What do? Just move on?
that sounds like you did something wrong during the between time. What did you do?
Brilliant!
Awesome read. Thanks!
love it!
very interesting and actually funny
Those articles were a good idea! Thumbs up from Poland EU. Now i know there's a must to shoot out crap before date, no holding. Keep this up guys.
I want moaar! Give me moar articles!!
From this girl's perspective: NOTHING makes a date better than a good conversation. No matter what kind of tricks you use or don't use, if you connect, you connect.
Bitchin'!
TAKE A SHIT! LOL! I love it! I never know what yall are gonna say next!
I'm a girl and I think this is AMAZING. There is nothing more irritating than having to wear the pants on a date.
Take a shit and push as hard as you can but not for too long unless you want to provoke to yourself hemorrhoids… seriously
I got a date tonight all thanks to you guys!
Great article guys.
I asked a girl out, she was like '' hmm maybe '' how can i get her sofar she will go out with me?
"maybe" means:" Damn yes! I actually love to, but i can't say, cause *insert random cause which absolutely doesn't count as a cause*
she never gave a 'cause' reason she just talked like '' uhm i dontknowww '' and then randomly start talking about other subject
well bro thats actualy happend to me she said maby and folowed it up with a no 2 days later but its cool so best of luck man
so i just need to keep stalking it and then she says yes? :O
my bst bet is for you to let it go shes just leading you on. i had a problem like that as well and it turned out that she was talking to another guy so shes either talking to another guy and you can try and be more spontaneous than him and awesome or you can not waste your time and pick up another girl
dude, bitches play hard-to-get sometimes. When you let go, they want you back. Bitches are fucking weird and crazy like that. She played hard-to-get on you and then you should play the game to her. She will eventually jump on you. If the timing isn't right then you just need to move on.
Thats nice guys
the thing im more concerned about is location. you talked about having a good location, but what would one such location be? a bar, a restaurant, a park? I truly have no idea, any help appreciated. restaurant seems a bit cliché.
just do something you like / she likes, for it is bowling, its fun, active and ALMOST every 1 likes it
sense halloween is coming up a haunted house is a great place but make sure their are things around it or you have something to do before or after like ice cream or at IN-N-OUT and get a candle app and put it on the table where you're going to eat. she will think its cheesy although cute and your also not wasting a lot of money. remember you want to shuffle her.
OH, I thought you meant take a shit before I continue reading.. Solid advice regardless, I feel much better.
What if you're 16? Lol I can only spend like 30$ Maybe go to the park and play guitar for her? too early idk haha
park and picnic it… be creative
Is there a difference in a "hangout"? or is it the same as a date, because i asked a girl out on a date today and she responded with "Can't date but i'm up for a hangout
".
I don't get it…
Maybe she doesn't want to establish it as a date because she isn't sure she likes you enough yet. Never the less, you should still accept that and try to take advantage of it. Flirt with her and be nice and hopefully she'll have a good time even though it was just a 'hang out'
Maybe her parents say she can't date until she's X years old. It's difficult to break through that preconceived notion if she's held it for a long time.
Worst case scenario, she can't date because she already has a boyfriend. Either way you're pretty fucked.
Another thing it could mean is she has you stuck in the friend zone, if she does you are fucked there are ways of getting out of it but it is complicated, My advice is get over it and move on to the next one but to answer your question yes there is a big difference between a hangout and a date.
Chloe Conrad
So this what happen. I like this girl from my school she is a adorable and cute. I have gone like get a lunch with her two times already
She's testing your reaction,, act like it doesn't bother you
I met this girl in school from another class for quite some time now and I find her really attractive and nice. I dont really see her much now but we do keep in touch on and off via facebook and twitter. I've never made any move on her yet because i was too much of a pussy. But now, i want to. What should i do or say? It'll be really weird if i suddenly ask her out eh?
No it's not! just do it. Show her that you are a BAWS and want to date her! Just do it and get laid!!
lol go get her playa
This was informative & hilarious. Great job guys.
well i met this chick at my work and i occasionally see her, shes really quiet, but im not sure if i should ask her out while we're working or when i have a day off, come in and ask her out?
the best advise i can give you is to talk to her right away. if your 21 ask her if she would like to grab a drink after work that helps. otherwise ask her out to dinner.
PLEASE! Make the kiss video, thats the only step i need to do, do finnaly date with this girl at my school that i really like. PLEASE!
You just go for it and see how she reacts. The hardest part is convincing yourself to move in for it.
How do I get a girl to the date place without a car? I've no drivers license.
same question,i am a college guy and i dont have a vehicle and i live in a small city dont really have a lot of fun places to go,where should i take her always troubles me.
I have the same problem man. The thing is, if you don't talk about it the girl is going to find a way to get there. Just be like: "Great I'll see you there at x?" And then she's going to figure out a way to get there. As for the small town problem, be creative! If you do random things that you think are fun then at the very least you are going to have a fun time during the date. She's supposed to get to know you so think about what you like. For example: I once started talking to a girl and we were walking and we came across this kid's park with a slide and stuff and we just went there. It's not about WHERE you go, it's about how much fun you can have.
The problem isn't asking the girl on a date for me, the problem is where to go. You say shuffle, you say bring them to places to have conversations. Where else can I go besides a tapioca joint and starbucks? Sometimes because I don't know where to take a girl, i dont even ask a girl out..
Just take her to a coffee shop, and after that for a walk.. A park or something like that.
And dont fart….lol
the shuffling thing really works!!!!!! holy crap!
I have big problem . I have been in relationship with her 7 days , and unfortunatelly relationship is broken . I don't know why , she didn't tell me reason . That relationship was 3 months ago and after it i'm really sad . What to do please help ? I have talked with her , and i ask her to get out , to dinner . She won't , she tells me , why to do that … I can't go over it , if fu*** up .
F.T.O.W = fuck ten other women
If you still love her after banging and hanging around with 10 other ladies try again to get her back.
Getting dumped is not the end of the world, in 4-5 weeks you've probably already forgotten that she exists…
It's been 4 months since relationship is broken , and I'm felling something to her . I have tried 1 week ago to get out with her , she want it , but with her friends , I want her alone . I have tried to get out to shopping , she tells me : ''go with other friends or your girlfriend'' , but I don't have girlfriend and she knows that .
I have big problem . I have been in relationship with her 7 days , and
unfortunatelly relationship is broken . I don't know why , she didn't
tell me reason . That relationship was 3 months ago and after it i'm
really sad . What to do please help ? I have talked with her , and i ask
her to get out , to dinner . She won't , she tells me , why to do that
… I can't go over it , i'm fu*** up .
Listen, when girl leaves you it's not the end of the world, i know, it's a little bit sad, but get over it and continue living, there are bunch of awesome girls waiting for you outside… If she left you it means she did not like you. If you was yourself, you wasn't acting – it's cool, but if you was polite and gentle because was afraid to fail, you was an unconfident pussy, girls doesn't like it.
I was totally relaxed , maybe she love bad guys , i have read it yesterday on other forums… I'm very good guy with girls , maybe that's problem .
Being a "good guy" with girls is not a problem AT ALL. That's one of these bullshit things pua's wanna try to tell you. Being a pussy when you're hanging around with chicks is one, but almost everyone thinks it's exactly the same, but it's not. I'm the nicest guy in the world and I get more pussy than I can satisfy…
You've always to remember that there are certain points in a relationship/date/interaction where you have to get your dick out and slap it directly in the girls face (I mean that emblematical, of course) that she _knows_ that there's a man behind the curtain who will pull her hair in bed from time to time and give it her like a crazy rabbit on XTC from behind when she needs it. No man can be a badass like tommy lee jones or ubercool like johnny depp, trying will automatically result in huge failure…
ask for advice in a pua forum and describe it there, no chance to handle that problem in the comment section
gl.
Thanks for all and I will try on pua forums to describe my problems
i'm new to this guys, please help i took her out on a date and i was a chump i said a few good things but that was it. i had a few opportunities but i failed. we go to different schools and i only see her after practice, does she see me as a friend or can i still fix this please help.
You know what buddy? "A few good things" are a few good things most of any other guys are not able to accomplish in a date.. You were a chump? So be it. Who the fuck cares.
I don't know your girl: how hot & confident she's with that, how many boyfriends & dates she has beside you, etc.
Had you a few honest laughs at your date with her? Were you able to get a flowing conversation going on? Same interests etc.? You get the point.
One of my friends just told me minutes ago when I asked him for an advice how to get an animal-loving chick into my zone that he kicked a pigeon on one of his first dates with his now animal-loving girlfriend.
You can fix everything. Everything. Even to get out the fucking friendzone when it happens from time to time…
Just call her tomorrow after school if "shes up to grabbing some food in the evening with you, you would love to see her again, but later that evening you have to go to a birthday" or something like that. Thats good for her because she doesn't has to be afraid that she will lose a saturday night out with her girls, she'll just have a snack with you for an hour or two.. You escalate the shit out of her, try to kiss her, *bam* #successonthe2nddate
what up players? Yesterday I had a double date, and we all 4 fucking got drunk. Is it ok? because I can't remember about 50% of night. Or I shouldn't drink durning the first date? I think it's wrong because I felt really bad and went puking into restaurants' toilet. Have you guys had any experience like this? Please share.
First: Did she know you went to puke? If not, be sly man! I don't know where you picked her up but I picked up this girl once at a club and I was kinda wasted at the time. So it doesn't necessarily mean you fucked up.
Hello guys! I love you! No homo. Would yo talk in a video or make any article about where to take her in a first date? Thank you!
How do you end a date if you can't have sex do to you're religion?
What is your religion
easy. change your religion.
what if the date goes really well and when its all over she starts blowing up your phone saying that she wants to go out with you and wants a serious relationship? but you dont wanna take it there because you still wanna be single and meet other girls….do you stop texting her or what?
just freindzone her
Im actually in the same situation right now. i set up a date, but originally i didnt even really care about gettin her number in the first place i was usin her as practice to test out some simple tips…. it worked…. alittle TOO well actually. Now shes like addicted (mostly because i was the first guy to ever approach her with CONFIDENCE since she got to this state), and me being a nice guy at heart caring about peoples feelings, i got this monkey in the back of my head tellin me "your an asshole if u dont get with her" BUT at the same time… im not that into her, and i still want to meet other girls to get MORE practice. So im right there wit ya in spirit bro. That bein said the only way i can think of is tellin her either, i dont have time for serious relationships at the moment essentially because i wouldnt be able to effectively committ because of my schedule but anything else we can deffinatly work out, or that i simply dont like her as much as id like 2 and id still like to see and experience new things with new people and i cant do that in a committed relationship…..but i dont know if that sounds too harsh or too much like a wimp so id love to get feed back as well. Also i have this feeling that karma is gonna fk wit me later on when i least expect it cuz of it. End Result: Idk, they should do a simple tips video on it tho deffinatly